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10 Ways To Be A Person Who Is Loved By Everyone

Do people feel comfortable and satisfied when they are around you? Or appreciated, understood and accepted by you?

By rohail khanPublished 2 years ago 8 min read
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10 Ways To Be A Person Who Is Loved By Everyone
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Sympathetic people know how to make others like them. They understand how important it is to present themselves as genuine and willing to connect. If you do, people will see you as someone they want to chat with and hang out with.

You may think that charismatic people are born like that, but the truth is, like any other skill, likeability can be learned and developed. We share with you 10 ways to be that friendly and sympathetic person that everyone wants to know better and feel comfortable with.

1. Have a friendly and open demeanor.

The fastest way to lose your sympathy is to act fake, cold, or indifferent. You may not have a negative or disinterested personality. But in some social situations, you may naturally feel a little uncomfortable and timid.

But remember that other people are trying to read you. If you unintentionally introduce yourself as an introvert or arrogant, no one will be dying to get to know you. Tear down your walls and never be afraid to be yourself.

Be aware of how you present yourself to others and do your best to cultivate an outgoing, friendly demeanor. Reflect your personality in the best possible way and practice how to talk to people around you, both with your speech and with your gestures and facial expressions. smile. Make eye contact.

Nod your head to indicate you're listening. If someone is talking to you, lean towards them. People pay more attention to people who feel friendly and comfortable. So don't be afraid to be yourself. Remember, it's more about what your body says than what comes out of your mouth.

2.Listen first, then speak.

Often times, when talking to others, we rush to get a chance to speak. When someone else is speaking, we only listen to half of what is being said without thinking about how to respond. By being too hasty to engage in the conversation, we often miss a chance to connect with the other person.

If you interrupt a conversation, you may make the other person feel that you are blocking their conversation before they can fully explain themselves.

Treat the person you are talking to as if you are talking to the most important person in the world. Practice listening actively. Concentrate on what you're really saying. Don't try to give advice or solve a problem right away. But you can ask questions to keep the conversation going. This will help the other person understand that they are being listened to and that you are sincerely taking the time to understand what they are saying.

3.Avoid constant attention.

We all like to be at the forefront from time to time. If you're an extrovert, you can live life like it's a party. But people who are used to keeping all the attention on themselves may miss out on all the opportunities to add value to those around them. If you present yourself as an arrogant or selfish person, people may not want to spend much time with you.

Sympathetic people want to share the stage with others, not just be in the spotlight alone. They also try to shift the attention to the people around them. They know how to praise others without going overboard.

They know how important it is to involve others in the conversation and to bring a quiet person out of their shell. As a result, stop attracting people's attention and look for ways to involve others in the conversation.

4. Get rid of your smart devices and focus on the people around you.

Put your smartphone aside, step away from your digital devices and focus on the people around you. Instead of wasting time on social media, just socialize. Connect with real-life people. If you struggle with checking your emails or replying to your messages, you will unfortunately fail to communicate with the live person you are ignoring.

When talking to another person, dedicate yourself completely to the conversation and focus your attention on that person. Technology has a time and a place, but we often make it the focal point of our lives. Try to be a little old-fashioned and take the time to have short conversations with people around you to start building real relationships.

5.Sync yourself with people around you.

We may not realize it but we are all copycats when it comes to social interactions. We naturally synchronize ourselves with those around us. When someone smiles, we smile too. This begins in infancy: babies naturally imitate the facial expressions of those around them.

This social synchronization is the most important way to communicate with others. This means that we imitate the gestures of the other person without realizing it. We can even imitate breathing and body postures without realizing it. Matching your voice and tone with the other person is the most powerful tool for creating a sense of intimacy and connection.

The person in front of you will automatically feel that you are talking to him on the same wire and will empathize with you. So when you're chatting with someone, be aware of how you're imitating them and try to match yourself cautiously with their body language and demeanor.

6. Ask questions to start a conversation.

Knowing how to start a conversation properly is key to instilling a sense of belonging and connection. Questions get the other person talking and interacting, but the secret is knowing what questions to ask.

Asking open-ended questions allows the other person to offer their opinion or share their thoughts on the topic. The point of asking questions here is to keep the conversation going. “What was the last funny video you saw?” or “Who is your favorite actor?” Questions like this can be an example. Think and use questions that begin with phrases such as who, what, how, where.

On the other hand, closed-ended questions are those that are usually answered with yes or no. For example, “Are you feeling better today?” it is a closed-ended question and one has to say nothing but yes or no. Instead of “How are you feeling today?” Asking invites the other person to share something about themselves.

7.Be open-minded.

Sympathetic people seem more approachable and approachable because they are open-minded people who listen and talk to all kinds of people. They avoid preconceived ideas or judging others and enjoy listening to them and understanding different points of view.

Of course, you will encounter many people who disagree with you, but you should let these people talk so you can understand them better and make them feel heard.

Let other people share their ideas and thoughts, and then respond by sharing your own thoughts and feelings in an understanding and respectful way. If you do this, you will allow the conversation and discussion to go deeper.

8.Be reliable and balanced.

Being grumpy, irritable, or pessimistic is the opposite of being liked. Unpredictable people and people whose moods are constantly changing, unfortunately, cannot be on anyone's "most loved" list. In fact, people will quickly turn away from you. If you want others to feel comfortable approaching you, you need to make them feel that you are calm and reliable.

You may be having a bad day or be in a moody mood at times, but whenever you feel like it, remember this: You don't need to shout out every thought or emotion that comes to mind. Sometimes it's best to just nod, smile and say nothing.

Be honest even if you are tired or stressed. Give yourself some time and don't let your bad mood control you. Instead, treat every person you meet as if it's your first time, and don't let previous turmoil affect the way you deal with others.

9.Search for common interests.

When it comes to relating to someone, look for ways to build common ground around your shared interests. In such a situation, having a variety of interests and a different background will come in handy. If you know who the person you are going to meet is, studying beforehand will help you a lot.

Do you enjoy the same activities, watch the same TV show or read the same style of books? Maybe you have mutual friends, similar communities you belong to, or you work for the same company.

There are many ways you can overlap with someone. Even if you don't have much in common, it's possible that he has a hobby or skill that interests you and that you'd like to learn more about. See every person you meet as an opportunity to learn new things.

10. Express what you want to say verbally and non-verbally.

We've all asked someone how they're doing, and in response, "I'm fine." we got the answer. But the other person's body language says something else entirely. He uses an angry tone of voice while avoiding eye contact and frowning. The truth is that we can hardly believe a person who gives such signals. This confuses us and makes it difficult for us to build trust.

The most powerful way to start a conversation is to come face to face with the person. Make eye contact with the person you are talking to and try to avoid bad body language gestures such as crossing your arms and not standing up straight.

Make sure that your facial expression is clear and understandable, and that you use your voice in a pleasant and friendly tone. If you do this, you show other people that you are willing to communicate with them.

One of the most important aspects of being a loved one is ensuring that the messages you send to other people with your body language match the words that come out of your mouth. Say what you want to say with both your sentences and gestures so that others feel closer to you and do not hesitate to trust you.

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