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How to Revive a Failing Relationship
Must an emotional cure always be a long job? When I'm asked this I generally answer that any basic personality change usually entails working your ass off at helping yourself over a period of time. Psychology and behavioral responses to conditioned activity play an important role in reviving failing relationships. Various experiments with clients are making me qualify this answer. They indicate that there are palliative methods which, if you employ them continually, tend to sink into your cognitive-emotive core and become curative—a permanent part of your behavioral pattern. In my book Rational Sensitivity: Self-fulfillment for Executives, I was able to give three such self-therapy techniques for calming the emotions. Here is how they work.
Filthy StaffPublished 8 years ago in FilthyFlirting Tips for Women
Have you ever been on a "sex audition"? Do you believe flirting is the same thing as texting? The science of flirting is maintaining a balance between attracting through engagement and never seeming too available. If you have ever practiced the "art of flirting," you know what I am talking about. When a woman purposely flirts with a man she is interested in, she tends to step into character, losing the sneaker-wearing-yoga-pant-loving version of herself and amping up the 6"-stiletto-no-panty-wearing edition. This sex goddess character is on a mission, a mission to be the funniest, wittiest, and most mysterious woman she can be. From long stares and batted eyelashes to the dropping of her napkin to show off her great ass, every woman has a different method to their enticing madness. As little girls, our mothers taught us to be ladies. Keep your legs crossed, never utter profanities, and never make the first move. As we have gotten older, we have learned that lots of fun happens when our legs are uncrossed and that all of the rules of being lady-like have changed. The rules are that there are no more rules.
Bea NortonPublished 8 years ago in FilthyWhen to Have Sex
How many times is enough? What if she wants to when you don't want to, and vice versa. Is spontaneous sex better than scheduled sex? Do women prefer their sexual encounters be planned and men prefer them any time any where? It is important to consider these issues when developing a productive, intimate relationship. Poor timing can cause stress on a relationship which can lead to changes in one's biological, sexual dynamic.
Robert CharthamPublished 8 years ago in FilthyWhat Does Facial Hair Say About Your Sex Life?
For over a century, anthropologists have worked to identify character traits and their specific relevance or relationship to facial hair. Throughout the world, it is a universal belief that a long, grey beard such as that of Gandalf the wise or Harry Potter’s Dumbledore, represents wisdom. But what does Magnum P.I.’s mustache mean? Does a goatee have meaning? And what did those small germanic mustaches actually represent? A study by Dr. James Brussel reveals a distinct connection between facial hair and sexuality. Beyond the intellectual exercise, Dr. Brussel explores unique sexual preferences that often correlate to your facial hair grooming habits.
James A. BrusselPublished 8 years ago in FilthyCurious Case of Penis Envy
Just one year ago, an attractive redhead, Betty L., came to my clinic and said: “I don’t know what’s wrong with me, Doctor. I have a wonderful husband, twelve splendid children, a girlish figure, and a brand-new house in an expensive neighborhood. But I feel I’m missing something.” Like many other women her age, Betty L. lacked a penis but was unable to verbalize her sense of inadequacy. She was aware only of a vague, liquid emptiness, a throbbing gap, a bittersweet bodily vacuity, if you will, something she couldn’t quite put her finger on or around, “as if a thing that should be there isn’t.”
Filthy StaffPublished 8 years ago in FilthyAlpha Male Fantasy
Louis C. is a 34-year-old, 6’ man in generally good health, except for a touch of phlebitis. Although he is developing something of a paunch, Louis C. has powerful, sloping shoulders and looks as if he might have been a good athlete in his youth. As sales manager for a medium-size corporation, he averages $20,000 a year.
Robert CharthamPublished 8 years ago in FilthySensual Massage Oils
It’s all in the wrists. A little massage oil doesn’t hurt either. Whether it’s scented, flavored, or contains natural ingredients, turn down the lights, hit the play button, and rub each other down. Massages are a wonderful way to add some romance to your sex life. And this story always has a happy ending.
Filthy StaffPublished 8 years ago in FilthyWhat Is Consensual Adultery?
Out of all the experiences thus far in my life, marriage has been hands down, the most challenging. I know, I know, you would assume I would say parenting because I just love to complain about the crappy diapers, sleepless nights, and leftover fat that is motherhood, but no way Jose, marriage absolutely takes the “difficulty” cake. Don’t get me wrong, raising children (and good ones at that) is no easy task with them constantly testing our patience, kindness, and sanity, but there is one huge difference that makes it all worth it and that is unconditional love. Not a day goes by where I don’t feel the undeniable love from both of my children. Even after a slap on the wrist or a 10-minute time out, they are guaranteed to not only forgive me but hug, kiss, and love me mere moments later. Now for my husband, not so much. If only he would show affection minutes after I rip him a new asshole, then life would be just grand. Usually after a fight with my bitchy filthy-mouthed self, doors are slammed and names are called and if I’m really feeling feisty I’ll throw in a bullshit threat as a cherry on top. Then the pity party ensues, the sulking, and the pondering if this is what marriage is supposed to be like. It’s crazy how a few minutes of nasty word vomit can erase years of happiness.
Jus L'amorePublished 8 years ago in FilthyCan Anal Sex Be Pleasurable?
Ladies, we have a confession to make; we know how much anal sex you’re having. It turns out that at least 1 in 3 straight women in the US has tried anal at some point in her life. The National Institutes of Health performed a study in January 2016 on the prevalence of heterosexual anal intercourse among men and women. Thirty percent of women and 35 percent of men reported having HAI in the previous year. Women who reported having tried anal were usually in their 20s and reportedly had higher levels of both income and education. While anal sex was equally common among women of all ethnic and racial backgrounds, it was more common among those who were either married to or already living with their partners than it was among single women.
Filthy StaffPublished 8 years ago in FilthyFur Fetish Fantasy
Marian K. is a 26-year-old, 5’5”; woman in good health. She has long, red hair wound tightly on top of her head, brown eyes, and a full but sulky mouth that is turned down at the corners. She is divorced, has one child, and supports herself as a pianist in cocktail bars.
Robert CharthamPublished 8 years ago in FilthyHow to Score on the First Date
I know what you’re thinking. “Why the hell is a woman writing an article about men scoring on the first date?” However, if you really think about it, who better than an experienced, educated, and (once) slightly promiscuous chick to advise you on how and what to do in order to achieve sexual success on the first date? Or as I like to call it, “sexcess.”
Jus L'amorePublished 8 years ago in FilthyUnderstanding Foot Fetishism
This little piggy went to the market, this little piggy stayed home, this little piggy you sucked on, and this little piggy made you cum. Ahhh, nothing like an innocent child’s rhyme to get us on topic, eh? If you haven’t already guessed, today we are exploring the secretive yet oh so sensual world of foot fetishes and the many ways to please them.
Jus L'amorePublished 8 years ago in Filthy