Sex Ed

So you want to try anal sex? Here's why you shouldn't until you consult a professional.

Do you ever ask yourself, how often should I get tested? Getting tested is an important part of safeguarding your sexual health but how often should you go? The answer is going to be a little different for everyone. The choice is a very personal one and there is no right or wrong answer. Each person needs to decide their own level of diligence based on their lifestyle and choices.

Vaginal sex is what most people think of when they talk about sex. It is often primarily thought of as a penis entering a vulva and into the vagina, but that is only one part of vaginal sex. It is actually the penetration of something into the vagina. The penetration could be from fingers, a penis, or a toy of some kind. All of these things count as vaginal sex.

Is it really necessary to practice safer oral sex? A lot of people would argue that it really ruins the experience. It's also a fairly common perception that there is no need for safer sex methods when engaging in oral sex. Since there is no risk of anyone getting pregnant when having oral sex, most people think that using protection isn't important. There are more reasons than just potential pregnancies for using protection when engaging in oral sex. Unprotected sex of any kind still leaves you open to potential risks.

Have you ever heard the term "fluid bonding"? Fluid bonding is a fairly simple, but an important concept in a relationship. Put simply, it is the agreement between two people to share bodily fluids. This may not seem like a big deal, but it has some crucial implications for the state of the relationship, trust, and open communication. There can be different and distinct levels of fluid bonding. For example, you may consent to share saliva with someone but that doesn't mean that you would be willing to have unprotected sex with them or share blood with them. In most cases, fluid bonding typically refers to the choice to have unprotected sex with an ongoing partner. For it to be considered fluid bonding, it must be a deliberate choice made by the couple.

The thought of penetration hurts.

A vulva is a complex system. It has its own pH balance and produces its own healthy bacteria and fluids that naturally clean the vagina. Everyone has their own natural odor that they give off, but sometimes that odor can be different or unpleasant. There are a number of things that could impact the smell of a vulva. Depending on what a person is experiencing, they should consult a medical professional. When in doubt, it's always a good idea to check in with a medical professional to make sure it's nothing serious.

So what can be done to give you the satisfaction that you crave, whilst it also not affecting your bank balance too much? It’s a tricky thing to get right, but hopefully I can offer a few tips.