6 Reasons Why Breaking Up with a Sugar Baby Is Always Hard (Even When You’re Not Happy)

If you’re like most sugar daddies, you know what it’s like to make tough decisions. After all, you do it all the time at your office. And it’s never easy to decide how (and with whom) you’ll spend the limited amount of free time you have to spare daily.

So why is it always so hard to break up with a sugar baby – even when you know for sure you’re doing the right thing? Don’t worry. There’s nothing wrong with you, and the toughness of this task isn’t all in your head, either. In fact, the reason is likely one or more of the following.

1. You hate hurting other people

Let’s face it. Unless you’re a complete jerk, hurting another person never feels good. This is especially the case when it’s someone like a sugar baby you once really loved and saw a bright future with. It’s natural and normal to want to avoid that.

But keep in mind that waiting too long is a whole lot worse. Once you know for sure you’re not interested in moving forward with a particular sugar baby, it’s best for you both to cut her loose. The sooner you end a relationship you’re not into, the sooner both of you can meet people who are better fits.

2. Part of you hopes things will change

Some sugar daddies are not only diehard romantics but eternal optimists. Part of them always holds out hope that if a relationship was terrific once, it could be terrific again. Breaking up means giving up on that hope forever, which is much harder to do than many think.

So, are you secretly holding onto hope that things might change between you and your sugar baby? If so, it’s time to take a long, hard look at where that hope is coming from. If your relationship is going through a rough patch but is honestly still great, you might be right. But if you just don’t want to face starting over again with someone else, it’s better to follow through with that breakup.

3. You’re afraid of making a mistake

From the time people are little, they’re sold the idea that if you want a good relationship, you need to be willing to do the work. But it’s important to realize that you can’t “try” your way to a good place when you’re in a relationship with someone you’re not compatible with.

Yes, relationships take work. But it should feel like work that’s worth doing. If your gut is saying your current sugar baby isn’t the one for you, let go of the idea that you’re making a mistake. Deep down inside, you know you’re not.

4. You’re secretly afraid of winding up alone

Even the strongest, most capable people are usually very interested in finding the right partner with whom to share their lives. But there’s often also a part of them that secretly fears they’re destined to wind up alone, especially if they don’t typically connect with many of the people they date.

It’s natural and normal to worry that the sugar baby you’re currently with is potentially your last chance to love and be loved. Opportunities to find love are more plentiful than you think, though. But you need to be willing to let go of what you already know isn’t working first before you can put yourself back out there and explore other possibilities.

5. You’ve already invested so much

“Sunk cost fallacy” is totally a thing, as any business-savvy sugar daddy already knows. And yes, it can apply to personal pursuits like relationships, too. The more time, effort, money, and general investment you’ve invested in your potential future with a sugar baby, the more reluctant you’re going to be to break up.

Unfortunately, though, wasting even more effort on a situation you already know isn’t working isn’t going to bring back everything you’ve already invested. That’s why the longer the relationship, the more challenging it is to eventually see your way clear to breaking up.

6. You’re concerned about what others will think

If you’ve been dating your sugar baby for a long time, she’s probably a lot more than just your girlfriend. She’s likely also someone your friends and family have come to love and care about. It’s only natural not to want to sadden and disappoint all those people.

That’s why it’s so important to remember that your loved ones ultimately want what’s best for you. Yes, they no doubt love your sugar baby. But they love you more and want you to do what you know in your heart is best for you. So don’t be afraid to stay true to yourself and trust your gut.