I want to make it clear that every adoption story is different. Every adoptee faces and deals with different things within their life.
The "Black lives matter" movement brings a bit of hope for my child's future. To be honest, my decision never came easy. I knew it would never be an easy fight, but my wish for us to be family was my fuel. I think and overthink all the scenarios that can or might be happening to him. Some can be upsetting. Because of that, I try desperately to prepare him. Many times my decision to "take him from his home" was misjudged. There'll always be people to comment on what you do, no matter what you do and without knowing facts. My focus is not on that kind of people. Yours shouldn't be on them, also. My focus is on Karim, my family, my friends and trying to make everything work for us, fairly.
The coolest fact about me is that I am adopted. For some reason people think that’s really rare and interesting. I guess I don’t see it as interesting because it was a normal thing for me. I always knew that another woman gave birth to me and gave me and my sister up so we could have better lives. It is something that I am very thankful for because my life growing up was amazing. I had two parents who loved me even though I wasn’t their’s biologically. They gave my sister and I the best life possible! Fun fact: my sister and I are actual blood sisters, adopted from the same family, but at different times! Kind of cool, right?
It is my first official Mother's Day. I had you make Mother's day cards for everyone but me. It feels so strange to ask and then watch you craft a card for me. But, I always make sure that everyone else gets one. Our story is long and complicated. We officially adopted you this year. So many things had to fall apart before that could be put together. I lost my best friend. My trust was betrayed and my heart was broken; more than once. You were terrified and too young to verbalize that. When you realized that my home would be your home permanently, everything changed. I almost stopped going to school. It was too difficult to be one of your moms and participate in student life. What the hell was student life when it meant that you were growing up without me? I missed you terribly. I questioned my position in your life every day for nearly five years. You were mine the day you were born. The first day I held you, I promised you that you and I would always be together. When things took a turn, I felt like my purpose in your world did too.
For many, the decision to adopt a child is not an easy one. If you have decided that you want to adopt a child, you may have struggled to conceive your own child, or you may have spent time worrying about the children in need of a home and a family. While there are hurdles to get past during the process of adoption, the rewards can be immense for your family, and for the child. However, before you can reach the rewards of adoption, you must first find a child to adopt and work through the system. So, where can you adopt a child in the state of Utah?
With so many types of adoptions available it may feel overwhelming to choose the right one for you. Information is key in deciding which type of process is best for your family. Make sure you do enough research about each type of adoption and weigh their pros and cons. Ask your adoption agency, family lawyer and other experts about the costs of each, how much time the process will take, the risks associated with the process, and any other question you may have. Talk with other adoptive parents and ask about their experience, join Facebook groups, look for bloggers online and YouTube videos. Keep in mind that everyone has their own expectations about the process and every adoption will not always be the same.
I always knew I was adopted.remember
Not all foster kids get properly treated when being placed in homes. Many kids don’t ever get the love a parent should give a child. Often times foster kids don’t get to experience what it feels like to be comfortable. At any time, you can end up being somewhere new in a house full of strangers all over again. All the fears I had while being a foster child kept disappearing the older, I became. If every child in the system could receive the love and happiness my mom gave me, I know this world would be a better place.
Personally, I was always interested in adoption. Just to take it out of the way, it is not because I cannot have kids (at least I don't know yet) and also, WHAT IS THE DEAL WITH EVERYONE ASKING ME THIS? "Why don't you have your own kid?"- is the first question I am usually asked.
I decided on the process on February 2017, after I returned from my holiday in Africa, where of course, I went to see Karim and my friends. I don't know how people usually do it, but for me, it wasn't a decision from one day to another, it was definitely something that grew in me for more than 1 year.
My biological mom was an abused teenager who was six and-a-half months pregnant when she gave birth to me. Abused physically, mentally and emotionally by my father, my mom tried to abort me with a wire clothes hanger because she did not want to raise a child who could turn into a monster like her then-husband.
I will never be pregnant or give birth.