why girls think that they are ugly
Why Embrace Your Unique Beauty: Reflecting on Self-Perception
As a woman, I am tired of the narrow standards of beauty that are imposed on us. The media often portrays the ideal image for black girls as having light skin and long hair, which does not reflect the reality of many of us. Personally, I am brown-skinned, curvy, and have a flat butt. I remember hearing someone describe me in a negative way, focusing on the attributes I didn't have. However, this experience taught me an important lesson - to love myself for who I am and not to let someone else's opinion determine my value. That's why I started my own cosmetic company six years ago, with the aim of changing the way we think about beauty. I was frustrated that society only looked at attractiveness through a single lens, and I wanted to challenge that. When you search for "beauty" today, you'll see a sea of fair-skinned, thin, young women, as if good looks only come in one form. This narrow view of beauty makes us feel like we're not enough, and we start to think that we're lacking in some way. This lack of confidence can hold us back from pursuing our dreams and reaching our full potential. It also affects how we view others - if we don't feel good enough, we may project that insecurity onto our sisters, friends, and cousins. For too long, women have been told that our value is directly linked to our looks, our ability to get married, and our ability to have children. Even today, we still see this idea perpetuated in every industry - from Serena Williams dominating on the tennis court to Hillary Clinton running for President. We also see it in the way that little girls are discriminated against for their hairstyles. For example, a little girl in Louisiana wasn't allowed to attend school because of her braided hairstyle, which is a long-standing part of African and African-American beauty culture. This kind of discrimination is unacceptable - our hairstyle doesn't prevent us from learning or succeeding in any way. So, what is attractiveness? Shouldn't it be subjective? While it's true that what we find attractive is influenced by our environment, there is a dangerous trend towards a global standard of beauty that is rooted in Western ideals. This standard leaves many women feeling invalidated, unwanted, or too old to be beautiful. It also affects men - many are conditioned to find women who look like their mothers attractive, perpetuating a narrow view of beauty. It's time to challenge these narrow standards and embrace diversity in all its forms. At my cosmetic company, we celebrate diversity and aim to create products that work for everyone, regardless of skin tone or body type. We want to redefine what beauty means and empower women to love themselves for who they are. By doing so, we can create a world where everyone feels valued and appreciated, regardless of how they look.
Most male CEOs of Fortune 500 companies are above average height, as height is associated with attractiveness and power. This is an issue that spans generations and genders. Unfortunately, our children are growing up without valuing themselves or extending that same love and acceptance to their peers. As a result, they suffer from low self-esteem and often resort to consuming weight-loss fads or undergoing plastic surgery. Have you noticed the increasing trend of plastic surgery, particularly of the butt and thighs, which have seen a 4,200% increase since the year 2000? This alarming trend takes me back to my own childhood when I worried about not having a butt. If I hadn't had the confidence to keep going, I could have easily become one of these statistics. So, how do we transform and love ourselves? First, we must identify the triggers that make us feel inferior and cut them off. Whether it's social media, shopping, or negative comments from family members, we must be willing to remove toxic influences from our lives. We must be prepared to fight for our identities in a society driven by pop culture. Therefore, I challenge each of you to take a good look at yourselves in the mirror and accept and love all of your greatness. Tomorrow, extend that same love and acceptance to someone who may not look like you. Thank you.
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A many times agone , I broke into my own house. I had just driven home, it was around night in the nothingness of Montreal downtime, I had been visiting my friend, Jeff, across city, and the thermometer on the frontal veranda read minus 40 degrees-- and do not bother asking if that is Celsius or Fahrenheit, minus 40 is where the two scales meet-- it was veritably cold. And as I stood on the frontal veranda fumbling in my pockets, I set up I did not have my keys. In fact, I could see them through the window, lying on the dining room table where I had left them. So I snappily ran around and tried all the other doors and windows, and they were locked tight. I allowed about calling a locksmith-- at least I had my cellphone, but at night, it could take a while for a locksmith to show up, and it was cold. I could not go back to my friend Jeff's house for the night because I had an early flight to Europe the coming morning, and I demanded to get my passport and my wallet. 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