Asmae El assri
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Chained to the Screen: How Social Media Turns Us into Slaves of Our Digital Profiles
The Impact of Social Media Metrics on Self- Worth and Mental Health In the age of social media dominance, the way we measure our tone- worth has drastically changed. Likes, followers, and commentary have come the new currency of confirmation, shaping our perception of success and significance. still, the correlation between social media criteria and our internal health is a complex and multifaceted issue. In this composition, we will explore the impact of social media criteria on tone- worth and internal health, and give practical tips for maintaining a healthy relationship with these platforms. The Quest for Validation From Valentine's Day Cards to Social Media Metrics Throughout history, confirmation from others has played a significant part in shaping our sense of tone- worth. As children, we measured our worth by the number of Valentine's Day cards we entered in academy, and as we grew aged, it converted into the number of people attending our parties. In the 21st century, social media criteria have come the new standard for confirmation. The number of followers, likes, and commentary on our posts now determines our social currency and influences our tone- regard. The Quantitative Nature of Social Media Metrics mortal beings are social brutes who naturally compare themselves to others. We witness happiness and satisfaction when we admit attention and confirmation from our peers. Social media criteria give a quantitative way to measure our fashionability and value in society. still, it's important to separate between two types of criteria vanity criteria and practicable criteria . Vanity criteria , similar as runner views, callers, and followers, offer a superficial dimension of fashionability. They may temporarily boost our tone- regard but don't inescapably indicate the value or impact of our content. On the other hand, practicable criteria claw deeper and give perceptivity into what drives viewership, followership relations, and followership retention. Understanding practicable criteria , similar as followership participation, conversion rates, and intent, can help us produce content that resonates with our followership and adds genuine value. The Misconceptions of Value and the Dopamine High One of the challenges of social media criteria is the misconceptions they produce about value. Society has come to believe that value can be determined solely by quantitative numbers and vanity criteria . This conception fails to consider character, perception, and the true impact of our content. The dopamine high we witness from entering likes and followers leads us to associate this increase in regard and happiness with an increase in value, indeed though that may not always be the case. The Consequences of Valuing Vanity Metrics Carelessly valuing vanity criteria can have significant societal consequences. It can lead to a culture that prioritizes fashionability over originality and creative expression. In colorful forms of media, we observe a disinclination to take pitfalls and an inclination towards producing content that has proven to be financially successful. Hollywood, for illustration, frequently resorts to creating conclusions and spin- offs rather than exploring new and original ideas. This focus on vanity criteria stifles creativity and limits the diversity of content available to cult. also, an overemphasis on vanity criteria can hamper our capability to dissect content and understand its true value. By solely fastening on superficial data, similar as views and likes, we may miss out on understanding the reasons behind a post's success. This lack of understanding makes it grueling to replicate success in the future, as we may attribute the wrong rudiments to the post's fashionability. Valuing the right types of social media criteria is pivotal for decoding conduct that lead to fiscal and reputational success. The Cerebral Impact of Social Media Metrics The preoccupation with social media criteria can have profound goods on our internal health and sense of identity. For individualities who have grown up with social media, particular accounts frequently feel like an extension of the tone. still, the constant comparison to others and the pressure to gain further followers and likes can lead to a dependence on external confirmation. This dependence can affect in a poorer sense of tone, increased precariousness, and a negative impact on internal well- being. The Power of Authenticity and tone- Love Amidst the challenges posed by social media criteria , there are strategies that can help us maintain a healthy mindset. originally, it's pivotal to fete that what we see on social media isn't a true representation of people's lives. We frequently compare ourselves to an idealized interpretation of others, forgetting that social media showcases only the positive aspects of life. Reminding ourselves of this fact can help us break free from the comparison trap and concentrate on our own trip. Secondly, taking breaks from social media can have a profound impact on our internal health. Detoxing from these platforms allows us to be more present in the real world and experience life's momentsfully.However, limiting our time on social media or unfollowing accounts that make us feel inferior can also help produce a healthier relationship with these platforms, If a complete break isn't doable. Incipiently, rehearsing gratefulness can shift our perspective and ameliorate our tone- regard. Making a list of the effects we're thankful for reminds us of our worth and the positive aspects of our lives. By trading negative studies for thankful bones, we can deflect our focus from others to ourselves, feting our unique rates and strengths. While social media criteria have come an integral part of our lives, it's important to approach them with caution. Vanity criteria shouldn't be the sole measure of our tone- worth, nor should they mandate the value we attribute to our content. By feting the limitations of social media criteria and prioritizing authenticity, tone- love, and gratefulness, we can cultivate a healthier relationship with these platforms and cover our internal well- being. Flash back, your value extends far beyond the figures on social media. You're further than your likes and followers.
By Asmae El assri10 months ago in Feast
Shadows of Destiny Final episode
Part 1: A Prophecy Unveiled Times have passed since Amelia and Benjamin Hartley's last harrowing adventure. Despite their stylish sweats to leave the murk before, fate has other plans in store for them. A mysterious vaticination shells, auguring an impending catastrophe that could plunge the world into eternal darkness. Drawn back into the realm of riddle and peril, Amelia and Benjamin embark on their final hunt, determined to unravel the secrets of the vaticination and forestall the impending doom. Guided by ancient textbooks and cryptic symbols, they cut unfaithful terrains, following a path that leads them near to the heart of the vaticination.
By Asmae El assri11 months ago in Fiction
Shadows of the Forgotten
Part 1: A Mysterious Manuscript Times have passed since Amelia and Benjamin Hartley last encountered the horrors of Willow brook Manor. While they’ve set up solace in their accomplishments, an unanticipated turn of events draws them back into the world of riddle and darkness. One evening, as they sorted through their collection of vestiges, Amelia stumbled upon a forgotten handwriting hidden deep within the recesses of their private library. The aged diploma was inscribed with arcane symbols and accompanied by a note, cryptically intimating at a forgotten secret. Intrigued and filled with a blend of alarm and excitement, Amelia and Benjamin embarked on a trip to unravel the riddle behind this mysterious handwriting.
By Asmae El assri11 months ago in Fiction
The Shadows of Willow brook Manor
Part 1: The Return Times had passed since Amelia and Benjamin Hartley faced the horrors of Willow brook Manor, yet the recollections of that cataclysmal night still visited their dreams. They had hoped the agony was over, but when a peculiar package arrived at their doorstep, adorned with the sigil of Willow brook Manor, they knew that their respite was short- lived. Inside the package, they set up a tattered journal, its runners filled with cryptic symbols and chilling sketches. Among the runners were pressed red flowers, evocative of the trail that had led them to the verity in their former hassle with the manor house. Intrigued and cautious, Amelia and Benjamin could not repel the call of the enigmatic manor house, waving them back into its clutches.
By Asmae El assri11 months ago in Fiction
The Haunting at Willowbrook Manor
Part 1: The Invitation Nestled deep within the mist- laden forestland, stood Willow brook Manor, an imposing structure with a dark history. Legends spoke of its haunted history, bruiting of ghostly apparitions and malignant spirits. It was an abandoned relic, untouched by time. But on a stormy night in October, a letter arrived at the doorstep of operative Amelia Hartley and her hubby, Detective Benjamin Hartley, shattering their tranquil actuality.
By Asmae El assri11 months ago in Fiction
The Earth With Half Land and Half Water
imagine earth with an indeed 50 50 split between mainlands and abysses our earth covered half by land and half by water how would this change the earth as you know it what new kinds of recesses could this make possible for you and what does the color of your pee have to do with this this is what if and then is what would be if the earth was partial land and half water when it comes to making life possible on a earth water is an absolute have that is why we look for alien life on worlds where liquid water could live when it comes to our own earth 71 of its face is covered by water utmost of that's in our five abysses together they form one global ocean now if you replaced nearly a quarter of our ocean water with land how soon would earth turn into just another breathless gemstone in space thanks to global warming earth's ocean situations are presently rising but if you wanted to balance the earth's land to water rate you'd see the ocean situations absolutely dip and not just a many measures but around three kilometers earth would look veritably different the regions around both the north and south poles would be fully dried out and every mainland on the earth would expand and not just a little either all this recently surfaced home around the world would be roughly equal to the current face areas of Asia Europe Africa and north America combined that would be an enormous quantum of unused space everything extending off the old beachfronts would be fairly flat but some of the areas that used to be deep ocean would reveal vast corridors and steep crevasses as you explored this new land you'd discover that the one global ocean would be no more all of the abysses would be separated from each other and all of the mainlands would be one connected mainland and this would be good news for elaboration early humans did not have any vessels or aeroplanes
By Asmae El assri11 months ago in Earth
Who are we really
One of the most influential approaches in personality wisdom is known as particularity psychology, and it aligns you along five confines which are typically distributed, and that describe widely held aspects of difference between people. They spell out the acronym OCEAN. So," O" stands for" open to experience," versus those who are more unrestricted." C" stands for" meticulousness," in discrepancy to those with a further languorous approach to life." E"--" extroversion," in discrepancy to further withdrawn people." A"--" agreeable individualities," in discrepancy to those substantially not agreeable. And" N"--" neurotic individualities," in discrepancy to those who are more stable. All of these confines have counteraccusations for our well- being, for how our life goes. And so, we know that, for illustration, openness and meticulousness are veritably good predictors of life success, but the open people achieve that success through being audacious and, sometimes, odd. The conscientious people achieve it through sticking to deadlines, to persisting, as well as having some passion. Extroversion and affability are both conducive to working well with people. Backslappers, for illustration, I find interesting. With my classes, I occasionally give them a introductory fact that might be revealing with respect to their personality I tell them that it's nearly insolvable for grown-ups to master the outside of their own elbow. Did you know that? formerly, some of you have tried to master the outside of your own elbow. But backslappers amongst you're presumably those who haven't only tried, but they've successfully licked the elbow of the person sitting coming to them. Those are the backslappers. Let me deal in a bit further detail with extroversion, because it's consequential and it's interesting, and it helps us understand what I call our three natures. First, our biogenic nature-- our neurophysiology. Second, our sociogenic or alternate nature, which has to do with the artistic and social aspects of our lives. And third, what makes you collectively you-- idiosyncratic-- what I call your" audiogenic" nature. Let me explain. One of the effects that characterizes backslappers is they need stimulation. And that stimulation can be achieved by chancing effects that are instigative loud noises, parties and social events then at TED-- you see the backslappers forming a glamorous core. They all gather together. And I have seen you. The wallflowers are more likely to spend time in the quiet spaces up on the alternate bottom, where they're suitable to reduce stimulation-- and may be missed as being asocial, but you are not inescapably asocial. It may be that you simply realize that you do better when you have a chance to lower that position of stimulation. occasionally it's an internal goad, from your body. Caffeine, for illustration, works much better with backslappers than it does wallflowers. When backslappers come into the office at nineo'clock in the morning and say," I really need a mug of coffee," they are not kidding-- they really do. wallflowers don't do as well, particularly if the tasks they are engaged in-- and they have had some coffee-- if those tasks are speeded, and if they are quantitative, wallflowers may give the appearance of not being particularly quantitative. But it's a mis construal. So then are the consequences that are really relatively interesting we are not always what feel to be, and that takes me to my coming point. I should say, before getting to this, commodity about sexual intercourse, although I may not have time. And so, if you would like me to-- yes, you would? OK. There are studies done on the frequence with which individualities engage in the marital act, as broken down by manly, womanish; wallflower, backslapper. So, I ask you How numerous times per nanosecond-- oh, I am sorry, that was a rat study How numerous times per month do withdrawn men engage in the act?3.0. convivial men? More or less? Yes, more.5.5-- nearly doubly as important. withdrawn women3.1. convivial women? honestly, speaking as an withdrawn joker, which I'll explain latterly-- they're heroic.7.5. They not only handle all the manly backslappers; they pick up a many wallflowers as well. We communicate else, backslappers and wallflowers. Backslappers, when they interact, want to have lots of social hassle pointed by closeness. They'd like to stand close for comfortable communication. They like to have a lot of eye contact, or collective aspect . We set up in some exploration that they use more fine terms when they meet notoriety. So, when an backslapper meets a Charles, it fleetly becomes" Charlie," and also" Chuck," and also" Chuckles Baby." Whereas for wallflowers, it remains" Charles," until he is given a pass to be more intimate by the person he is talking to. We speak else. Backslappers prefer black- and-white, concrete, simple language. wallflowers prefer-- and I must again tell you that I'm as extreme an wallflower as you could conceivably imagine-- we speak else. We prefer contextually complex, contingent, snooper- word rulings More or less. As it were. Not to put too fine a point upon it-- like that. When we talk, we occasionally talk past each other. I had a consulting contract I participated with a coworker who is as different from me as two people can conceivably be. First, his name is Tom. Mine isn't. Secondly, he is six bottom five. I've a tendency not to be. And thirdly, he is as convivial a person as you could find. I'm seriously withdrawn. I load so much; I can not indeed have a mug of coffee after three in the autumn and anticipate to sleep in the evening. We had seconded to this design a fellow called Michael. And Michael nearly brought the design to a crashing halt. So, the person who seconded him asked Tom and me," What do you make of Michael?" Well, I will tell you what Tom said in a nanosecond. He spoke in classic" backslapper- ese." And then's how convivial cognizance heard what I said, which is actually enough accurate. I said," Well Michael does have a tendency at times of carrying in a way that some of us might see as maybe further assertive than is typically called for Tom rolled his eyes and he said," Brian, that is what I said he is an asshole!" Now, as an wallflower, I might gently allude to certain" acholic" rates in this man's geste
By Asmae El assri11 months ago in Humans
20 crimes changed the law
it does not bring either of them back but it's the stylish we can get we hope it'll save lives we'll no way know for sure hello to watch Mojo and moment we are counting down our picks for the 20 True Crimes that changed laws rate hate is not an old problem it's a patient problem for this list we are looking at the most prominent real- life crimes whose issues urged significant changes in policy and legislation did we miss any other poignant True Crime cases let us know in the commentary Claire wood around the world numerous women have lost their lives at the hands of their mates ore-partners on transnational women's day in 2014 a law was enforced in England and Wales that could significantly reduce the frequency of similar woeful incidents I see no reason why that information should not be passed on so you can make an educated assessment of your dilemma and will I stay or will I go Claire's law also known as the domestic violence exposure scheme subventions a person the occasion to find out if their mate has a history of violent Behavior the law takes its name from Claire wood an English woman who was boggled by here-boyfriend George Appleton this youthful lady said you earn better than this we have just set up your son's body Appleton had served captivity time for violence towards women a record that was unknown to wood at the time moment other corridor of the UK Australia and Canada have all espoused Claire's law Daniel Morcom be on December 7 2003 Daniel markup was last seen staying for a machine nearly in Queensland Australia according to reports when the machine eventually came it failed to stop and pick him up because the motorist was running late eventually the Daniel the difference between life and death came down to just three twinkles bits moment in time that as it so tragically turned out clearly long enough for wrong to strike markup was supposedly kidnapped shortly after by Brett Peter Cowan a known bloodsucker and he was declared missing until eight times latterly when his remains were set up in 2014 Cowan was arrested and doomed to captivity for life and also you heard those three words shamefaced mudded under my breath yes I wanted to scream out but I just knew I could not do that as a result of the case Australia enforced the No Child Left Behind policy which authorizations machine motorists to always stop and pick up children indeed if they can not pay the chow Lee Rigby Lee Rigby was a British Army dogface who lost his life in an attack on May 22nd 2013. Rigby's assaulters Michael Ade Bellagio and Michael Adebowale claimed to have carried out the attack in retribution for the victims of British military action in Islamic countries a terrible murder has been as passed we have launched an disquisition led by the counter-terrorist command and we have made to arrest in relation to that awful crime the two men awaited at the scene until police arrived at which time they were subdued and arrested it's believed that Adamical had been radicalized to commit such a crime in the antedating times British converts to Islam had delighted in Lee Rigby's barbaric murder according to the judge it was a crime that had floored the nation three protesters were arrested outside the old Bayley as the men were doomed in a shot to help farther cases of this also British high minister Theresa May introduced the counter-terrorism and Security Act in 2015. the bill requires internet providers to keep records of druggies who pierce certain IP addresses Andrew Bagboy and Zachary Turner the 2008 talkie dear Zachary a letter to a son about his father detailed the woeful case of Andrew Bagboy and Zachary Turner Bagboy was an American medical pupil training in Canada when he met Shirley Turner I was agitated study that perhaps he'd set up notoriety that he you know could really be happy with but it turned out that way their relationship produced one child Zachary who Bagboy no way got to see as he was boggled by Turner months before the boy was born while out on bail Turner gave birth to Zachary and remained in guardianship of him still before she could stand trial for baby’s murder she took her own life and that of her son after the talkie was released Canadian congress passed Zachary's bill which would deny bail to people on the grounds that doing so will cover their children it does not bring either of them back but it's the stylish we can get we hope it'll save lives we'll no way know for sure the Chicago Tylenol poisonings you most probably will not buy a bottle of untoward medicines if its seal is broken that position of assurance is only possible moment because of the Chicago Tylenol incident back in 1982 several bottles of Tylenol were tampered and laced with potassium cyanide the bottles were labeled redundant strength Tylenol 50 capsule size Lot number mc2880 expiration date April 1987. as a result seven people who consumed the murderous capsules in the Chicago metropolitan area lost their lives this led to a Nationwide recall of all Tylenol products by its manufacturer Johnson and Johnson the company also worked with the FDA to introduce sealed bottles which has now come the assiduity standard when you opened a bottle of Tylenol in the early 1980s or any product for that matter you did not see this defensive seal now it's the log in 1983 it came a civil crime to 10 with consumer goods afters Congress passed the civility-tampering bill Amanda Todd in September of 2012 a videotape was uploaded on YouTube in which a girl participated the story of her internal health issues using a set of flash cards about a month latterly the clip began gaining traction after it was reported that the girl Amanda Todd from Canada had taken her own life because she's just had so much going on she just had enough I guess we now know that her death was the capstone of a three- time agony according to reports this was largely as a result of being wearied and blackmailed by a man online Todd's senseless death sparked National conversations on cyber stalking and internal health this led Canadian politicians to pass bill c- 13 which makes it a crime to distribute private images of another person without their concurrence purpose is to help detriment and we believe that all of these vittles are necessary it also includes vittles that could help law enforcement probe and make similar cases George Floyd the 2020 murder of George Floyd by police officers in Minneapolis Minnesota sparked demurrers across the United States and around the world pates suggests that between 15 and 26 million people in theU.S alone attended at least one kick or rally in June of 2020 which is estimated to be one of the largest kick movements inU.S history in addition to demanding Justice for Floyd numerous demonstrators also called for broad police reform and an end to police brutality although the George Floyd Justice and policing Act passed the House of Representatives it faced opposition in the Senate and accommodations collapsed still in response to the incident chairpersons Donald Trump and Joe Biden both inked superintendent orders that address police training and responsibility in addition more than 20 countries in theU.S and the District of Columbia legislated laws around police reform aimed at precluding similar woeful violence from passing again Son of Sam there have been colorful Son of Sam type laws introduced over the times but the general thing is always the same to help culprits from benefiting from their crimes after conviction the investigators of the Brooklyn Omega Squad part of that 300 mug 44 killer man quest captured the man they say is Son of Sam this goes back to the fear that David Berkowitz the notorious Son of Sam would seek a book or movie deal while in captivity to tell his story I believe that I was a demon- held different countries have drafted their own interpretation of this law only for some of them to be struck down as unconstitutional in New York state victims and their families will admit announcement if the felonious earns further than ten thousand bones
By Asmae El assri11 months ago in Criminal
How childhood affects our life
The attachment proposition argues that a strong emotional and physical bond to one primary caregiver in our first times of life, is critical to our development. However, also we feel safe to explore the world, if our cling is strong and we're securely attached. We know there's always that safe base, to which we can return to any time. However, we feel insecurely attached, if our bond is weak. We’re hysterical to leave or explore a rather scary- looking world. Because we aren't sure if we can return. People who are securely attached are said to have lesser trust, can connect to others and as a result are more successful in life. Insecurely attached people tend to distrust others, warrant social chops and have problems forming connections. There's one type of secure attachment and there are 3 types of insecure attachments Anxious/ equivocal Anxious/ Avoidant and Anxious/ Disorganized. In responses to torture, the first 3 reply organized, while the last acts disorganized. To understand the proposition more, let's look at Mr. and Ms. Smith, who have 4 children. Luka, Ann, Joe and Amy. The Smiths are lovely parents, who snuggle, make frequent eye contact, speak warmly, and are always there for their kiddies. But one day Mr. Smith falls veritably sick and dies. For Mrs. Smith life now becomes veritably delicate. She spends all day working, while at the same time trying to watch for her children. And insolvable task. At 6 times of age, Luka’s brain is for the utmost part developed, his character strong and his world view shaped. The new situation doesn't affect him much- he knows there still is always mama - his safe- haven. He feels securely attached. latterly he turns into a trusting and auspicious youthful man. His tone image is positive. Ann, who's 3, has problems managing with the new lack of attention. To Ann, her mama now acts unpredictably. She's anxious about their relationship, and as a result becomes glutinous. To get her mama ’s attention, she has to raise her emotional state and laugh. When her mama eventually reacts with a predictable response, she herself acts equivocal and does not show her true passions. latterly in life, others suppose Ann is changeable or temperamental. Her tone image is less positive. Her attachment style Anxious equivocal. 2- time-old Joe, spends his days with his uncle, who loves him, but thinks that a good education means being strict. However, his uncle gets angry and occasionally corrective, if little Joe shows too important feelings or is too loud. This scares Joe. He learns that to avoid fear, he has to avoid showing his passions- also in other situations. As a grown-up he continues this strategy and has problems to enter connections. His image of himself is rather negative. His attachment is Anxious Avoidant Amy, who's just one time old, gets transferred to a nursery. The staff there’s inadequately trained, trespassed and frequently veritably stressed-out. Some are outright vituperative. Amy thus becomes anxious of the very people she seeks security from- a conflict which completely disorganizes her ideas about love and safety. As she’s passing fear without resolution, she tries to avoid all social situations. As a grown-up she thinks of herself as unworthy of love. Her tone image is veritably negative. Her attachment is anxious disorganized Our attachment is formed in the veritably first times of our lives, a time when we're too youthful to communicate our anxiety and as a result can witness high situations of stress. also, our adrenal gland- an organ sitting on top of our feathers- produces the stress- hormones adrenaline and cortisol. The heart rate increases, the blood pressure goes up and we come alert. However, it's called poisonous stress, if that happens constantly. poisonous, because it impairs the development of a child's brain, and weakens the vulnerable system. In embryos or at a veritably youthful age, poisonous stress can indeed switch the expressions of genes, which can affect our health numerous decades latterly. By bluffing a Strange Situation, we can assess an attachment style, formerly by the age of one. To do this, we let the child play with their maters
By Asmae El assri11 months ago in Humans
Understanding women with ADHD
Hello smarts. In case you had not noticed I'm a woman with ADHD. Which means I've the same internal health condition as a man with ADHD-- But it does affect me else. Before I jump into this I want to point out That in my occasion on ADHD in girls, I had a lot of guys in the commentary going" stay. I've the GIRL donation?" There's no" girl donation" of ADHD, It's just that we know from exploration that women-- At least Cis unsexed women, we do not have enough exploration yet on those who are both neurodiverse and gender different-- tend to present else to cismen due to a combination of natural and social factors, and that that difference can mean our ADHD does not get honored or treated effectively. Also some of this may apply anyhow of gender Because everyone is different. Anyone can have the further internalized donation of neuro diversity that occasionally gets missed. So if any of this sounds familiar, the conclusion is the same go get checked out, get the support you need. OK. So let’s jump into the exploration. ADHD is the same complaint no matter what gender you're the same brain regions and neurotransmitter systems are affected and the same core poverties are present But the performing symptoms what people actually see can show up else due to the natural difference between males and ladies as well as the social differences in the gests of men and women. As a result of gender and coitus differences ADHD leads to different donations and issues For illustration women are frequently anticipated to be good at organizing planning, and other administrative functions and society is generally lower forgiving to women when they mess up. We tend to work harder to “ fit in ” and “ be good ” due to social pressures. Ladies with ADHD tend to show further inattentiveness than hyperactivity or freakishness, and are more likely than males to develop anxiety, tone regard issues and other internalizing problems, while males with ADHD tend to develop more materializing problems like rule breaking and aggression, than ladies do. That is not to say that girls and women with ADHD do not also witness hyperactivity and impulsivity symptoms. We do. The symptoms are just a little less egregious. They might take the form of contending studies, speaking before allowing, talking really snappily parlous sexual geste
By Asmae El assri11 months ago in Humans
The magic of not giving a FUCK
Everyone, including me, has a story about de-cluttering their home. Gathering all of their possessions into the middle of the floor, deciding what brings joy, and then bidding farewell to a set of spatulas in pursuit of a calmer, happier life. But what if we could gather up all of the other stuff - tasks, events, obligations relationships - and drop it at the kerb without a single regret? And by doing so, be free to focus our time, energy, and money on the stuff that really makes us happy? Well, I figured out how to do it. It is great, and I call it, "The life-changing magic of not giving a fuck." I hope you'll excuse my language because there is more where that came from. Before I can teach you how to stop giving a fuck, we have to talk about what it means to give one in the first place. 'Giving a fuck' means you care, right? So, when I say, "I don't give a fuck about 'Game of Thrones,'" I mean, "I don't care about 'Game of Thrones.'" Now, let's take the concept a step further. Let's define your 'fucks' as your time, energy, and money. If you don't care about something, you should stop giving your fucks to it. I don't care about 'Game of Thrones' so I don't spend time watching it; I don't spend energy wondering where the next season is going; and I don't spend my money on the books, merchandise, or anything Westeros related. 'Game of Thrones' does not get any of my fucks. Make sense? By making these calculated decisions, you wind up with more time, energy, and money to spend on the things you really do care about. And I call that "making a fuck budget I'll get back to fuck budgets in a minute, but first, I want to tell you a little bit about how the life-changing magic of not giving a fuck happened to me. Two and a half years ago, I was a senior editor at a major New York publishing house. I had spent 15 years clawing my way up the corporate ladder, I had a roster of best-selling authors, and everything I always thought I wanted from my career was coming to pass. But I was really, really unhappy. The kind of unhappy that makes it hard to get out of bed in the morning; the kind of unhappy that makes it hard to commute 45 minutes on the NYC subway; and hard to spend eight - ten hours at your desk before turning around, going home, and doing it all over again. So, I quit. And making that decision was also really hard. A lot of red wine, a lot of tears. But what came after I quit was nothing short of life-changing. Once I removed myself from the culture and lifestyle of a job that had been making me so unhappy, I was free to focus my time and energy on what would make me happy - including working, but just in a different way - and eventually, on moving from Brooklyn to a tropical island. I stopped giving my fucks to working for a corporation, wearing pants, and taking those long subway commutes. And I started giving my fucks to working for myself, wearing bikinis, and taking long walks on the beach. I'm telling you, life changing. But none of that change happened because I had tidied up my apartment. It happened because I cleared out my mind. Let me try and explain. Imagine your mind is a barn, and inside it is are all of the things that bring you joy, but also, all of the stuff that annoys you. The potential for a happy life is there, but you have to clear out the annoy to make room for the joy. This is mental de-cluttering, and it is magical. I did it by accident when I quit my job, but it was so amazing that I developed a way for you to do it on purpose. I call it "the not sorry method." It has two steps. Step one: Decide what you don't give a fuck about. Step two: Don't give a fuck about those things. Simple, right? But I know what you're thinking: This sounds like a recipe for turning into an asshole. It's okay, I get that a lot. But that's where the "not sorry" part comes in. My method is all about not giving a fuck using honesty and politeness. So, in the end, you don't have to feel guilty. You are on your best behavior, and you have nothing to apologize for. You are quite literally not sorry. You're also not an asshole. So how might the not sorry method work for you? Well, let's say, you love 'Game of Thrones' and you've been invited to a Sunday night dinner party that interferes with watching your favorite show. You feel bad about turning down the invite, but you really love 'Game of Thrones,' and you don't want to record it to watch later because... spoilers. Well, you only have so much time, energy, and money to spend on Sunday night. So, you need to consult your fuck budget. Decide which activity brings more joy and allocate your fuck bucks accordingly I'm telling you, if you respond in a timely fashion, "No thanks, can't make it to that dinner party," you've done nothing wrong. You were honest, you were polite, and you don't have to be sorry about it. And that's just the tip of the fuck-berg. You can apply the "not sorry" method to anything: tasks, events, obligations, even people. You start by making a list of everything that's cluttering up your mental barn; all of the impositions on your time, energy, and money; the fucks you're being asked to give. To keep it manageable, I go by category. So, for example, work is one category, and five fucks on your list might be mandatory meetings, conference calls, your co worker’s charity half-marathon, a going away party for a co worker you don't even like, and doing your actual job. Once you've listed them all out, you perform the "not sorry" method. Step one: Decide what annoys you. Non-essential stuff you don't care about. Step two: Stop giving your fucks in the form of time, energy, and money to those things. Then cross them off your list with a big black marker. It feels good, just go with it. What I'm saying is, yes, you may have to get up and go to work every day, and you may have to attend some mandatory meetings. But you do not have to attend a going away party for a colleague you don't even like. But if you are still having trouble not giving that fuck? I recommend a visualization exercise. Picture how you're going to feel when you walk into that party: annoyed or full of joy? It's been a long day, your feet hurt, you don't love socializing with your colleagues at the office, let alone at a shitty bar You really don't love pitchers of warm Coors Light. So, what should you do? RSVP 'No' of course. Why would you spend your fuck bucks or your actual bucks on this party? I'll tell you why. You do it because you feel obligated and guilty. You are psyching yourself out of a perfectly fine response, "No," before you even try it. Most people just don't think this stuff through. They say "Yes" to things like this right away, then wind up wasting time, energy, and money on an annoying, unenjoyable night out. You waste even more time and energy just dreading the party a week beforehand. And even more, trying to come up with ways to weasel out of your commitment, then worrying you'll be seen as an asshole for
By Asmae El assri11 months ago in Humans
The power of Breakup
Numerous people over then are single can you please raise your hands okay we've a couple of single people over then how numerous are committed can you please raise your hands okay we still have a couple of people how numerous people over then have fallen in love okay all of you great how numerous of you have ever had a heartache Cabeza Cadell to tie yes so a caution before I start that I'll make sure that there will be one bifurcation in this room I can not guarantee if there's one new relationship also but one bifurcation for sure Bollywood has made us see love stories as the end destination we've always been brought up that the ideal story when a actor measures actress when the idol meets a zero in is the ideal state is the destination to be but nothing talks about what if the story ends what if the entire story ends what if there's a heartache what after that what after the happily ever after nothing talks about that thousands of times ago man was God man had measureless powers as God would have suddenly man started misusing these powers abusing these powers and the Supreme God realized that he needs to take these down so he asked his counsel where should I hide it so the first counsel said put it deep in the ground but also God said man would find that and dig it out the alternate counsel said put a deep in the ocean and God said that man will find that out as well the third counsel said put it at the top of the mountain and God said that man would climb that mountain one day so God so the Supreme God decided that this power the source of this part needs to be hidden in the heart of the man where it can not be set up yes the heart the key to this power are only two yes two one is love the other bone
By Asmae El assri11 months ago in Humans
