How to Know if a Shy Guy Likes You

How to Know if a Shy Guy Likes You

1. He smiles when he sees you.

The way a guy reacts to your presence reveals their true feelings. A shy guy may be tight-lipped and do his best to not reveal too much, but it’s hard to disguise your initial reaction to someone. If he lights up whenever you walk in the room, it’s a very good sign that he’s interested in you romantically.[1]

This is an especially strong sign if he doesn’t tend to do the same thing with other people.

2. He goes silent around you.

A shy guy may not have the boldness to sweet talk you. If he’s even slightly more talkative with other people but he clams up around you specifically, it’s a sign that he’s into you. Shy guys often overthink what to say or do when they’re around people who take their breath away, so you may feel like you’re always carrying the conversation.[2]

This isn’t to say that he’ll avoid you. In fact, he’ll probably go out of his way to be around you—he’ll just be really quiet (and maybe a little awkward).

3. He listens attentively to you.

Shy people tend to listen super hard to compensate for their quietness. A shy guy can come off like he doesn’t really have a lot to say if he’s into you, but he’ll have no problem paying close attention to you. If it feels like he’s a very attentive listener and it seems like you’re always the one ending the conversation, it’s a sign they’re super into you.[3]

This is particularly noticeable in group settings. If he looks off in the distance when some people talk, but looks at you and nods along when you speak up, he’s probably interested.

If he ever spaces out when he talks to you or he seems to get lost when you speak for more than 5-10 seconds, he may not be into you.

4. He stutters or trips up around you.

A shy guy may try to be cool around you, but he’ll probably seem awkward. Shy guys may be quiet around other people generally, but he won’t necessarily seem awkward. If he’s around you and his quiet calmness suddenly turns into an embarrassing and perplexing goofball, it means he’s trying really hard to impress you—even if he isn’t particularly good at it.[4]

They may tell you odd jokes or make a lot of confusing comments. You may even get the impression that they’re messing with you sometimes.

If he’s just generally awkward around everybody, it’s likely that he’s just a bit of an oddball and he may not like you.

5. He blushes when you compliment him.

He’ll probably have a strong reaction if you say something nice to him. Shy guys often aren’t ready to take a compliment from someone they like, and you’re going to throw them for a loop by saying something kind and sweet. Throw him a semi-flirty comment and see how he reacts.[5]

You might say, “Your hair looks really cute today,” “I really like your outfit,” or, “Has anyone ever told you that you look like Chris Pratt?”

If he likes you, he will likely stammer, clam up, or get visibly embarrassed. He may also pay you back an awkward compliment of his own.

If he isn't crushing on you, he won’t have a strong reaction. He may just say, “Oh, thanks,” and keep moving.

6. He asks a ton of questions.

A shy guy may not want to talk about himself, so he’ll ask about you. If a guy tends to pepper you with questions, it means that he’s interested in you. This may be super noticeable with a shy guy, though. Introverted guys tend to be a little uncomfortable when it comes to talking about themselves, so he’ll redirect the conversation to focus on you.[6]

This is also a sign that he wants to keep a good conversation going.

In addition to questions about what you’ve been up to or what you like to do in your spare time, he may ask a lot of random questions. He may ask things like, “What does your name mean?” or, “What’s the worst job you’ve ever had?”

7. He gets fidgety around you.

People fidget when they’re not confident, so see if he gets twitchy. He may play with his hair, keep touching his nose and eyebrows, or play with his hands and fingers. When seated, he may shake his knee up and down or move around a lot.[7]

This is a natural reaction people have when they’re not calm, and a shy guy will definitely not be cool when they’re around someone they like.

If he fidgets when he’s bored and you spot him fidgeting all the time when he’s in a boring class or a meeting, the fidgeting around you might not actually mean a whole lot.

8. He volunteers to help you.

A shy guy will volunteer to do things for you just to be around you. If he’s jumping at every opportunity to help you out, he’s super into you. But even if he hasn’t volunteered, a shy guy with a crush will jump at the opportunity to make you happy if you ask him, especially if it means they get to hang out around you. Try asking for a tiny favor and see what he does.[8]

You might ask him to help you carry something out of your car, or help you with your math homework. If he jumps at the opportunity, he’s definitely into you.

If he agrees to help but doesn’t seem particularly excited about it, or he sort of sighs and says, “I guess,” he probably doesn’t have a crush on you.