Am I Good Enough?

Every day, even every moment, I always ask myself if I'm good enough. You know, as a child, student, or partner. That thought sometimes burdens myself. Someone once said that it's just a normal thing.Isn’t?

Sometimes when I achieve something or succeed, I feel proud and satisfied with myself. But when I see someone my age achieving more than me, I start doubting myself again, thinking "mine still isn't good enough compared to others".

Have you ever felt the same way?

Am I being ungrateful?

"Again, it's about the appearance, clothes, and body shape. How do they manage to be beautiful since birth? How do those clothes fit them perfectly? Why are they so skinny? Oh, my dream legs! I want their skin so badly. They're experts at dressing up, unlike me. That's what plays on my mind when I'm in crowded areas. Sometimes I feel guilty about myself. Whatever, how do they manage to be so perfect?"

Am I cruel?

or is it a world that demands us to be too perfect?

One of the primary reasons why individuals may feel not good enough is due to comparison. In today's digital age, social media platforms often present curated and idealized versions of people's lives, leading us to compare ourselves unfavorably to others. This constant comparison can foster feelings of inadequacy and self-doubt, as we believe we fall short in various areas of our lives. Additionally, societal standards of success and beauty can further perpetuate the notion that we are not measuring up to expectations, fueling our insecurities and negative self-perception.

Moreover, past experiences of rejection, criticism, or failure can also contribute to feeling not good enough. Traumatic events or childhood experiences of neglect or abuse may deeply impact our self-worth and create a lasting belief that we are unworthy or flawed. These internalized negative beliefs can manifest as chronic feelings of inadequacy and unworthiness, affecting our confidence and ability to pursue our goals and aspirations.

The effects of feeling not good enough can be profound and far-reaching. It can lead to a persistent sense of anxiety, depression, and low self-esteem, impacting our mental and emotional well-being. This negative self-perception can also hinder our relationships, as we may struggle to establish healthy boundaries, communicate effectively, or trust others due to our underlying feelings of inadequacy.

May I tell a little bit about my experience?

I had always been independent and self-reliant, afraid of letting anyone too close for fear of being hurt. Despite Alex's unwavering love and patience, I struggled to fully open my heart, always keeping a part of myself guarded.

As the seasons changed and their love blossomed, my attachment issues grew heavier, casting a shadow over their once bright relationship. One fateful evening, under the glow of a full moon, I and Alex sat down together and had a heart-to-heart conversation.

With tears in my eyes, I confessed my struggle with attachment and how it was affecting our relationship. Alex listened with a heavy heart, knowing that our love alone might not be enough to heal my wounds. After a long and emotional discussion, we made the difficult decision to part ways, knowing that it was the best choice for both of us.

In the days that followed, I and Alex navigated the bittersweet aftermath of our breakup, each taking time to heal and grow on our own. We remained friends, holding onto the memories of our love with fondness and gratitude for the lessons learned.

And then, one sunny morning, as I sat by the brook where we used to picnic together, a sudden realization washed over me like a warm breeze. I understood that sometimes, in order to truly love another, I had to first learn to love and accept myself fully.

With newfound clarity and a heart full of gratitude, I set out on a journey of self-discovery and healing, knowing that one day, when the time was right, I would be ready to love again - not in spite of my attachment issues, but because of them.

And as for Alex, he too found solace in the wisdom gained from our shared experience, knowing that sometimes, the greatest love stories are the ones that teach us how to love ourselves first.

And so, in this little town where love and growth danced hand in hand, I and Alex's story came to a close, leaving behind a trail of hope and possibility for a future where attachment issues were no longer barriers, but stepping stones to deeper connections and a love that knew no bounds.

But here comes the plot twist - as I continued on my journey of self-discovery, I stumbled upon a hidden treasure within myself - a newfound sense of self-love and acceptance that shone brighter than any star in the sky. And in that moment, I realized that the greatest love story of all was the one I was writing with myself, paving the way for a future filled with boundless love, both for others and for the most important person of all - me.

that’s all.one advice from me is always remember that you are worthy:)