Vassilena Vizeva
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How to Gain Control Over Your Thoughts — Practical Guide
How to do that is based on the concept of cognitive defusion — a powerful skill from acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT) that allows us to separate ourselves from our thoughts, giving us the freedom to choose which thoughts to believe and act upon.
By Vassilena Vizeva9 months ago in Humans
This Unexpected Practice, Backed By Science, Is Where You'll Find the Key to Your Self-Motivation
If we put our minds to it, we are capable of accomplishing anything. When it comes to accomplishing our objectives, though, we may at times get the impression that our minds are actively working against us.
By Vassilena Vizeva2 years ago in Motivation
Tips and tricks for outdoor adventures
I am really curious – are you one of the parents, struggling with their teenagers? Trying to juggle between family, work and other things? Finding proper or any balance is quite hard, especially nowadays, when kids are much more prone and keen to share their thoughts on their Insta stories, instead of doing that at the family dinner.
By Vassilena Vizeva2 years ago in Wander
Believe that usually it's for the better
The context Being a parent is not always an easy thing. Actually – sometimes – right the opposite. I got my first child at the age of 25 and back then my only goal was to work and build a career. A woman with a strong masculine energy, a relentless pursuit of succeeding and extremely eager to make the best out of the corporate world. That’s who I was 13 years ago. Later on I got my second child, but my mind didn’t change. What I really wanted was just to have it all – a nice family, vacations and me – becoming the first female VP at this early age (33/34) in a large, multinational company. Suddenly my grandfather – the backbone of our family passed away, soon after my mother got very sick and somehow, I started realizing that my life needed to change. Funny enough, couple of months later Covid-19 came and for the first time in 20 years I had to stay at home, take care of a sick parent, be a housewife and a mother, while working for 14-16 hours a day. With the support of my partner, but can’t say I realized how much he was helping me back then. Because, you know, I was the Eastern-European version of She-Hulk … And that’s when the huge breakthrough came. It was not sudden. Even though it came smoothly over a period of time, to a certain extent, I was not prepared at all. Being driven by “My way or the highway” mindset, the strong drive to success – money, career, power, influence, I forgot who I really am. Eventually for the next two years, my life unfolded in a way that allowed me to remember that, start looking after the “real me”. With lots of ups and downs, mistakes and pain, unbearable emotional struggle, but also – surrounded by my kids. And as The Little Prince says – “The essential is invisible to the eyes”. I don’t really remember when I started seeing the truth with my heart, but it was awakening, enlightening and quite the opposite of my life for the past 20+ years. Realizing that all you need is right in front of you, and you have to flourish and nurture it was absolutely outstanding. I know most of you would say “Yeah, Thank you, Captain Obvious!”, but you must understand that I was raised as a top performer, always with the highest expectations, not being allowed (or not allowing myself) to be an ordinary person, nor paying attention to the small details. Don’t get me wrong, I am still on the path, but at least now I feel comfortable and know what I really want from life. And my biggest desire was revealed during the lockdowns.
By Vassilena Vizeva2 years ago in Humans