Cienna Jones
Bio
Cienna Jones is someone who does not take the easy road. She says everything that is on her mind. This young woman is a critical thinker, a dedicated author, and a social norms breaker.
Stories (4/0)
The Glass Bowl of Grief
For those who have yet to experience grief, I hope you have a strong support system in place to help you through your time of need. For those who have experienced grief, I extend my hand out to you. Grief is something I think people tend to overlook. The social norm is that we all acknowledge that grief exists, but we don’t talk about it. Most of society tend to think grief is physically losing something. That something could be anything: a loved one, a beloved pet, an old friend, or an elder. The kind of grief that tends to be overlooked are the ones that people can not see. A memory from someone you once loved, an inside joke, or even someone who you put time into for them to only walk away. While walking away is physical, their words are what leave an impact. The old saying is true: words hurt. Period. Grief may be one of the most overlook emotions a person can have. Everyone has heard of the five stages of grief. Denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. These emotions do not always happen in this order and can happen more than once. But does anyone ever fully accept what they are going through?
By Cienna Jones4 years ago in Psyche
The Life of an Empathic Person
The feelings of sympathy and empathy run deep in people like me. How would I describe people who are like? They are the ones people would call an old soul, someone who acts mature way beyond their years. Someone who would do anything, someone they cared asked about them because it is driven in their human nature to people everyone else above themselves. When someone you care about looks you deep into your eyes, into your soul, and tells you the hardships they are going through, your heart tears into a million different ways as your mind starts to churn and your heart starts to pulse. These overwhelming feelings of how to make their pain your number one goal is something that pushes aside any feelings you personally felt. You want your soul to reach into their heart and pull out all the negativity they feel and gently caress their minds. It is like when you would rub the head of a child to soothe them, to put to mind any feelings of unease. You want to take away their feelings of guilt, pain, sadness, being scared, or any worries that they have about that monster that could be hiding in their bed or hiding in their closest. As an adult, there will always be those monsters under our beds and in our closets, but now, they are also in the trunk of our cars, in the bathroom stalls next to us when we are taking a bathroom break at work, or when we go to the gym. Being considered an old soul, at times, tends to feel more like a curse than it is a blessing.
By Cienna Jones5 years ago in Motivation
Toxic Relationships
Toxic relationships are everywhere, and everyone experiences them. Whether it be within your work environment, your friends, or even your family, there is no way to avoid them. We all see people for who they truly are, but this does not mean that we choose to actively see these toxic traits or personality. So, how do we handle toxicity in our own lives? A good friend once told me that the situation is not a bad one unless it messes with your daily function. If this person’s toxicity is affecting your day to day life, maybe you need to sit back and ask what kind of meaning they bring to your life. If you are a different person when you are around them, are they worth being around? Often, it also might be difficult to understand if you are a toxic person in someone’s life. This does not mean that you yourself are a bad person or you do bad things, some people just should not be friends or meant to get along.
By Cienna Jones5 years ago in Humans
Wellbeing and Success
If you look at the definition of wellness, according to the definition on Merriam-Webster, it is “the quality or state of being in good health, especially as an actively sought goal.” While the definition states that you must be in good health, I beg to differ. Everyone thinks that wellness is always about being in tune with yourself. I think the best time in your life is being the person who you don’t know, and this could be both in good health and not so good health. While the word health is being thrown around, this can mean both mental and physical. And while this idea can sound extremely negative, this can also be extremely positive. If you are someone who does not handle conflict well and one day, you can are in a situation where you would normally run away, and you stand up for yourself, this is a situation where you are not following the normality of your life. Being who you are is a statement that does not help anyone get further in their life. At any age, do we really know who we are? At 12, I wanted to be a nurse or a doctor. At the age of 20, I want to be a psychologist. In seven more years, I might want to become an accountant. There is nothing wrong with your life going in a million different ways. When I started college, I wanted to right away to go through school, get my associates, my bachelor's, my master’s, and end up with a Ph.D. Life is not about checking off a list and saying that’s how your life is going to go. You might be reading this and thinking, “Why am I listening to this woman talking about wellness and being who you are?” Let me tell you, my friend, I have a lot of credibility in success and failure. Over the course of my school career, I have had many different failures and successes. I strongly believe that failures are something that can be the driving point for some people. Everyone will have events in their life that shape them into who they are. I have always been successful, even though sometimes in my life that I was not always well. I also think success is a word and idea that can only truly be defined by the individual person. One person might think getting an office job is the definition of success, while another would thank that graduating a two year community college is a huge success. Both are very valuable in their own ways, and along the way, there was a person who failed or didn’t know who they were at the time. These things matter because wellness and success do not always have to go hand in hand. The takeaway from this is that you need to think of yourself first. Be selfish. Take the success and take the failure. You become a new person every single day, and in a perfect world, your mistakes would not matter. While there are a lot of times that you cannot change the things you have done in the past, you can always make better choices that can change your future. Make sure you gauge your wellness and figure out if you’re in or out of tune with yourself, and see who you like best. Always look towards what can help you achieve the best version of you, and you will see where your wellbeing is. Even though the definition of wellbeing will never change, I think we as a society can change how we view it and what it means to the individual.
By Cienna Jones5 years ago in Motivation
