relationships
Trace the link between feminism and relationships from outdated norms to modern conventions including chivalry, working mothers, splitting the bill and beyond.
Don't Let Them Break You
I lay on the floor gasping for air, screaming silently. I was sure I was going to die. He outweighed me by at least sixty pounds. I couldn't move. I felt my airways closing.
Jessica YaddowPublished 7 years ago in VivaSuddenly Promiscuous
I was thirteen. I had never been kissed. I was an innocent girl. I knew about sex, as much as someone who wasn't planning on having it can know. I had a friend. She had been my friend since we were only five and six (she was a year older than I). She had "dated" this man that was in his 20s. They slept together and everything, which she was just elated about. I thought it was kind of gross to be with a guy so much older than her, but that's how she was. They later broke up. She went through a drastic change with depression and excess sleeping around. At the time, I thought that was just her getting older and that would be the road she had chosen. Now, I don't think that was the case, but we will get back to her shortly.
Vanna JamesPublished 7 years ago in VivaDomestic Abuse & Me
My nearest and dearest often describe me as strong, loud, resilient, and many other terms similar (mainly loud). My patients have referred to me as "firm but fair" and "take no shit." So you can imagine why for someone like me admitting I was in trouble, admitting that I needed help and admitting I WAS a victim was so hard for me. But, as a nurse in women's services, I couldn't cope with what I felt would be hypocrisy. I need to practice what I preach. All that has kept me going recently is turning the worst time of my entire life into a positive experience, trying to turn myself into a positive role model. Showing my little sister, my patients, other women, and my loved ones that we all deserve to be safe in our homes, in our minds, bodies, and the world we live in.
Natasha SmithPublished 7 years ago in VivaI Was Supposed to Feel Empowered, Right?
Eric, 21—Nice smile and has a cute dog, totally right swipe material, oh he’s in. Jersey—left swipe. Josh, 20—EW he’s drunk in every one of his pictures... left swipe. Chris, 22—oh hello, handsome, right swipe. Oh this is awkward it wasn’t a match; maybe he just hasn’t found my profile yet? That’s what I’m going to choose to believe. Lance, 21—he seems okay enough...right swipe. DING DING DING! It’s a match! Okay his profile is boring and I have nothing witty to say about him so, I’m just going to go with a classic. A little while later, I realized maybe that was a mistake.
Emily SpencePublished 7 years ago in VivaSororities: Cult or Culture?
It was something I had been dreaming of since I was little, especially since I only had brothers. I imagined having a close knit group of friends who were the underdogs who still came out on top in a climactic show of a well deserved victory like the Mighty Ducks, Space Jam, or any other 90s underdog story so as soon as I got the chance, I did it. I joined a sorority. No, those creepy door videos and rumors of hazing didn't faze me, oddly enough and surprisingly enough, hazing is seriously frowned upon in my organization, which gave me relief that I had one less hoop to jump through. I went through Spring recruitment which is more laid back and conversational and you get to skip the 60 dollar formal recruitment fee, which was a plus, and once the girl I spoke to talked about her dislike of children, I knew I found home.
Sydney MoorePublished 7 years ago in VivaWhy Female Breadwinners Struggle With Relationships
Being born a female means that you're going to live your entire life dealing with double standards and mixed messages. This is a major reason why we need feminism right now. It's not fair to us, nor is it healthy for society to have these double-standards, either.
Ossiana TepfenhartPublished 7 years ago in VivaThe Fairytale Lie
Have you ever looked at your newsfeed and felt the bitterness and envy of seeing yet another engagement photo or extravagant wedding? Did you feel frustration that you hadn’t found a love like that? Or anger that your own partner hadn’t popped the question? I felt these emotions many times before and brushed it off as if it was normal, but it’s not. I stayed in a loveless relationship for 6 years because I felt the pressure to get married especially since we had a child together. I worried if I left what others would think, and I worried most about who would want me after a failed relationship. I thought that my fairytale ending would be impossible if I left. These are all premeditated thoughts I had, but never really questioned why those fears were so strongly present. I mean men don’t have that same pressure on them if a relationship fails right? If you admit to having felt any of the thoughts above, take a minute and question where are these thoughts coming from? And more importantly what is your definite purpose in life? Is it solely to find a partner? Or have you just been so distracted by society's pressure, you never got a chance to answer what else you want out of life?
PMDD: Reminders to Partners
If you are the partner or family member of someone with PMDD, you have our sympathies. We know how challenging, disruptive, and scary that can be. Why does the ordinarily reliable, loving, generous, nurturing, capable woman in your life become decidedly unreasonable, overemotional, paranoid, seemingly selfish, and full of rage once a month? She seemed to like you so much only yesterday. Now she's demanding some space and acts like never seeing you again would be a gift. Is it something you did or said? It can be all too easy to take the PMDD behaviors personally and worse, lash out in return. So here are some helpful things to remember:
Cheeky MinxPublished 7 years ago in Viva