relationships
Trace the link between feminism and relationships from outdated norms to modern conventions including chivalry, working mothers, splitting the bill and beyond.
Afraid of Intimacy
His name was Jeremiah and I met him when I lived in Australia. He was the second of twelve children, 24-years-old, and born into a conservative family. I was close to his younger sisters, my brother was close to his younger brothers, my mom was close to his mom. We went to his house all the time. I was 13 and he was 24.
Mathilda BurtonPublished 6 years ago in VivaHow Does This Grab You?
I have written and re-written … re-thought this article over and over again. I've been trying to figure out how to dive in and more importantly unravel the feelings that a man who crossed the line on a date caused. As a victim/survivor of sexual assault I don’t know if how I feel and felt about the moment he went in for a grab is a “normal” feeling. I feel a sense of frustration at not knowing how my reaction and feeling would have been different had I never been victimized; I guess I will have to tackle this article on two fronts.
Marnie GrundmanPublished 6 years ago in VivaI Did It for Me
I was late. It wasn't a cause for concern. My cycle was pretty irregular, I was stressed out between work, my relationship, and other life spheres, and I had an upcoming vacation I was making sure I was prepared for. Honestly, it didn't really hit me until I realized, "Hey, am I going to have to pack tampons?"
Lauren CharlesPublished 6 years ago in VivaMy Worst Date
After already having used the app for a year, I went on my very first Tinder date. I use the term “date” semi-loosely, because it definitely wasn’t your classic dinner-and-a-movie. He came to campus, to my dorm room, where we proceeded to hang out with a movie. I distinctly remember him arriving with a whole binder-full of DVD selections, but ultimately we went with Mean Girls on Netflix. As these activities usually go, it led to him predictably putting his arm around me, itself alone an act suggesting we do more. And we did hook up, short of actually sleeping together. It was literally Netflix and Chill. Not unusual behavior. Except I was nervous, and said I had changed my mind about potentially doing any of “that.”But I ended up taking part anyway, albeit not too enthusiastically.
Ashley CataquetPublished 6 years ago in VivaDomestic Violence Is a Problem
Domestic violence. In those two words what do you think about? Is it the way a man hurts his woman? Or how he forces her to have sex with him? Choking? Screaming? Or simply your childhood? When those two words are spoken, most people think of how a woman is hurt. According to helpguide.org, "Not all domestic violence is on a woman. They also happen in same sex partnerships." Domestic violence is not something someone can just look over. You may find your "prince charming" but he's not all so perfect. Domestic violence can happen to anyone. You can be a loving wife but it doesn't matter to the assaulter. Domestic violence is a well known problem that people are very uninformed about. The domestic violence hotline calls have spiked 84 percent since the rice tape was publicly seen on September 8th.
Annabelle RagerPublished 6 years ago in VivaLiving in an Abusive Relationship
Let me tell you a story about love, which turned out to be the worst story of my life. It all began in winter 2015. I met this guy on social media; he is five years older than me. He seemed genuinely nice and was very much interested in me. The moment I met him was just when I was applying for university. But we still started to hang out. He even got my number from somewhere, which I found adorable. At this point we started dating. This was my first real relationship. I dated guys before for like a month or two, but I knew this time it was real. I was madly in love with him. And he was the proper gentleman - picking me up from school, cooking me dinner, making all these small romantic gestures. Everything was perfect for a couple of months, but then I got accepted at university that is four thousand kilometers away from home. So I had to leave in September for uni. This is when everything changed, he changed. He became extremely jealous of my girlfriends. He didn't let me go out with them. I was only allowed to go to uni and work. He used to get annoyed at me if I spoke to my mum for more than fifteen minutes. He hacked my Facebook profile and was reading all of my messages with my friends. He was determined that I was cheating on him, even though he knew where I was every single minute. Because of him, my first year of uni was horrendous - I didn't meet any new people, I didn't have fun with my friends, I only studied and worked.... and spent hours FaceTiming with him. He wanted to have the FaceTime on during the night just to make sure I didn't go anywhere without him knowing. Yet, I didn't leave him. I was stupid and madly in love.
Nikoleta KolevaPublished 6 years ago in VivaHell Into Heaven: Final Chapter
Chapter 7: Nikki November, 2012 My stomach is starting to hurt again. Thankfully my classes were done with for the day. I walked to the bus stop that I usually take to go to the hospital where I volunteer with Jesse's mom. Luckily it's the same hospital I was going to be delivering at. After I make it to the doctor's office where Jesse's mom works at, I wobble over to her and whisper to her.
J.A.K. HansenPublished 6 years ago in VivaHell Into Heaven: Chapter 6
Chapter 6: Jesse Holy Fuck! I'm going to be a dad! I was happy and freaking out at the same time. I didn't plan on coming back home with my mom after my break up with Nikki.
J.A.K. HansenPublished 6 years ago in VivaHell into Heaven: Chapter 5
Chapter 5: Nikki August, 2011 Jesse and I have been in a relationship for about 6 months now. It's only been online and via text messages but none the less it felt great to have someone to love again. It's funny that we were in love and that we even had visions of living together some day.
J.A.K. HansenPublished 6 years ago in VivaNatural Born Lovers
As promised, my words shall continue to bleed into coherencey. I last discussed the premise of a women's natural born sexuality/sensuality that is deemed to be closest to her innate biology and psychology, while formulating an idea as to what that would look like.
Asherah WayPublished 6 years ago in VivaUnexpected Friendship Final Chapter
So yes, I went back. After all of that I went back. I was afraid of what life might be like if I left, afraid of what he might do. I stayed for another year and half. I went through more abuse, physical and emotional. The fights would get to the point of no return each time ending in me in tears and trying to leave but he would block my way out. I contemplated jumping off our three-story patio on more than one occasion just to escape him.
RaeAnna MercadoPublished 6 years ago in VivaFrom Nothing to All I Ever Wanted
It all started when I left my family in Kent to live with a man I barely knew in Devon, all because I wanted to be loved, I wanted to be IN love. At first it was great and I was happy. Unfortunately, one day he left for work and I was catching up on sleep as I worked nights. However, his laptop was repeatedly pinging and so I went to mute it. The stupid boyfriend of mine left his Facebook page open and a conversation between him and another girl spread all over his screen. It seemed like he wanted me to find it!
Deanna hortonPublished 6 years ago in Viva