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My Ex Girlfriend Told Me To Leave Her Alone (If You Leave Her Alone Will She Come Back)

Are you worried with the thought my ex girlfriend told me to leave her alone. If you've been thinking of ways to get her back, then you should be commended for not wanting to give up. I've been in a place where I was saying if you leave her alone will she come back just like you're in now. Well the good thing is that it can be fixed.

By Banks RobertPublished 2 years ago Updated 2 years ago 7 min read
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My Ex Girlfriend Told Me To Leave Her Alone (If You Leave Her Alone Will She Come Back)
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Your girlfriend says she needs space. Whenever a woman says that, the man she is talking to panics a little inside. She may tell you that it's just for a little while so she can sort through some of what she's feeling. Maybe she'll say that she's feeling overwhelmed and can't think if she's always with you. Regardless of how she phrases it or what she says to justify it, when a woman tells a man she needs space, or time or some distance, it means just one thing. It's the first step towards an official break up. If the woman you love has told you that she needs some time for herself, you need to act now or you're going to lose her. It's really that simple.

Becoming overly emotional is common when you feel your relationship is unraveling. However, when your girlfriend says she needs space you've got to try and keep your composure. If you've already cried, begged or pleaded with her, you can remedy that, it's not too late. What you need to be doing right now is putting a smile on your face. Show her that you're okay with things. Tell her that you're fine with her needing some time for herself. In fact, take it a step further and explain to her that you were actually considering the same thing. You need to do this to accomplish one major goal. You have to balance out the feeling of rejection. If she tells you that she wants time away from you and sees that you're devastated, the rejection belongs to you. If you also tell her that you need space too, the rejection is going to be felt by her. It may seem like a childish game, but it's part of human relations. If you want to keep her, you have to learn how to appeal to her emotionally by pushing certain triggers.

Another thing you must do if your goal is to maintain the current relationship you have with your girlfriend is actually give her the space. Take a couple of weeks away from one another. During that time do your very best to not contact her at all. Quite often when a person feels they need time away from their partner, they underestimate how empty their life will feel without them. If you can allow your girlfriend the time she's requested, she'll begin to miss you. She'll have a strong sense of the void in her life that you always fill. This is one of the best approaches to take if your girlfriend says she needs space. Give her what she wants and show her that you respect her and her needs.

10 Reasons Why Women Dump Men

If you want to get your girlfriend back or get your wife back, or if you want to know more about how to keep your woman, you need to be aware of the 10 reasons why women dump men. You might think that it's because women judge the men they reject to be too ordinary, too boring, too lacking in the high-powered career, ritzy apartment or condo, hot car, sharp wardrobe or other trappings of success.

While it's true that women do take note of these things and certainly don't mind if you want to share them, the fact is that for many women (maybe most) no amount of money or power or even good looks is enough to put up with a jerk, or worse, a brute. The usual reasons women might offer when heading for the door don't usually contain much solid information. So, what are the real reasons why women dump men?

Let's look at the top 10 (in no particular order):

1. He's cheated on her

Trust is built by small acts - calling when you say you will, doing other things you say you'll do, when you say you'll do them - in other words, being someone she can rely upon. The ultimate breach of trust is when she believed your heart was open to her, but you slept with someone else. It is very difficult to forgive and impossible to forget, and for this reason, some couples are never able to recover the trust and the love they once shared.

2. Disrespect

Lack of respect to her, her friends and her family is behaviour that says "You don't matter." In the extreme, it may be expressed as violence including verbal and physical abuse, but long before that stage there is lack of respect, and it tends to escalate when there is any kind of stress, which is inevitable in life. So, it has to be asked: if you don't respect her, why are you with her?

3. Everything's always a joke

If you behave like the chuckleheads at the back of the school bus when you were in grade 4 and everything's always a joke, don't be surprised if she treats you like the childish jerk you are acting like. What's bringing this on? If it's stress, see your doctor and maybe get a referral to a therapist, or risk losing the woman that you love.

4. You're self-involved

You interrupt family meals to take phone calls. You're two hours late. You forget to call. You missed her birthday or your anniversary. You never think of buying her flowers, giving her a compliment, or a kiss, or even noticing her, because your concerns are just so much more important that she is. The thing is, you're so involved with yourself that everyone else is taken for granted - they're just the chorus to your leading man at centre stage.

5. You're just a Neanderthal

OK, Neanderthals aren't here to defend themselves. Maybe they didn't tell vulgar jokes, belch, shower infrequently, spit on the street, leave the toilet seat up, throw their dirty clothes on the floor, pick fights, beat on each other, and drag women around by the hair. If they did, they probably didn't score very often, and they certainly didn't earn the love and respect of good women.

6. Some more very nasty bad habits

Drugs, alcohol, gambling, a tendency to violence and being widely unpredictable are all ways to do serious damage to your career, your life, and especially your relationships. Some women are attracted to bad boys who live on the edge, but the fact is it is very hard to live a happy, productive life either as or with a bad boy. Go ahead and be the bad boy - but don't expect to find lasting happiness with the woman of your dreams if you do.

7. Women dump men who are slobs

So Tom Cruise puts on a tux and heads for the red carpet with his stunning wife and a two-day growth of stubble. Johnny Depp is photographed in ripped jeans and a grubby shirt hanging out. Doesn't mean you're going to get away with it. Better spiff yourself up. Throw out the ratty shirts and go shopping. Cut back on the beer and eat better. Get into the gym and lose the belly fat. Get a haircut. Look after your teeth. Make her proud to be seen with you.

8. Not enough interests in common

OK, we get it, you love sports on TV and she doesn't. So, just what is it that you two share? Or what is it that you used to share, back when you first fell in love, but haven't done together for ages?

9. A failure to commit

Have you thought through what you really want, in your career, in your personal life, in your life with her? Or is she just the one you're with while you're waiting to meet Ms. Incredible? That's what she's going to suspect if you've been together longer than 6 months and there hasn't been any serious talk about a shared future.

10. She simply doesn't love you

This is the tough one, and the one most women would rather never admit (even to themselves). How could she possibly have fallen out of love with you, that is, if she ever truly did love you?

Do You Truly Wish You Can Get Back Together with Your Ex?

Relationship is a fragile bond that when it's broken, the process of mending can be much more difficult than creating it in the first place. Sometimes it's an extremely difficult task to sort out all the problems and get back together with your ex. No matter how many times you come up with different reasons and approaches, your ex does not seem to change the decision to leave you. If you’d like to get your hands on a step-by-step method for changing your ex's decision about the breakup, click here!

Let me show you exactly what to do to salvage your relationship and rekindle the lost love one more time…even if you're the only one trying…and even if the situation seems hopeless. Head over now to Get Your Ex Back Secrets

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