gender roles
A look at the evolution of gender roles, from Leave It to Beaver, paternity leave, female breadwinners and more.
Wearing the Pants
Who wears the pants in your relationship? It's one of those questions that people always tend to ask couples and it's one of those things that has always gotten to me.
Samantha ReidPublished 6 years ago in VivaI Don't Know What To Eat...
Ah, the female dilemma. Now before anyone jumps down my throat about this: if you are female and know what you want to eat every time someone asks you, then I applaud you for that. You are steps ahead of many individuals and you need to hold onto that decision-making ability. You are truly gifted as a member of the gender.
Samantha ReidPublished 6 years ago in VivaMotherhood: To Be or Not to Be
“So, when are you two planning on having kids?” A question asked during holidays and events from friends and family that I dread more than anything. At 24-years-old I feel like the last thing I want to worry about is taking care of another human life. Yes, I have thought about having kids in my future, but that future is still far off. This does not make me selfish or lacking of some type of love in my life. For some reason, women get told they are ‘selfish’ if they don’t intend on having children one day. Are men treated the same way when asked?
Ashlyn HarperPublished 6 years ago in VivaMore Than Rape
When I was in 7th grade, we read To Kill a Mockingbird by Harper Lee. I was in advanced English and we were expected to be more mature than the rest of the students in our year, so this book was perfect. There was death, discrimination, the n-word was used, and, sadly enough, a rape accusation. However, I had a hard time wrapping my mind around the phrase “taken advantage of.” What made this even more absurd was the fact that there was no actual rape in that instance. I understood that to mean you’re being used or cheated, you’re being naive, or you’re simply too ditzy to know what’s going on. Rape is not so benign.
I Slapped The Pastor
Everyone was pleased with the new pastor, whom I’ll refer to as Tim (not his real name) at first. The new pastor was younger, preached in a style that made the congregation pay attention, encouraged people to refer to him by his first name. Tim was full of ideas that people hoped would help revive a decades-old neighborhood church that needed to grow. We all were drawn to him and we wanted to help.
Hillari HunterPublished 6 years ago in VivaOnce Toxic, Always Toxic
I am going to share some personal details of my past relationships. I have had so many dysfunctional relationships that I can’t help but stop and think that maybe the problem is not all of the men I’ve dated.
Karli SantanaPublished 6 years ago in VivaBeing Black, Female, and Childfree
All I did was say that I needed to use the one computer in the office designated for staff use. My co-worker turned my request into an attack on her and her pre-school aged child who were eating lunch at the desk the computer sat on. She told me that she knew I didn’t like kids, but I had no right to be rude to her and her kid. “I didn’t think I was being rude, but if you thought that, I’m sorry,” I told her. I could have brought up the fact that her kid had an open container of BBQ sauce and a soda dangerously next to the computer’s keyboard. I could have pointed out that there were other places in the building where they could have eaten. The weather was nice enough that they could have had lunch outside. I didn’t go there. She grabbed her kid – whom she had a habit of bringing to work with her most days -- and stalked off.
Hillari HunterPublished 6 years ago in VivaWomanhood in This Society
I just want to start off by saying that I do not like to sugarcoat things or beat around the bush so if you are one of those people who might get easily offended (most Americans) than this post may not be for you. So with that said, if the above applies to you, then please avert your eyeballs. Thank you much!
Alyssa HornPublished 6 years ago in VivaMountain Climbing into a "Man's World"
Woman's empowerment is a major topic in media all over the world right now. From speaking out about sexual assault to woman having the right to make their own choices in whatever capacity we have come a long way, but there is still a long way to go.
E.W. JanesPublished 6 years ago in VivaPretty or Smart
Since I come from a Hispanic family, it is tradition that girls must wait to alter their appearance until they are 15 years old. The reasoning behind this mentality was always lost on me but I always respected traditions since I didn’t want to upset my parents. If we’re being honest I was always too afraid to go against any authority figure, I just assumed they knew best and that was all. However, the day I turned 15 was one of the happiest days of my life, not because I got fancy pictures with extravagant ball gowns or shiny heels, it was because I got so much makeup. As mentioned before, I wasn’t allowed to wear any makeup before, so you can imagine my excitement when my mother and aunt took me to a Mac store and bought me all the essentials. I was so happy and impatient I stayed up very late that night just to play with all my new toys, truth be told I ended up looking like a horrifying clown but it was so worth it. I’ve always been an artist, drawing is one of my favorite hobbies in the world. However, life gets busy and you don’t always have time for it, but makeup allows me to draw everyday on myself and the happiness that brings me is priceless.
Being Indian
Being born in an Indian family has its pros and cons. Lets start with some of the pros. Learn how to cook just by watching your mother Eating homemade Indian meals unlimited times Dress up in beautiful outfits Best wedding parties Massive family which means there isn’t a dull moment During festivals and events the most common gift is money Brought up to be respectful and generous towards others
Why I Stayed
At the end of the hype of the announcement of letting everyone know you have been a victim to domestic violence, the one question lingers: "why did you stay?" With the stigma that the abused is part of the problem for being a coward and staying.
Rube mayflowerPublished 7 years ago in Viva