Years ago, my aunty passed away from Lupis, the disease of a thousand faces. It weakens your immune system so you can't fight off illnesses or viruses very well. I was really close to her; she was like a second mother who would listen to me when I was a troubled teen.
Being a stay at home dad is both one of the easiest and one of the hardest things I've ever done. I'm no homemaker, by any stretch. I constantly look for the easiest way to get something done, with the least effort from me. Some could call me lazy, and I'd only disagree to a point. But there are no shortcuts with a child. There are a thousand books, and none of them teach you a thing. Sometimes things come natural, sometimes you know you've messed up every moment of it.
Absent fathers are not rare, likewise with absent mothers. But when you grow up with cute little nuclear families all around you, you begin to wonder about your own family system. I have carried around so much weight, so much doubt in myself because of your absence and lack of parenting- but I now know that I had to experience that, to become the strong character I am today.