When A Covert Narcissist Finds Someone New - Part 1

When a Covert Narcissist finds someone new, it can feel as if we weren’t/ or aren’t good enough.

We can feel like our world is coming down around us.

This is especially true when you are being discarded by a covert narcissist husband.

To have given so many years of your life to a person, and in some cases even decades, and to have the covert narcissist just up and discard us for whatever reasons that conjured up in their minds can leave us baffled.

This discard sadly can cause many of us to feel as if we want to get back in their lives.

Because if we can get them to take us back, it will validate our egos. It will show that we matter.

But the truth of the matter is that we do matter and we do not need them to tell us that.

Understand this.

The narcissist in your life understands that in discarding us and then moving on the next week or in some cases in a few days that we will hurt.

The covert narcissist knows this and they delight in the idea that they can hurt us without even having to harm us.

This is why the covert narcissist hurried up and moved on after the split. They already had people waiting when they decided to discard us.

The discard is to give them pleasure because they know that getting rid of us — and then finding someone else to replace us — is just emotional and psychological torture that many of us would not be strong enough to bear.

Are Covert Narcissists Evil?

I do believe that these people are pure evil. In every sense of the word, they are the living embodiment of what it is to be demonic. They smile in our faces while conspiring in their dark hearts and minds of all the nasty and cruel things they will do.

There is no rhyme or reason why they have such a desire to destroy our lives, but you must understand that the new love interest in their life is nothing more than just a tool to hurt you.

The covert narcissist does not love.

And I dare say that a majority of these people have no concept of what love is.

Well, they may love to hurt and use people, but the love that we ordinary empathic and mature people feel is an alien concept to them.

No matter how much they (the partner and supply) may smile in their Facebook post, Instagram post, or other social media platforms, the new supply is nothing more than a…lie, a tool, to the covert narcissist.

Much like we were.

And the sad thing about it is that most times, the new covert narcissist supply “doesn’t even know this themselves.”

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The New Covert Narcissist Supply

The covert narcissist supply is JUST AN ILLUSION.

The covert narcissist husband/wife knows that you are watching.

The new covert narcissist supply is just a tool to HURT US.

And the more you watch their relationship the more you will hurt.

Instead of being angry at the new supply, pity them.

Even if they know the narcissist left us for them.

Pity them because they have no idea how they are being played!

They have no idea that they are just being used. This is what the covert narcissist does; they only use people.

What To Do When Narcissist Finds New Supply

When the narcissist finds a new supply, here are a few things you can do to keep yourself from pulling yourself apart and thus doing the job for the covert narcissist for them.

You are so much more than you give yourself credit for and YOU HAVE TO REMEMBER THAT!

End of Part 1

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