What makes us medioce?

At work and in life, most of the time we want to get ahead, just like in the village, we want others to respect us and make us feel great. But we are very sorry to find that no matter how strong our subjective desire is, we are still very mediocre in the end, and do not become the kind of people in our imagination. Why is this? Based on my own short life experience and the information I get from reading books, I think it's not just external causes and birth defects that cause this, but our own subconscious choice of mediocrity. This is very paradoxical. On the surface, we do not want to be mediocre, but why do we choose mediocrity subconsciously?

The realistic plot of man causes the conservative choice

We live in this land, from birth to death, all the time by the land of the Ming culture and hidden culture influence. The pragmatism and realism of Chinese people is one of the most profound cultural accumulation. Our parents, our teachers, pass on this spirit all the time, but it is realism and pragmatism that make us more mediocre. Pragmatism demands immediate results, not a long, nebulous future. In most cases, the best choice of the moment is not the best choice of history. The overall reason is that our vision is often not long term, only see the present, is far from the overall optimal judgment. Generally speaking, Westerners like to take risks, and they are willing to try their best to struggle without knowing any results. In this way, even if not all of them can succeed, they have gone out of the range of local minimum after all. Too much emphasis on practical benefits also limits the breadth and depth of our thinking, making us always think about the problems around us, rather than thinking about the broader issues.

We value the result more than the process

The history of victory gives us too much warning, that is, must have a good ending. In fact, no one knows how to achieve a good ending. If the result is bad, then the person is bad. When we evaluate a person, there is always one good and one bad. This binary idea of black and white eliminates the complex and rich nature of human nature. When a person is in the scenery, many of us follow the praise and praise, but not to see his success process and real experience, also do not praise the various spirit worth analyzing, we look at the surface things, which makes us often lose the opportunity to grow. We can look at all kinds of literature and history books in history, few are objective and most are one-sided. This kind of culture is not suitable for any kind of meaningful exploration, because we don't really respect the so-called losers.

Laziness in thought and behavior makes us mediocre

We grow up in most of the process, the mind is lazy, not willing to think about the current problem, always want someone to give their own ready-made answers. Who says Chinese are diligent, diligence only shows in physical labor, but many times we don't want to use our brains. We waste too much time on the little things, too much attention on the mouth. France's Le Pen analyzed similar phenomena in detail in his book "The Mob." Why a good person, finally can be led to a dangerous point by a leader. The expansion of this group psychology leads to each individual losing his or her independent self, and even taking pride in participating in it. In the day after day, year after year of life, gradually fall into it, unable to extricate themselves. The pressure of survival makes him physically and mentally tired. There is no spirit of the past, no action to strive for it, and push all the words to the outside environment. This is an impetuous society, in which no one can change; But you can change yourself, let yourself calm down to do a thing deep, do thoroughly, do others unparalleled degree.

Greed makes us mediocre

It was the best of times, it was the worst of times, wrote Charles Dickens in A Tale of Two Cities. Our greed makes us think about the maximization of interests every time we are faced with a choice, instead of choosing what we can do. Greed disturbed the peace of mind, and confused the eyes, lost direction. Always waste a lot of time and resources in vain. We don't have potential to become outstanding person is not, nor did not become a useful talent, we eventually became the mediocre person, become a dispensable person in society, that is the result of selection in our subconscious, we too realistic, too much emphasis on the result, we are too lazy, too greedy, therefore, for mediocrity end, We can only seem "happy" in the face.