What are the common unspoken social rules?
It is often said that in many areas of society there are two sets of rules, one of which is implicit. What are they? Can from society, family, workplace, network and so on.
1. In fact, when your mind is filled with such thoughts as "bad birth, bad education, bad appearance, bad communication, bad environment", your life is doomed to never see the light of day. On the other hand, when you recognize your limitations and accept them, you should focus on being serious and being good so that you don't have time to go to the invitation to feel inferior. I want you to see the light, the dreams, the hard work, the hope. No one can go back and live again. But you and I, starting now, determine what our future will be. 2. Learn to be a double face in front of acquaintances to learn to cry poor, income 10,000 to say 5,000, income 5000 to say 2000. Must learn to show off in front of strangers, income 2000 to say 8000, income 10,000 to say 50,000. Remember, don't reverse this order, the former is to balance the mentality of others, the latter is to win the respect of others. 3. Did you notice? Beautiful people tell you to reconcile with makeup; Successful people tell you that frustration is wealth; Rich people tell you not to take money too seriously, people in love tell you to enjoy being single. But when you come back to reality, people on the shore turn around and stride, but you are a leaf boat, no one near the ordinary and broken you so, don't be disrupted by others in your life, love yourself is the real reconciliation. Everyone likes you, until you're their competitor. 5. The more people close to you, the more can't stand your sudden change for the better. 6. No matter how wolves bite each other, they have the same attitude towards sheep. 7. People who do not have to toast with the leading role at the wine table are generally the leading role's cronies. 8. Energy is not as big as god Buddha, do not easily let the people close to him. 9. No one can resist the temptation of profit. If there is, it is because the interest is not big enough. 10. According to the doctor in the mental hospital, all male patients want to do great things, and all female patients want to be loved. 11. The end of repeating the same mistakes is to humiliate yourself. You can't get back what you lost. Rereading a book may bring you new insights, but no new endings. 12. Contact people and things with a transactional nature, and the end will not be bad. And the feelings piled up with company and conversation, once linked with interests, will immediately fall apart and show their true colors. 13. Don't take it personally. The motivation behind being good is worth your attention. Some people flatter you to confuse you and kill you. 14. Keep your ears closed and your mouth shut. Know what you hear, but don't talk about it. 15. Have a bottom line and don't give in like a soft touch. Be tough when you're tough, and I'm talking about actions, not words. 16. Learn to play possum. Don't show off your ability. It's easy to get a lot of work done that shouldn't be done, and it's easy to get people on their guard too early. Try to give people the impression that they are stupid but industrious and progressive. People usually like people who are weaker than themselves and do them no harm. 17. Never say so-and-so is bad in front of anyone, even if you hate him. Opinions can be buried in the heart. 1. Young don't whine what plain is true. Your indifference is laziness, fear, comfort, a dog afraid to see the world. When you are young, you should go to the mountain of fire. 2. There's an illusion called "I have a passion in my head for a while and I'm done with it." There's an illusion called "I'm so excited about doing something big to change the world before I go to sleep that I can't even get up early the next morning." 3. All the pressure you feel comes from the panic that you don't work hard or actively and are not satisfied with the status quo. 4. What accompanied me all the way was never kindness, integrity and positive energy, but vanity, jealousy and unwillingness. 5. Buy a house as soon as possible. Buy a cheap car and use it. 6. Don't start a business with friends or relatives. 7 heart to be ruthless, to live. 8. Be wary of people who gossip about other people in front of you. They will gossip about you in front of others. 9. Hide your strengths and grow stronger. Grab the plane and try to move up the food chain. 10. Be emotionally limited and don't be too nice to others. 11. Learn to say no to unnecessary social activities (such as drinking) and instead focus on self-improvement. Respect comes from real strength, and good interpersonal skills only work on the basis of strength. 13. One enters the world early and seems to be more worldly, but this is not necessarily a happy thing. Because, by devoting precious time to other, less important matters, he misses the best opportunity to acquire knowledge, to develop a way of thinking, to develop correct values and moral character, which determines the limitation of his personal development. 14. The world is what you are. 15. Don't expect human nature. There will be no disappointment in your relationships (and those of your closest friends). 16. The fundamental attitude of others toward you is not what you do, but who you are. In a relationship of unequal power, the weaker party always fantasizes that the other party can give them affection. 17. Not everyone is empathetic. You'll get tired. Everyone, without exception, will eventually become the person he hated at the beginning. Just as a senior said to himself: my bad habits were formed after I started working. 19. You're not as important to others as you think you are, and that's not necessarily a bad thing. 20. Your motivation for giving should not be based on the expectation of something in return, but simply because I am willing to give is enough. The sooner the 17 this life experience understand better: 1, Ming accounts with you friend, step 2, don't underestimate those too modesty "dress up as pig to eat tiger" say is this kind of person three don't always think about please others, the more you care, the more humble 4, for the good things, should dare to think dare to believe in yourself deserve 5, anything, If you accept it, it won't be painful. If you don't accept it, it will always be painful. 9. Keep a low profile when entering a new environment. Losing temper is instinct, pressure is skill. Don't get along on the face of passable. Learn to save money and control desire. Don't be too good to a person. There is no need to conflict with people who have no values. Don't easily forgive a person who hurt you. To see what value each other can bring to you. 17. Focus only on things related to making money.
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