Buehler Bowen
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What are the common unspoken social rules?
1. In fact, when your mind is filled with such thoughts as "bad birth, bad education, bad appearance, bad communication, bad environment", your life is doomed to never see the light of day. On the other hand, when you recognize your limitations and accept them, you should focus on being serious and being good so that you don't have time to go to the invitation to feel inferior. I want you to see the light, the dreams, the hard work, the hope. No one can go back and live again. But you and I, starting now, determine what our future will be. 2. Learn to be a double face in front of acquaintances to learn to cry poor, income 10,000 to say 5,000, income 5000 to say 2000. Must learn to show off in front of strangers, income 2000 to say 8000, income 10,000 to say 50,000. Remember, don't reverse this order, the former is to balance the mentality of others, the latter is to win the respect of others. 3. Did you notice? Beautiful people tell you to reconcile with makeup; Successful people tell you that frustration is wealth; Rich people tell you not to take money too seriously, people in love tell you to enjoy being single. But when you come back to reality, people on the shore turn around and stride, but you are a leaf boat, no one near the ordinary and broken you so, don't be disrupted by others in your life, love yourself is the real reconciliation. Everyone likes you, until you're their competitor. 5. The more people close to you, the more can't stand your sudden change for the better. 6. No matter how wolves bite each other, they have the same attitude towards sheep. 7. People who do not have to toast with the leading role at the wine table are generally the leading role's cronies. 8. Energy is not as big as god Buddha, do not easily let the people close to him. 9. No one can resist the temptation of profit. If there is, it is because the interest is not big enough. 10. According to the doctor in the mental hospital, all male patients want to do great things, and all female patients want to be loved. 11. The end of repeating the same mistakes is to humiliate yourself. You can't get back what you lost. Rereading a book may bring you new insights, but no new endings. 12. Contact people and things with a transactional nature, and the end will not be bad. And the feelings piled up with company and conversation, once linked with interests, will immediately fall apart and show their true colors. 13. Don't take it personally. The motivation behind being good is worth your attention. Some people flatter you to confuse you and kill you. 14. Keep your ears closed and your mouth shut. Know what you hear, but don't talk about it. 15. Have a bottom line and don't give in like a soft touch. Be tough when you're tough, and I'm talking about actions, not words. 16. Learn to play possum. Don't show off your ability. It's easy to get a lot of work done that shouldn't be done, and it's easy to get people on their guard too early. Try to give people the impression that they are stupid but industrious and progressive. People usually like people who are weaker than themselves and do them no harm. 17. Never say so-and-so is bad in front of anyone, even if you hate him. Opinions can be buried in the heart. 1. Young don't whine what plain is true. Your indifference is laziness, fear, comfort, a dog afraid to see the world. When you are young, you should go to the mountain of fire. 2. There's an illusion called "I have a passion in my head for a while and I'm done with it." There's an illusion called "I'm so excited about doing something big to change the world before I go to sleep that I can't even get up early the next morning." 3. All the pressure you feel comes from the panic that you don't work hard or actively and are not satisfied with the status quo. 4. What accompanied me all the way was never kindness, integrity and positive energy, but vanity, jealousy and unwillingness. 5. Buy a house as soon as possible. Buy a cheap car and use it. 6. Don't start a business with friends or relatives. 7 heart to be ruthless, to live. 8. Be wary of people who gossip about other people in front of you. They will gossip about you in front of others. 9. Hide your strengths and grow stronger. Grab the plane and try to move up the food chain. 10. Be emotionally limited and don't be too nice to others. 11. Learn to say no to unnecessary social activities (such as drinking) and instead focus on self-improvement. Respect comes from real strength, and good interpersonal skills only work on the basis of strength. 13. One enters the world early and seems to be more worldly, but this is not necessarily a happy thing. Because, by devoting precious time to other, less important matters, he misses the best opportunity to acquire knowledge, to develop a way of thinking, to develop correct values and moral character, which determines the limitation of his personal development. 14. The world is what you are. 15. Don't expect human nature. There will be no disappointment in your relationships (and those of your closest friends). 16. The fundamental attitude of others toward you is not what you do, but who you are. In a relationship of unequal power, the weaker party always fantasizes that the other party can give them affection. 17. Not everyone is empathetic. You'll get tired. Everyone, without exception, will eventually become the person he hated at the beginning. Just as a senior said to himself: my bad habits were formed after I started working. 19. You're not as important to others as you think you are, and that's not necessarily a bad thing. 20. Your motivation for giving should not be based on the expectation of something in return, but simply because I am willing to give is enough. The sooner the 17 this life experience understand better: 1, Ming accounts with you friend, step 2, don't underestimate those too modesty "dress up as pig to eat tiger" say is this kind of person three don't always think about please others, the more you care, the more humble 4, for the good things, should dare to think dare to believe in yourself deserve 5, anything, If you accept it, it won't be painful. If you don't accept it, it will always be painful. 9. Keep a low profile when entering a new environment. Losing temper is instinct, pressure is skill. Don't get along on the face of passable. Learn to save money and control desire. Don't be too good to a person. There is no need to conflict with people who have no values. Don't easily forgive a person who hurt you. To see what value each other can bring to you. 17. Focus only on things related to making money.
By Buehler Bowen12 months ago in Psyche
What Is Organic Food, and Is It Better for the Earth?
Whether you typically shop at supermarkets, farmers markets or big-box stores, chances are there are myriad organic product choices available alongside conventional ones. This jives with the overall trend toward thinking through the environmental impact of our actions for more sustainable living. Sustainable food is a large part of that equation, since food processing takes a significant toll on land and water. Those who are conscious of their carbon footprint might even look to raise their bar higher by buying sustainable fish and seafood or growing food at home. If enough people change their eating habits, the earth could benefit big-time. Read on to learn how organic food plays into sustainable food.
By Buehler Bowen2 years ago in Feast
This Is What Happens If You Accidentally Eat Mold
Will eating mold make you sick? You’re enjoying your breakfast when you notice that your banana muffin seems to have grown a patch of fuzzy green dots. You have already taken a bite or two. Now, you wonder, what happens if you eat mold?
By Buehler Bowen2 years ago in Longevity
What Will Happen When Prince Charles Becomes King?
Prince Charles, the future king Unlike his mother, who unexpectedly became queen at just 25 years old when her father, King George VI, died suddenly, 73-year-old Prince Charles has spent his entire life in preparation to wear the crown. Here are some other things you didn’t know about Prince Charles: He’s the longest-waiting heir apparent, and he will be the oldest British monarch to ever take the throne—and it’s still uncertain when that will happen. Although Queen Elizabeth II is 95 years old and the longest-reigning British monarch, longevity runs in her family: Her father may have died young, but her mother lived to the age of 101.
By Buehler Bowen2 years ago in FYI
What Is Environmental Racism, and How Can We Fight It?
What’s it like where you live? Does the air smell fresh? Do you have a green space somewhat nearby that you can enjoy? Is your water clear and clean? These seem like basic requirements for any living situation—and they should be. But they’re not the reality for certain communities in America that are affected by environmental racism.
By Buehler Bowen2 years ago in Criminal
Who likes to buy lottery tickets more
Who is more likely to buy lottery tickets , the rich or the poor ? You might think that rich people have a big budget and would prefer to spend a small amount of money on lottery tickets . Poor people , on the other hand , are so short of money that they can't wait to break a dollar in half . In fact , the opposite are true . The poorer people are , the more likely they are to buy lottery tickets . Economists have long observed this phenomenon : the less money you have , or the more you lose , the more you are likely to take bigger risks . Economists Kahneman and Tversky once produced a study of " utility at the end of the day , " which found that in the last race of the day , more people bet on the horse least likely to win . At the end of the day , those who lose red-eye are eager to make a comeback at the last chance , . So they tend to place their bets on the odds-on (least likely to win ) favourites . We call this all-or-nothing behavior " lottery thinking , " which is also a kind of " poor man's thinking " caused by lack of resources . They think saving money is a waste of time because they don't have enough money anyway , . So they just buy lottery tickets and gamble . So these people will sacrifice their precious real money to buy lottery tickets in exchange for emotional hope . The reason why people buy lottery tickets is because of a special mechanism in our brain , means that making money really feels good , and imagining it feels even better . We have a special physiological machine in our brains that is speeded up more by profit expectations than by actual profits . The more we are short of money , the more we expect and desire this . And it's not just lottery tickets . When we watch sports games , we will find a similar phenomenon . When the trailing team is running out of time , the football players will shoot long distances from the goal frequently . Basketball players take half-court shots in desperation before the final buzzer . Football players throw a " Slam Dunk " passes / passed at the end of the game . In other words , the more one sees a losing team , the more he or she looks for a winning miracle . This kind of " lottery thinking " may be a human instinct . Biologists have discovered that when animals lack food , water and shelter , they create a " negative energy budget " that makes it impossible for them to find steady , subsistence income . What they really need is a lottery hit . Animals in desperate situations , therefore , tend to have more variable harvests . Although this increases the risk of getting nothing , it is also the most feasible way to replenish the energy that is running out . In an experiment conducted by the biologist Thomas Kaleck , yellow-eyed rushes were given two choices : a fixed number of kernels of a plate ; On the other hand , there may be twice as many kernels on the plate , or there may be none at all . Birds that had just eaten were more likely to choose the " sure " option , while hungry birds flew to the plate where the kernels were uncertain without hesitation . The same is true of human evolution . When survival was at stake , our ancestors could only survive if they were willing to take more risks . When food was scarce , for example , early humans might have taken the risk of hunting large , fierce animals , either to get enough to eat or to die at the hands of predators . Conservative compromises , such as gathering wild fruits , did not guarantee survival .
By Buehler Bowen2 years ago in Journal
Scientists have discovered a new way to completely change what you think about health.
One, death, is caused by food, known as Einstein's world nutrition authority Dr. Colin Campbell sincere advice: "Death, is caused by food!" The more nutritious, the more dangerous? The most complete health discovery ever, spanning more than 40 years and shaking up 6.6 billion people around the world.
By Buehler Bowen2 years ago in Longevity
How do you get through the lows?
There is a certain metaphysical aspect to this article, which you may find nihilistic. But if you're having a bad day, you've tried everything and failed, you laugh but feel bitter inside, you occasionally toss and turn at night and spend two minutes reading this article. (To some extent, the article also soothed anxiety.) Pigs fly when they stand in the wind. There are probably a few people in your life who can actually fly. They may have successfully taken advantage of an opportunity, or they may have come across advice from important people, or they may be competent and have a long-term vision. But you're not a "flying man," or even a "flying pig." No matter what you try, it's like a stone falling into a deep pool. You can't see the bottom of the pool, you don't know what's happening "on the stone, there's no reaction. You seem to be stuck in an invisible blind alley. No matter what we did, it had no effect. Life goes on, heavy tasks, complicated relationships, as usual, but now you feel more like you're being pushed forward, and whether you like it or not, it's hard to change the status quo, half-forced to move on. If you're right, read on; If all the symptoms do not fit, then congratulations, you are now in a good mood and luck, seize the opportunity to move forward. It was certainly no use waiting for death when he found himself at a disadvantage. So you seek help, consult experienced people, try to get good sources of information, take a bunch of Photoshop classes... Toss about a circle, as if some harvest, and as if useless. You don't know what to do, you don't know what to do, you don't know the future, you don't know if you are on the right path, you don't know if what you give now will become a future gain -- even if it is a small gain. Now do what, no echo, pay such as stone in the sea, do not know the future will suddenly return to their side. What the hell is going on here? First of all, you need to know that this situation is not your fault, nor is god trying to screw you. You have to believe that there are many people in the world who suffer just like you, some worse than you. If, among other things, you feel "stuck," you're out of luck. "Luck" here is "luck" for at least a long time, then it should be called "luck". In numerology, the amount of luck divided by the amount of time, and the greatest influence on life is the great luck. Every decade brings good luck. Smooth sailing, flying in the sky is common; Unfortunately, a lifetime of condescending, empty talent, not a few. There's one that's perfect for this. It's called "grave transport" -- and you could be in it. As the name suggests, it's like being locked in a boxy enclosed space where you can't go anywhere else, exhausted, confused and anxious about what to do next. At this point, the best solution is to wait it out quietly and patiently. You must be wondering if there is a proactive approach, such as how to end it. I'm sorry. If so, it won't change. It is hard for one to know one's destiny, let alone change it. It is said that ways that can change a person's life are not only evil, but also cause unnecessary disaster. The best thing for you right now is to hibernate quietly and wait for the day when your luck turns and you can go out and do what you can. But waiting doesn't mean sitting there doing nothing but waiting. Since god is destined to spend this time in this narrow space, when others finish, no matter what they do, they end up standing still. Then calm down, learn something, think about life, read a book, eat a good meal, spend time with your family. This is a good time to keep a low profile and reserve strength. That's what makes it unique. It's like God gave you a little long vacation. It may seem like everyone else is moving faster and leaving you in the same place, but really, it's just the luck of different people. This is one of the few times adults can focus on self-improvement. When you calm down to accept the fate of the arrangement, reading meditation, secretly progress, in the fate of the turning day, you can firmly seize the opportunity given to you in front of the fate, grasp the momentum, rise up. King Goujian of Yue ten years lying grass taste gall, and your ten years, is arranged for you by God, no matter how you spend, expired will be taken away. Since there is no opportunity, it is better to calmly accept, calm down, study hard, invest in yourself, and wait. After reading this article, if you're a young person and feeling insecure, that's perfectly normal. Young people do not believe in fate unless there is great pain. And for a middle-aged person who has experienced life, do not believe in life, it is extremely rare. John Tsang once said that if a man does not believe in life at middle age, he has not lived to understand it. "Time, luck and fate." "When the time comes, heaven and earth will work together, and heroes will not be free." Of course, in this article, you don't need to care too much if you have entered the so-called tomb luck, it is just a kind of moral support to let you know that the current predicament is not all because of you, fate often intervenes more than man. Knowing what you can't control helps you feel safer and be able to focus on what's happening in the moment, rather than getting caught up in the anxiety of being betrayed by the outside world and worrying about others' progress. Everyone has a different script. Young glory, may be middle-aged down and out; A clumsy youth may become a rich old man. These things seem to be nothing, but they can give me the determination to support when I am most vulnerable, which is also a kind of fate. I thought if these things helped me, maybe they could help you now. "Fate has forcibly blocked your will to communicate with the outside world, locking you in a small space. Maybe it is heaven's advice that you should study and think more and give yourself more energy." "When the time comes, it will give you change. When the time comes, as long as you borrow their own strength, a little operation, otherwise I in addition to your comments carefully. Some friends said to adjust the mentality of the problem, if the "mentality collapse" has been for a period of time, not a day or two can turn around, do not blame yourself, mentality repair is a long-term process, can not be rushed. These net is auxiliary means, serious word must go normal hospital, normal hospital nobody can joke you -- walk in the street, feel everybody is very healthy, arrived at a hospital, just discovery is a patient, who is qualified, who bear to laugh at others? Now it sounds like chicken soup... A few more long-winded words: the truth is understood, the successful implementation of the people are few, do not need to their own special hard. Some writers (like me), although they rattle on about a lot of important facts, are still at a loss when it comes to them. They're all human, and some things are the same about them. Don't get upset because "he seems to be doing better than I am" or "he laughs at me." If it comes down to him, he probably can't do it any better than you can. Similarly, when someone jokes about your situation, don't pay attention -- who knows if they're crying when you're laughing? There are six things to remember that will make you lucky. Life is a battle between yourself and yourself, your biggest enemy is yourself, if you think life is not easy, it is because you are not strong enough; If you feel that everything is not going your way, it is because you are incompetent; If you think you're in a bad situation, it's because your mindset isn't good enough... Most of life's problems are your own. Only when you solve your own problems can you solve your life problems, emotional problems and career problems. Life is a contest with yourself, your biggest enemy, is always yourself, you only defeat yourself, defeat yourself, to defeat yourself, win life, win life, there is no other way. It is better to strive for the future and regret for the past than regret for the past. It's no use regretting the past. Instead of regretting the past, fight for the future. The past, no matter how good, no matter how bad, did wrong, missed, all in the past, has become the past, do not worry about, do not care about. Life should look forward, move forward, don't because of the past, destroy the present, bury the future. Yesterday's sorrow should not waste today's tears, nor should it ruin tomorrow's beauty. There are always some regrets and regrets in life, live well now, struggle for the future, on the way in the future, leave some regrets and regrets. No matter how hard the life is, no matter how anxious the mood is, no matter how bad the work is, you should not complain, complaining is useless, instead of complaining, it is better to change yourself. The most useless thing in life is complaining. I really don't know what you're going to get out of this other than trouble, trouble. Complaining is the stupidest thing and the least worthwhile. The more you complain, the harder your life gets; The less you complain, the better your life will be. Your life, your life, will be more exciting if you stop complaining and find ways to change yourself. There is no life without difficulties. Life will be blessed, no big deal, no big deal to start over. In the face of life, in the face of life, we lack nothing, nothing is needed, we just need to have the courage to start again. In fact, there are no obstacles in life, only unexpected, unexpected people, everything will be solved. Difficult is difficult, bitter is bitter, tired is tired, but eventually will become the past. He who lives will be blessed. He who has tasted the most bitter, tasted the most sweet, carried the most tired, smelled the most cool and experienced hardships will succeed. All the suffering, is the best test for us! The day does not know the night, and the night always longs for the arrival of the dawn. When you're at rock bottom, when you fail, when you're down, you want to get back up, there's light, there's dawn, but it's never that easy. Before the dawn, before the dawn, there is always a dark moment, no one can hide, no one can escape, we have to accept and face. Groping in the dark, moving forward in the dark, experiencing yourself in the dark, don't be afraid, go ahead bravely, hang in there, endure, hang in there, carry on, the dawn will come forever. Prepare for the worst, and you will have the best result in life. Don't live wrong, don't always expect the best future, but get disappointed results. The disappointment of life, all because they live too ideal. In life, failure, when you are down, you want to get back up, there is light, there is dawn, but it is never that easy. Before the dawn, before the dawn, there is always a dark moment, no one can hide, no one can escape, we have to accept and face. Groping in the dark, moving forward in the dark, experiencing yourself in the dark, don't be afraid, go ahead bravely, hang in there, endure, hang in there, carry on, the dawn will come forever. Prepare for the worst, and you will have the best result in life. Don't live wrong, don't always expect the best future, but get disappointed results. The disappointment of life, all because they live too ideal. In life, failure, when you are down, you want to get back up, there is light, there is dawn, but it is never that easy. Before the dawn, before the dawn, there is always a dark moment, no one can hide, no one can escape, we have to accept and face. Groping in the dark, moving forward in the dark, experiencing yourself in the dark, don't be afraid, go ahead bravely, hang in there, endure, hang in there, carry on, the dawn will come forever. Prepare for the worst, and you will have the best result in life. Don't live wrong, don't always expect the best future, but get disappointed results. The disappointment of life, all because they live too ideal. In life, before the dawn appears, there is always a dark and dark moment when no one can hide and no one can escape, and we must accept it but also face it bravely. Groping in the dark, moving forward in the dark, experiencing yourself in the dark, don't be afraid, go ahead bravely, hang in there, endure, hang in there, carry on, the dawn will come forever. Prepare for the worst, and you will have the best result in life. Don't live wrong, don't always expect the best future, but get disappointed results. The disappointment of life, all because they live too ideal. In life, before the dawn appears, there is always a dark and dark moment when no one can hide and no one can escape, and we must accept it but also face it bravely. Groping in the dark, moving forward in the dark, experiencing yourself in the dark, don't be afraid, go ahead bravely, hang in there, endure, hang in there, carry on, the dawn will come forever. Prepare for the worst, and you will have the best result in life. Don't live wrong, don't always expect the best future, but get disappointed results. The disappointment of life, all because they live too ideal. In life, the best results come from preparing for the worst. Don't be wrong. Don't always expect the best and be disappointed. The disappointment of life, all because they live too ideal. In life, the best results come from preparing for the worst. Don't be wrong. Don't always expect the best and be disappointed. The disappointment of life, all because they live too ideal.
By Buehler Bowen2 years ago in Psyche
8 famous Psychological Effects that You Can Learn to Benefit For a Lifetime
You know what? Every day, from morning till night, a person has to make at least 30,000 choices. You might be surprised at how much of it there is, since 90 percent of it is done unconsciously by inertia. And behind the powerful inertia, in fact, is determined by our mentality. Therefore, American mind professor Ryan. In his book Mindset, Gottfriesen says, "Mindsets are the filter of our psychological energy and the psychological basis on which one works, lives and views the world." Person's life, is to pay for the mentality. And the premise of controlling the state of mind is to understand the internal law. Today, I'm going to share 8 psychological effects with you. May you learn to recognize your state of mind and not let inertia control your life. What would you do if you were accidentally bitten by a crocodile? Most people subconsciously want to pull their feet out with their hands. But as a result, crocodiles not only lose their feet, but also their hands. The longer you wait, the more bites you end up getting. This is the crocodile effect, there are too many similar situations in life - the more persistent, the more pit. Little take-out, knowing that there are quality problems, reluctant to eat, but have a stomach; Waiting for a bus in the cold wind, holding a bus will come to the state of mind, the result is cold. Big investment in a project, found unreliable, hard scalp plus warehouse, lost money; Waste time, energy and other opportunities by doing work that you do not think is right for you; Getting into a bad marriage, fighting all the time, ruining your kids, exhausting yourself. These moments in life are accompanied by "crocodiles" that we can't see. But the real drag on us is not "crocodile", but can not put down the "foot", can not put down the "unwilling". In economics, there is a corresponding concept called "sunk cost", which is an investment of time, money, energy, etc., that has been made and cannot be recovered. In fact, know timely stop loss, not to give up, but a protection mechanism. Put down "sunk costs" and you might get it all back. Harvard professor James Once bet his friend Carlson that he could get him to raise a bird in a short time. Carlson, who doesn't want a bird, wasn't impressed. But soon, James gave Carlson an elaborate birdcage, and things began to change. After that, every time a visitor came to Carlson's house and saw the cage, he would ask, "Professor, when did your bird die?" After repeated explanations, Carlson was so angry that he bought a bird. It's called the birdcage effect when our outer space, our inner energy, is occupied by clutter and trivia, and we gradually lose a sense of control over our lives. Every day, this phenomenon is everywhere. Dusty clothes in the cupboard, a look of embarrassment and annoyance; Top up at the barbershop and regret it as soon as you leave. Most of the things bought to replenish the bill are useless; Too many wechat groups, "hundred years" did not send messages inside; All of this is annoying, tiring and constraining. So Danshari is a rare kind of wisdom. It's called subtraction, to add to life. Only by getting what we need and reducing complexity can we live a more comfortable life without being trapped in a birdcage. Why it's so hard to get back to work after a long vacation; Every time you decide to start exercising, you can't make it through the first few weeks. Intend to memorize every day, the result is three days fishing two days sun net? Behind these phenomena, in fact, are hidden "flywheel effect". We may not have seen the flywheel, but we are all familiar with bicycles. Anyone who has ridden a bike knows that, even on flat roads, you need to pedal hard at the start of the ride to get the wheels moving. But when we step for a while and we reach a point, we don't press as hard; Just put the heel on the pedal with a little pressure to continue riding. This is called the flywheel effect -- getting started is the hardest. We didn't reach our goal because we didn't pass the "pedal to the wheel" phase. But this effect not only reveals the root of the problem, but also offers a solution: act quickly and in concert; In the end, quantitative change leads to qualitative change. When you're in a bad mood, you look for an exit. Thus, negative emotions are more contagious than positive ones. According to Murphy's Law, the "kick cat effect" is a classic contagion of negative emotions: a father gets upset when his boss criticizes him at work. When he got home, he found the child jumping on the sofa. He got angry and called the child a piece of his mind. Feeling discontented and wronged, the child turned to vent to the cat at home and kicked the cat severely. The cat ran out of the house and into the road. A truck passed by and the driver couldn't get out of the way. He caused the accident by bumping into a child playing beside him. The kick the cat effect tells us that bad feelings can spread like dominoes. Let it out, it's a vicious cycle. The best way to prevent the kick cat effect is not to suppress emotions, but to manage them. When your temper comes up, calm down for three minutes, go into the open and yell... Only by managing your emotions well can you avoid becoming the initiator and disseminator of "kicking the cat". As the name suggests, the placebo effect is when patients think they are getting better after taking the drug. In 1955, Dr. Bick made an interesting observation: after a battle, when the painkillers ran out, many of the wounded were still in pain and crying for them. In desperation, the nurse injected them with saline and told them it was a powerful analgesic. Something wonderful happened. After the injection of saline, the wounded soldier's pain really began to ease. Freud wrote in psychoanalysis that the placebo effect is essentially a subconscious self-suggestion. Do not underestimate the power of positive suggestions, in the face of difficult difficulties, optimistic attitude, is a good medicine. O. Henry wrote the last Leaf, a story about the power of a positive mental attitude. A woman named Johnsy was very ill, and the doctor told her there was little hope of a cure. From her hospital bed, she often counted the few leaves left on the withered vine outside the window. And make sure that when the last leaf falls, it's time to go. But strangely, the last leaf on the tree refused to fall. Johnsy was encouraged to live. With the help of the doctor, she finally beat the disease and recovered. At that time, she realized that the vine leaves had fallen long ago. If the leaves did not fall, her friend was telling her about her pessimistic idea and asked an old painter to paint it. Murphy's theorem has such a sentence: "there is no desperate environment, only a desperate state of mind. Life is bright and dark, when we are in the dark, to believe that the light will come. They say you do what you're afraid of. In psychology, this phenomenon is known as the Wallenda effect. Wallenda is a high-wire walking artist who has been practicing without accident for years. At 73, he decided to retire and put on a farewell show. Before the performance, because the performance is so important, he keeps reminding himself: there is no wrong, no failure! Excessive tension, let him in a simple movement error, accidentally fell from the height, paid the price of life. After the tragedy, his wife said: "I knew something would happen this time because he always talks before he goes on the field. Every time he performed successfully, he always thought about the tightrope itself, rather than all that might happen. Come on." People's pressure often comes from too much value gain and loss and results. Study hard, the more you want to change your fate through the college entrance examination, the easier it is to play disorderly; The more prepared you are, the more likely you are to interview... Worry about gain and loss, is a kind of psychological consumption. Look forward, will take a difficult route; Too much care, doomed to physical and mental exhaustion. Master Hong yi said: "Life, wide heart inch, wide road zhang, read and down, everything at ease." When we let go of gains and losses and focus on the present moment, our work and life will be smooth. The French writer La Fontaine wrote this fable: the north wind and the south wind challenge each other to see who can take off the traveler's coat. The north wind tried to blow the clothes off the passers-by. As the wind blew, people wrapped their coats more tightly to protect them from the cold. And the south wind slowly blowing, in the warm wind, let a person feel warm, take off his coat. The south wind effect corresponds to a sentence in Tao Te Ching: "The world is soft, and the world is strong." Softness does not mean withdrawal or cowardice. "Flexibility" and "flexibility" in dealing with people is a power that can turn a sword into a plow. Only through humanized management can excellent managers enhance the autonomy of employees and the centripetal force of the team. Emotionally intelligent parents learn to listen attentively and speak well to help their children grow up in a healthy environment of love and trust. Warmth is a power that goes deep into people's hearts. Psychologist David Rosenthal once conducted the Pygmalion experiment in class. His team went to an ordinary primary school and told school leaders to conduct a "future trend test". Then they randomly selected a group of students, made a list and sent it to the teachers, telling them that these were the most promising students in the school. Teachers began to have high hopes for these students and paid special attention to them. After eight months, the psychologists were pleasantly surprised to find that the selected students' grades had improved significantly. There's a term in psychology called "self-fulfilling prophecy" : other people's perceptions or impressions of us change into attitudes about us; This feedback affects our beliefs, reflected in our behavior and performance, and ultimately confirms what others think of us. In real life, this self-fulfilling prophecy plays out every day. The most typical example is that many girls who did well in science in junior high school are easily influenced by the prejudice that "girls are weak in logic and not suitable for science" when they enter high school. When their science scores dropped, the feedback they got was not encouragement, but "it." They looked over the bars, one saw mud, the other saw stars. The biggest gap between people is not wealth, status, IQ, but mentality. Because life is like a mirror, you have what kind of mentality, have what kind of life. English writer Charles Dickens once said, "A sound mind is more powerful than a hundred pieces of wisdom." I hope you and I can understand ourselves, have a healthy attitude and embrace a happier life through these 8 psychological effects.
By Buehler Bowen2 years ago in Psyche