Life is not as good as it should be.
And this saying seems to be even more evident in modern-day feelings.
We are in a depressed mood every day because there always seems to be the kind of thing that makes us feel uncomfortable.
Or we meet someone annoying on the road, or we meet an unreasonable customer, or we are criticized by our leaders, or our family is not doing well.
Bad things are coming and going, so our mood is always shrouded in a cloud, we want to break free, but what can we do?
Maybe you can try to solve it through writing.
The writing mentioned here is not profound and does not require any talent skills, just write down your mood.
It is not professional writing, you just have to be able to write or type.
Write down your mood, write down your feelings, write down your emotions, write whatever comes to mind, don't care if the writing is smooth, there are no typos, or the punctuation is right.
No need to pay attention to which, you just write it down.
This may sound incredible, but it's backed up by science.
We all know that once we feel pain, then the most effective way is to vent this emotion, it is best to find a suitable person to talk to about it.
But now the pace of life is so fast, everyone is too busy, and not everyone will be willing to dedicate their precious time to you.
Even if we have girlfriends and family members, they can't be with us all the time, so if you want to heal yourself, you can still rely on yourself.
The way to heal yourself is through writing, we can use it anytime, anywhere, no special occasion, no special time, when you feel the need to use it.
But does it work?
Yes, it does. It's very effective.
Because most of the time, when we feel bad emotions, we are usually already overwhelmed by that negative emotion.
At this time how things are irrelevant, we feel only the emotion itself, and because we pay more attention to the negative emotions, will make us will repeatedly ruminate on the event so that we are caught in the emotions and can not get out.
Once we write out the situation we are facing, our brain is bound to mobilize more rational resources to organize our thoughts.
Then the emotions are temporarily put aside.
At the same time when writing, we are using the language and danger zones of our brain, they will buffer our emotional state.
And to get a more specific and clear understanding, reason will take over.
Once we can see things for ourselves rationally and are no longer surrounded by extreme emotions, we will also be more likely to see things for what they are and be able to channel our emotions effectively, to the point where we can generate positive perceptions and conclusions.
In Jamie Pennebaker's book "Open Mind", it is mentioned that people who express their emotions through writing are healthier.
Once, a friend of mine was criticized by the leader and was particularly depressed.
When he really can't get rid of this mood, he took out a pen to write out his real thoughts at the time, sorting out why he felt sad.
When a text was written out, he found his emotions calmed down.
And after rational analysis, he found that the leader's criticism was justified, and this criticism could help him correct the problem and improve his ability.
The reason why he couldn't see this before was that he was already surrounded by extreme emotions and couldn't feel anything else at all.
So, once you find that your emotions also began to appear problems, then take out a piece of paper a pen, or just on the computer on the phone can be, the things that happened, their feelings, what comes to mind to write.
This process does not need to be revised, no need to check, no need to pay attention to punctuation and grammar, just write to your heart's content.
Through writing, you will find that your emotions will gradually calm down, not only relieve the emotions, and heal themselves, but you can also be a more objective and rational view of the problem itself.
You may even be able to understand why this happened and what valuable lessons you can gain from it.
So if you are still surrounded by negative emotions and can't get away from them, take out a pen and paper or keyboard and try to heal yourself.
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The secret journey to regaining emotional stability
Do you feel that the anxious and avoidant types both seem to be strong and independent, but in fact they are sensitive and fragile. They often fall into emotions because of small things and start to be anxious and avoidant? If anxious and avoidant types want to change these, what they actually need is to compensate for their missing parts and heal their injured parts. In this issue, we will teach the avoidant and anxious types how to cultivate themselves again, making their emotions more stable, more rational in relationships, and at the same time gaining the ability to actively output emotional value. If anxious and avoidant types want to overcome the sensitive and fragile parts of themselves and obtain stable emotions, they need not only cognitive adjustments, but also need to heal the traumatized parts of themselves and compensate for the regretful parts of themselves. For example, the regret of the avoidant type is that they have not been paid serious attention to and have never truly rebelled. Therefore, the avoidant type will not fight for their own needs in many situations, resulting in uncomfortable situations and relationships, and they are always running away and wandering. The trauma of the anxious type is that they are trapped in unstable relationships and have been hurt by the instability in intimate relationships. The slightest fluctuation will make the anxious type feel nervous and anxious. Therefore, anxious and avoidant types are inherently fragile, sensitive, and unstable. In summary, these reasons are that something is missing during the growth stage, or they have suffered some trauma, so if you want to solve these problems, this is the time. Compensate when you need to compensate, heal when you need to heal, exercise when you need to exercise, just treat yourself as a child and raise yourself again. If the avoidant and anxious types re-train themselves, what kind of growth can they gain? First of all, emotions will become more and more stable. For example, you can be aware of your emotions at the first time, avoid emotions from affecting your thoughts and judgments, and learn to regulate your emotions. Secondly, you can truly understand yourself and know your real needs and fears. In the process of re-nurturing yourself, you can clearly understand your needs and fears, that is, you can know why you are attracted to a certain person, why you behave like this, and then you can better understand what you need.
By angelababy2 days ago in Psyche
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