Things that Confuse a Narcissist

It would seem that lately a few keywords and experiences keep arising to remind me about the importance of maintaining my own mental health so that I can continue to achieve the goals I have set in place for myself. Recently, I came across a posting that made me think as I have battled many narcissists in my life, and have even been accused of being one despite actually being a Heyoka empath.

I feel like maybe I should enlighten people to what a Heyoka empath is since I brought it up, but that is a subject for another Vocal article, which you read right here. For now, I want to keep with the theme I’ve been discussing regarding narcissistic personality disorder and how people with this disorder behave toward others.

After learning what Narcissistic Personality Disorder, NPD, the various types of Narcissists there are, Narcissistic Nests and Narcissistic family raising, I realized there were many people who suffered from being around NPD.

And it was then that I began to consider a few things that I had even uncovered in therapy as I work toward bettering my own life and one thing that seems to be reoccurring is the following question:

What are some of the best methods to confuse a narcissist?

Being a person who was raised around a Narcissistic family nests and who has regularly attracted Narcissistic types into my life I no longer wanted to continue on with patterns that did not best serve me and after looking into a few things came across some key coping skills.

Here is a list, by no means comprehensive, of ways to cope with the Narcissists you may encounter in everyday life.

Number One:

When they ask you to do something, say ‘no'. And stand your ground.

Number Two:

Allow the narcissist to believe that you are easily controllable and can be manipulated, but when they try to control you, show them you are impossible to control.

Number Three:

Do not give a narcissist any strong emotional reaction when they are being mentally abusive (i.e. throwing subtle jabs at you, offending you, or attempting to triangulate you). Instead, grey rock them by playing it cool and indifferent.

When a narcissist gives you the silent treatment, do not react or plead for them to come and explain where they have been or what is going on. Instead, play their own actions right back at them and do not reach out.

Keep in mind you must remain in your logical mindset so as to neutralize their emotional control if you have any sort of attachment to the narcissist.

Number Four:

Ignore and avoid them consistently. Interact with the narcissist as little as possible and utilize opportunities to practice avoidance, which is the best way to handle toxic individuals - just stay away from them.

Number Five:

Find out the narcissist's insecurities so you can deflect them back onto the narcissist, just as they do you, this disarms them.

Number Six:

Always discard a narcissist before they have the opportunity to discard you, and do this before they have replacement supply lined up, as this also disarms them.

Number Seven:

Once you go no-contact if you must ever see the Narcissist again keep your engagement minimal and be as boring as possible by giving little information or being of any real use to the Narcissist.

Overcoming NPD as a person who has dealt with it through multiple relationship types has been something that has taken me nearly forty years to do but I feel it is important to emphasize that no person is responsible for their mistreatment, for their reality being questioned or for being made to appear crazy for standing their ground. If you find that anyone is gaslighting you please heed these 7 steps and weigh in on how your experience changes once you quit allowing a Narcissist to feed off your spirit.

As Eleanor Roosevelt once said, “No one cannot make you feel inferior without your consent.”

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