Narcissism

Narcissists need to be right to the exclusion of other viewpoints. They are busy projecting onto others traits they find unacceptable in themselves. It is their way or the highway. They are unwilling to see other people’s points of view. Narcissists have a sense of entitlement to everything, which is a lot worse if they have money. Narcissists are self-absorbed and the jury is out on whether or not they can change if they are in a relationship with a non-narcissist. Narcissists like to fish for compliments and enjoy flattery. Until their narcissism context is realized, they have many friends who are willing to be sources of narcissistic supply.

Narcissists groom their friends into being a constant source of admiration, attention, and near-worship for the narcissist. Not many people realize this is the narcissist's modus operandi or MO. Narcissists mistakenly think they are very independent people when real independence, in fact, means that you find admiration about yourself inside you, and only from the inside, since the outside brings fickle admiration as part of their feelings. Narcissists are then very self-centered, but cannot stand to view themselves as incomplete. If their supply acts more independent than their perception, they very well cannot tolerate that situation.

The narcissist then becomes co-dependent on others for survival without being independent of themselves inside their own sphere. Narcissists view people as a source of narcissistic supply no matter what. They might admire somebody for their intellect, their wealth, or their position. If they admire somebody, they try to extract their greatness from them. Narcissists are endlessly admiring of these people until they unwittingly tire of their supply, becoming bored and needing to move on to the next person. To the non-narcissist, having to deal with a narcissist is very exhausting.

Their temper tantrums are epic. They demand things that would put their victims in a compromising position. Narcissists act like they love the victim until they turn cold when displeased. A narcissist is unable to have true empathy, but they can fake it endlessly. Narcissists are very tiresome after their fights get old. They cannot stop picking fights. They fly into tempers quite easily. To be constantly victimized when the victim gets their blinders off is very exhausting—to have to deal with, period. Humility is not a narcissist “thing” at all. They can fake it, but their entitlement always comes out in the end.

Narcissists are often euphoric one moment and dysphoric the next. The up and down is exhausting for their family, also known as their source of narcissistic supply. When they don’t get enough supply, that’s when they get cranky. When narcissism is present, the non-narcissist can be exhausted and wind up feeling crazy from the narcissist's crazy-making tactics. A narcissist can also be on the bipolar spectrum, and when both are untreated—since the narcissist is a treatment refuser—being around them can get exhausting. Narcissists can have narcissistic rage problems as well when they start screaming and won’t stop. Rage has two states: explosive anger or passive-aggressive.

When a narcissist starts feeling shame is when they get the rage issues. Disagreeing with one or stopping them from doing what they want is usually what provokes this behavior. Rage is a primitive state. They do it because they want to act like a child. Narcissists fall into a rage quite easily. They feel repressed anger at trivial things that they unleash on people around them. Narcissists like to yell, scream, and throw things. When a narcissist’s defenses are down, this is a trigger for the rage fits which can, you guessed it, exhaust non-narcissists who can admit they are wrong. A non-narcissist doesn’t need admiration or excessive anything. They know about moderation. When a narcissist is prevented from accomplishing a grandiose fantasy is when they get angry. This is when they lose it. This is when you have to leave the room and look out for yourself. Sometimes it is best to cut these people out of your life. Narcissists are unstable characters who do not know what humility actually is. They rarely experience it, which makes them somebody best avoided.

Bibliography:

6 Signs of Narcissism

Understanding Narcissism

Narcissistic Supply

Narcissistic Rage