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Is it Normal to Talk to Yourself?

You ask yourself, "Why did I set it so early?"

By Emma Published 7 months ago 4 min read

as your alarm goes off in the morning. You may think to yourself as you are brushing your teeth, "I need a haircut... unless?" You grasp for your keys as you rush out the front door but they are nowhere to be seen. You exclaim in frustration, "I can't do anything right!" just in time to hear your neighbor overhear you.

It might be embarrassing to be overheard talking to oneself, and some people may even stigmatize this habit as an indication of mental instability. However, years of psychological research have demonstrated that talking to oneself is totally natural.

In reality, most of us—if not all of us—talk to ourselves in some way every day.

And why do we converse with ourselves? And does it matter what we say? The narration that goes on within your head, also known as inner speech, is referred to as self-talk. It is distinct from mental imagery or remembering numbers and facts. Psychologists specifically describe self-talk as spoken thoughts that are directed at you or a certain aspect of your life.

This includes private discussions such as "I need to work on my free throw." However, it also contains thoughts you have during the day, such as, "The gym is busy tonight. I'll return the following day. Speaking aloud to yourself also falls under this category, even though the majority of self-talk in adults tends to be silent.

In fact, scientists contend that since youngsters frequently talk aloud to themselves while playing, our initial encounters with self-talk are largely vocal.

Lev Vygotsky, a Russian psychologist, proposed the theory that this type of speech was essential to development in the 1930s. Children practice controlling their behaviour and emotions independently by reciting talks they've had with adults.

Then, as kids age, this public self-talk has a tendency to turn into a personal interior monologue.

We are aware that this internal dialogue is crucial since it can aid in planning, provide support in trying circumstances, and even serve as motivation throughout the day. But understanding self-talk can be challenging. It depends on research participants carefully documenting a behavior that occurs spontaneously and frequently without conscious thought. Because of this, researchers are still trying to find answers to fundamental issues like why some people talk to themselves more than others. What parts of the brain are active when you talk to yourself?

What distinguishes this activation from a typical conversation?

What you say in these interactions, though, can actually have an impact on your attitude and performance, and that much is certain. Self-talk that is instructional or motivating has been demonstrated to improve self-esteem, focus, and ability to complete daily chores. For instance, a study of collegiate tennis players discovered that practicing with instructive self-talk improved their focus and accuracy. And just as talking to a friend might make you feel less stressed, talking to yourself out loud can also help you control your emotions.

Distant self-talk is when you speak to yourself as though you were having a conversation with someone else. You can therefore think, "Caleb, you are prepared for this test," as opposed to, "I'm going to crush this exam!" According to one study, using this style of self-talk can help you feel less stressed while performing anxiety-provoking activities like public speaking or meeting new people. Negative self-talk can hurt you, and positive self-talk can benefit you.

The majority of people occasionally judge themselves, but when this activity becomes extremely regular or unpleasant, it can become poisonous. Both in children and adults, high levels of negative self-talk are frequently indicators of anxiety. And individuals who persistently dwell on their troubles and blame themselves for them often feel more depressed than others.

Nowadays, a type of psychological therapy known as cognitive behavioral therapy, or CBT, focuses in part on controlling the manner in which one speaks to oneself. Cognitive behavioral therapists frequently share techniques for spotting negative thought patterns and replacing them with more positive or understanding ones. These techniques have the potential to enhance mental health over time. So be kind to yourself the next time you catch yourself talking to yourself. You'll be conversing with that inner voice for a very long time.


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