How to overcome the phobia of choice?

A choice phobia is rooted in internal insecurity and is often accompanied by obsessive-compulsive disorder, procrastination, and perfectionist tendencies, mostly in pessimists and people with low self-esteem. With so many "great" auras, we can say "we will not stop until we are dead"!

How to overcome the phobia of choice?

These people usually grow up in an environment controlled by authority, even full of pressure and denial, used to obedience and passivity, and afraid to be psychologically responsible for the results of their choices. We just need to work hard and not think about our choices because the authorities are always "helping" us make the "right" choices. No matter what the outcome is, we just go along with it and execute it, so we don't have any regrets about the outcome.

In contrast, when we make choices independently, we are internally responsible for the results that will be produced. Habitual denial makes us subconsciously believe that even a minor choice will have a lasting negative impact. So we are overwhelmed by the sudden power of choice.

At the same time, choice means that we must have given up something while gaining, and the pessimistic tendency makes us focus on what we have given up rather than what we have gained, so we always ignore the satisfaction and magnify the loss after making a choice. All of this adds up to a great fear of choice.

It is safe to say that people who grow up with a traditional strict upbringing have varying degrees of choice phobia. People like us often toss and turn over a small matter, torn by multiple thoughts. On the road of life, every step is trembling, afraid to step on a mine. I hate to get both the fish and the bear's paw, but the result is often nothing.

Fear comes from the ambiguity of the outcome and the unknown, just like being in the dark we will be alert and fearful of the road ahead. For people like us, until we see the path ahead, our subconscious mind will conclude that we are choosing a bad outcome and that it will have lasting effects on our lives.

So, the root of the solution lies in removing as much ambiguity and unknowns from the outcome as possible.

First, learn to instill in yourself the idea that the impact of many small things on life is extremely small and transient, and does not have a lasting effect, even if you do choose a bad outcome, it is no big deal. Even those who were killed said, "Twenty years later, I'll be a good man again," let alone such trivial things as choosing clothes for dinner. This kind of trivial things to learn to look down, think about it almost from it.

At the same time, learn to focus on the things you get, not the things you give up. This way you can get a sense of satisfaction, rather than a sense of loss. For example, if you have chosen to eat "hot and spicy", then you have to enjoy it, and not think about the "ramen restaurant" across the street.

However, the choice of phobia is too serious for people, who know this reasoning but still want to tangle, and some things need to choose carefully, this time what do?

Then use your brain, many people choose to focus on the nagging and fear, but often do not know what they are nagging at the end of the thing! Then try to use reason to face the different results as specific as possible, compare the different results that have different attributes, and which of these attributes you care more about.

For example, if you want to eat hot and spicy noodles, then you can weigh the pros and cons in terms of price, deliciousness, health, hygiene, the time required to eat, etc. (Many choices require only two or three dimensions of comparison to see the advantages and disadvantages). After such a rational and detailed comparison, you can largely eliminate the sense of ambiguity and will know how the choice is more favorable. Otherwise, the unknown and uncertainty will always make people tangled in pain.

I have considered the choice phobia, of all the factors, the rational analysis of things is the most useful.

Life is an art of choice. There are countless forks on the road of life, but there are not many that can determine the general direction. Learning how to cope with the choice is indeed a great relief, and there will not be so many people's heartbreaking regrets. I hope that those of us who "never give up without tossing ourselves to death" will learn to treat ourselves well and reach the destination of our hearts.