ENFJ's Need Deep Conversation

Many of the sixteen personality types are completely comfortable with lighter pleasantries and chit-chatty conversations. People with the ENFJ personality type on the other hand, need deep conversations more than the air they breathe. Here are five main reasons as to why I believe this is the case:

1. They are adventurous with ideas.

The ENFJ has this intrinsic fascination with throwing many wild ideas around. Conversations for ENFJ’s are like kids playing on the playground. Much of what is also entertaining to this type of personality is observing other people’s responses to such unique conversations. This would explain why many people of this type of personality naturally gravitate toward psychology-based professions because they’re studying people subconsciously. ENFJ’s enjoy talking about ideas, problems in society, conspiracy theories, fiction, fantasy, or anything that’s just out there. Deeper theoretical conversations make the ENFJ light up like a lightning bug in the pitch dark. In other words, if you start out taking about the weather with an ENFJ, then be sure to turn it into something a bit more interesting, otherwise you’ll lose them fast. For example, you could throw a question out there, such as, how could weather forecasters for hurricanes be being manipulated by globalists who are trying to foster a new world order?

2. They tend to be emotionally well-versed.

ENFJ’s have uncanny insight into human emotions even as children, the positive and negative ones alike. Feeling things intensely themselves, they are quick to ask people if they are doing okay and are typically genuinely concerned when other people are suffering. When they ask other people questions about themselves, they are ready to listen and assess the other person with enormous amounts of compassion. ENFJ’s hunger for deep conversations that involve other people’s soulful experiences in life.

3. They appreciate fellowship with others.

This type of personality seems to thrive in small group development. They may be prone to host creative writing groups, humanitarian clubs, or religious organizations. Part of this comes from their need to work toward something bigger in life, but the other part of this comes from them wanting to experience fellowship and camaraderie with other people. The ENFJ really wants there to be harmony in a group setting and they can use adroit interpersonal communication to rein the group into a sense of peace.

4. They want other people to feel good about themselves.

Many times an ENFJ will start up a deep conversation with someone because they sense the other person’s loneliness or suffering. They seem to have a ‘spidy-sense’ for the people who are hurting. They see the withdrawn people in the corner of the room and often seek them out through striking up a conversation. Honestly, they are some of the greatest people to handle the, sometimes delicate situation of, or problems of the people who are withdrawn. They can listen well, but they can fill the void of silence and do more of the talking if need be.

5. They are naturally romantic and long for intimacy.

ENFJ’s tend to love romantic things and settings. They strive to create intimacy through conversations. They care deeply and go over and beyond to ask questions to get to know their spouse. Other personality types may find their questions too complicated to answer or they may find the ENFJ too intense. ENFJ’s want to talk to their close friends often and depend on their support. Talking and listening is the ENFJ’s way of making sure that the temperature of the relationship or friendship is good. They are seeking deeper meaning through the knowledge that comes from others willingness to converse.