8 famous Psychological Effects that You Can Learn to Benefit For a Lifetime

You know what? Every day, from morning till night, a person has to make at least 30,000 choices. You might be surprised at how much of it there is, since 90 percent of it is done unconsciously by inertia. And behind the powerful inertia, in fact, is determined by our mentality. Therefore, American mind professor Ryan. In his book Mindset, Gottfriesen says, "Mindsets are the filter of our psychological energy and the psychological basis on which one works, lives and views the world." Person's life, is to pay for the mentality. And the premise of controlling the state of mind is to understand the internal law. Today, I'm going to share 8 psychological effects with you. May you learn to recognize your state of mind and not let inertia control your life. What would you do if you were accidentally bitten by a crocodile? Most people subconsciously want to pull their feet out with their hands. But as a result, crocodiles not only lose their feet, but also their hands. The longer you wait, the more bites you end up getting. This is the crocodile effect, there are too many similar situations in life - the more persistent, the more pit. Little take-out, knowing that there are quality problems, reluctant to eat, but have a stomach; Waiting for a bus in the cold wind, holding a bus will come to the state of mind, the result is cold. Big investment in a project, found unreliable, hard scalp plus warehouse, lost money; Waste time, energy and other opportunities by doing work that you do not think is right for you; Getting into a bad marriage, fighting all the time, ruining your kids, exhausting yourself. These moments in life are accompanied by "crocodiles" that we can't see. But the real drag on us is not "crocodile", but can not put down the "foot", can not put down the "unwilling". In economics, there is a corresponding concept called "sunk cost", which is an investment of time, money, energy, etc., that has been made and cannot be recovered. In fact, know timely stop loss, not to give up, but a protection mechanism. Put down "sunk costs" and you might get it all back. Harvard professor James Once bet his friend Carlson that he could get him to raise a bird in a short time. Carlson, who doesn't want a bird, wasn't impressed. But soon, James gave Carlson an elaborate birdcage, and things began to change. After that, every time a visitor came to Carlson's house and saw the cage, he would ask, "Professor, when did your bird die?" After repeated explanations, Carlson was so angry that he bought a bird. It's called the birdcage effect when our outer space, our inner energy, is occupied by clutter and trivia, and we gradually lose a sense of control over our lives. Every day, this phenomenon is everywhere. Dusty clothes in the cupboard, a look of embarrassment and annoyance; Top up at the barbershop and regret it as soon as you leave. Most of the things bought to replenish the bill are useless; Too many wechat groups, "hundred years" did not send messages inside; All of this is annoying, tiring and constraining. So Danshari is a rare kind of wisdom. It's called subtraction, to add to life. Only by getting what we need and reducing complexity can we live a more comfortable life without being trapped in a birdcage. Why it's so hard to get back to work after a long vacation; Every time you decide to start exercising, you can't make it through the first few weeks. Intend to memorize every day, the result is three days fishing two days sun net? Behind these phenomena, in fact, are hidden "flywheel effect". We may not have seen the flywheel, but we are all familiar with bicycles. Anyone who has ridden a bike knows that, even on flat roads, you need to pedal hard at the start of the ride to get the wheels moving. But when we step for a while and we reach a point, we don't press as hard; Just put the heel on the pedal with a little pressure to continue riding. This is called the flywheel effect -- getting started is the hardest. We didn't reach our goal because we didn't pass the "pedal to the wheel" phase. But this effect not only reveals the root of the problem, but also offers a solution: act quickly and in concert; In the end, quantitative change leads to qualitative change. When you're in a bad mood, you look for an exit. Thus, negative emotions are more contagious than positive ones. According to Murphy's Law, the "kick cat effect" is a classic contagion of negative emotions: a father gets upset when his boss criticizes him at work. When he got home, he found the child jumping on the sofa. He got angry and called the child a piece of his mind. Feeling discontented and wronged, the child turned to vent to the cat at home and kicked the cat severely. The cat ran out of the house and into the road. A truck passed by and the driver couldn't get out of the way. He caused the accident by bumping into a child playing beside him. The kick the cat effect tells us that bad feelings can spread like dominoes. Let it out, it's a vicious cycle. The best way to prevent the kick cat effect is not to suppress emotions, but to manage them. When your temper comes up, calm down for three minutes, go into the open and yell... Only by managing your emotions well can you avoid becoming the initiator and disseminator of "kicking the cat". As the name suggests, the placebo effect is when patients think they are getting better after taking the drug. In 1955, Dr. Bick made an interesting observation: after a battle, when the painkillers ran out, many of the wounded were still in pain and crying for them. In desperation, the nurse injected them with saline and told them it was a powerful analgesic. Something wonderful happened. After the injection of saline, the wounded soldier's pain really began to ease. Freud wrote in psychoanalysis that the placebo effect is essentially a subconscious self-suggestion. Do not underestimate the power of positive suggestions, in the face of difficult difficulties, optimistic attitude, is a good medicine. O. Henry wrote the last Leaf, a story about the power of a positive mental attitude. A woman named Johnsy was very ill, and the doctor told her there was little hope of a cure. From her hospital bed, she often counted the few leaves left on the withered vine outside the window. And make sure that when the last leaf falls, it's time to go. But strangely, the last leaf on the tree refused to fall. Johnsy was encouraged to live. With the help of the doctor, she finally beat the disease and recovered. At that time, she realized that the vine leaves had fallen long ago. If the leaves did not fall, her friend was telling her about her pessimistic idea and asked an old painter to paint it. Murphy's theorem has such a sentence: "there is no desperate environment, only a desperate state of mind. Life is bright and dark, when we are in the dark, to believe that the light will come. They say you do what you're afraid of. In psychology, this phenomenon is known as the Wallenda effect. Wallenda is a high-wire walking artist who has been practicing without accident for years. At 73, he decided to retire and put on a farewell show. Before the performance, because the performance is so important, he keeps reminding himself: there is no wrong, no failure! Excessive tension, let him in a simple movement error, accidentally fell from the height, paid the price of life. After the tragedy, his wife said: "I knew something would happen this time because he always talks before he goes on the field. Every time he performed successfully, he always thought about the tightrope itself, rather than all that might happen. Come on." People's pressure often comes from too much value gain and loss and results. Study hard, the more you want to change your fate through the college entrance examination, the easier it is to play disorderly; The more prepared you are, the more likely you are to interview... Worry about gain and loss, is a kind of psychological consumption. Look forward, will take a difficult route; Too much care, doomed to physical and mental exhaustion. Master Hong yi said: "Life, wide heart inch, wide road zhang, read and down, everything at ease." When we let go of gains and losses and focus on the present moment, our work and life will be smooth. The French writer La Fontaine wrote this fable: the north wind and the south wind challenge each other to see who can take off the traveler's coat. The north wind tried to blow the clothes off the passers-by. As the wind blew, people wrapped their coats more tightly to protect them from the cold. And the south wind slowly blowing, in the warm wind, let a person feel warm, take off his coat. The south wind effect corresponds to a sentence in Tao Te Ching: "The world is soft, and the world is strong." Softness does not mean withdrawal or cowardice. "Flexibility" and "flexibility" in dealing with people is a power that can turn a sword into a plow. Only through humanized management can excellent managers enhance the autonomy of employees and the centripetal force of the team. Emotionally intelligent parents learn to listen attentively and speak well to help their children grow up in a healthy environment of love and trust. Warmth is a power that goes deep into people's hearts. Psychologist David Rosenthal once conducted the Pygmalion experiment in class. His team went to an ordinary primary school and told school leaders to conduct a "future trend test". Then they randomly selected a group of students, made a list and sent it to the teachers, telling them that these were the most promising students in the school. Teachers began to have high hopes for these students and paid special attention to them. After eight months, the psychologists were pleasantly surprised to find that the selected students' grades had improved significantly. There's a term in psychology called "self-fulfilling prophecy" : other people's perceptions or impressions of us change into attitudes about us; This feedback affects our beliefs, reflected in our behavior and performance, and ultimately confirms what others think of us. In real life, this self-fulfilling prophecy plays out every day. The most typical example is that many girls who did well in science in junior high school are easily influenced by the prejudice that "girls are weak in logic and not suitable for science" when they enter high school. When their science scores dropped, the feedback they got was not encouragement, but "it." They looked over the bars, one saw mud, the other saw stars. The biggest gap between people is not wealth, status, IQ, but mentality. Because life is like a mirror, you have what kind of mentality, have what kind of life. English writer Charles Dickens once said, "A sound mind is more powerful than a hundred pieces of wisdom." I hope you and I can understand ourselves, have a healthy attitude and embrace a happier life through these 8 psychological effects.