I Have Been on the Same Bench as You

He wants me to see his side of things,

Be supportive beyond reasoning,

Understand this is a hard situation,

To look beyond my own inclination,

To understand where his anger is coming from,

To agree how your actions are wrong,

But I understand the way you are being,

More than the way he is receiving it,

You see,

I have been sitting on the same bench as you,

As we watch him make decisions without thinking it thoroughly through,

While we sit there silent, but supportive,

Thinking this is the way he has chosen to live,

We have been there after the crash,

Doing what we can,

To help him rebuild a plan,

That seems to keep falling through,

I myself am running out of things I can do,

I myself had felt the resentment build through his Retirment,

Him adding blame based on where he has been,

Then being told we will never understand,

It's a thankless game,

That we had chosen to play,

Where I have chosen to stay,

But I understand why you are acting like you don't want to

I understand his promises haven't come through,

Where there is only so much that words can do,

How we think you can only be down on your luck so long,

How his choices start to look to be what's wrong,

I understand how it is hard to have a serious conversation with him,

Where it doesn't just blend in,

To you admitting you did something wrong,

Where your actions take more blame than where his belong,

How there's only so many times you can ask about being paid back,

Without sounding like a personal attack,

I understand it cannot seem worth it,

Where it's easier to come up with your own solution than follow his,

Where his past is part of how he makes his case,

Us being reminded we have never felt to be in his place,

And we haven't,

And we never will,

As we watch him fill out forms to be funded by his experiences,

Worrying how this concept will impact his next decisions,

I know it can be exhausting,

And hard not to build resentment,

Because we are supposed to trust his intentions,

When to us his actions don't match our own,

I know he is trying by what he has shown,

But the past few months are what we have come to know,

He is difficult,

And Impulsive,

And has fault to the situation he is in,

But he has more to him than the words he has chosen to defend,

I understand your frustration,

And your lack of motivation for reconciliation,

I have been there,

I understand it's hard to care,

When they don't share the same hope or effort to make things right,

I understand wanting to avoid the fight,

and just let it be,

No confrontations mean no bad blood to see,

But you both need to be better than that,

You both need to stop acting like there isn't words unsaid,

and stop communicating only through text,

I understand where you are coming from,

But a friendship isn't something that should be written off as just done.

Try to communicate,

Try to create Boundaries,

Stop feeling sorry and sit down and discuss a nonnegotiable rate,

Put the money expectations back where they need to be,

So, your friendship can fall back in place,

Because it's better to live together as friends instead of enemies.