Defensive Demonizing
Demonized For Human Mistakes
I fucked up
and when I realized it
I felt terrible
that I hurt someone
I cared for so much
*
For a moment
I thought he was
simply setting boundaries
Helping me realize
how I could be a better human
how I could make a change
*
Just when I thought
we were coming to
a meaningful understanding
and the dust was settling
*
That’s when he began
to tell me a story
that seemed unrelated
*
He told me about an angry girl
who was at his house one evening
He described her as sadistic
and said she ruthlessly attacked him
over and over again
*
He said he had to defend himself
to the point of hurting her
because she wouldn't stop
attacking him with that sadistic look in her eye
*
That’s when his friends intervened
and told him to go easy on her
because she’s a friend who means well
*
I was concerned
so I asked some questions
Wondering if he was okay
Wondering why he let a sadistic girl
into his house
who attacked him ruthlessly
*
That’s when he turned the tables
and flipped a switch
*
He compared my honest mistake
that filled me with remorse
and was willing to change
to an angry, sadistic girl
who deliberately attacked him
over and over again
*
Later he told me he thought
she was flirting with him
That threw my head for a spin
*
It made me flashback
to the first night he spent at my place
when he told me there was an older woman at his work
he had his eye on
who he had been pursuing
She had been telling him she’s not interested
but stringing him along
The cruelest form of flirting of them all
As lab rat experiments show
the brain knows no chemical difference
between bread crumbing and a heroin addiction
*
This was all so puzzling
Does he prefer women who's flirting style is cunningly cruel
or sadistically violent?
Does he always demonize the people who love him
when they make a human mistake?
*
Maybe if I was deliberately violent like the angry, sadistic girl
Maybe if I was manipulatively cunning like the bread crumbing woman
Maybe he wouldn't have demonized my honest mistake
Maybe he would have given me a fair chance
instead of discarding me with his judgments
*
But instead
I, the woman who loved him
the woman willing to own up to her mistakes
was hit with the uppercut of his defenses
About the Creator
Sarah Jane
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