Belts & Welts

1. Have Emotional Intelligence

Don’t only physically discipline your children with belts and give them welts, because they will only resonate with the pain they have felt. Have you ever heard people the phrase:

“People will never remember what you say, but they won’t forget how it made them feel?”

They won’t remember the purpose of the game, they will only remember the cards they were dealt. You have to discipline and rebuild them, educate them, then provide them resources and meaningful advice that evokes a deep understanding instead of physical threats of discipline, belts, and welts. Following up with other elements of discipline will help them to heal, will help them to exercise caution to the consequences and yield, it will also garner respect to the power their parents wield.

2. Over Time The Use Of Physical Discipline Will Fail

After a while, they will become tolerant to the pain and the belts will no longer be effective. It’s like fixing something broken but you never looked into “the why” it was defective. If you don’t combine physical discipline with other methods, they will get their consequence education from someone or something else… and that someone or something else may not be a resource that is intended to, or designed to help. Disciplining your youth includes both physical consequences, positive reinforcement and condescending encouragement. Combining these three elements will elevate them, will provide them maturity, and gives their character nourishment.

3. Consequences Of Using Only Physical Discipline As A Primary Method Of Punishment

Rendering punishments that are only physical will cause a child to resent their parents. Most times they won’t openly express this resentment, it will lie dormant. Resentment happened because you have failed to follow up with the other elements of discipline. Between the whooping and the pain they will not be able to sort it. So when you want them to understand the reason behind the whooping, they will not have the ability to absorb it. And when it comes time for them to develop and you attempt to develop them from a child to a young adult you will not be able to form it. Why? Because they will only remember the pain, physical, and psychological torment.

4. Disciplinary Resiliency

Whether you have a girl, or boy, you cannot always yell, and scream this may make them afraid to talk to you or open up to you as well as tamper with their self esteem. There will come a time where those tactics will void. Fear does not fix anything nor scare anyone. It also does not help if your only method of discipline is depriving them of something they enjoy. Address the negative consequences of what they have done, while giving them in depth education and step by step guidance on how to become a productive daughter or son.