You are not loved only because you are good, but you are truly loved

Not long ago, I read an article in which I remembered a very deep sentence: you are not excellent to be loved, but really to be loved, to be true to yourself, is the most attractive person.

Today's society is increasingly utilitarian excellence, resulting in many people in many things will have to weigh the pros and cons, for excellent things will go after, but will forget the original intention.

We should follow our hearts, know what we want, be confident because of being firmly chosen, and know our preciousness because of being loved so that we can be more determined and work harder to be ourselves, which is the real meaning of becoming excellent.

Excellence is not defined, there is no complete definition of excellence, and how do you evaluate a person called "excellent"? In contrast to the excellent, the two defined people can be successful, and confident can also be a failure, low self-esteem. But these evaluations have limitations.

If you are a successful person, you can be good, you can be rich, you can be good, you can be a gifted scholar, you can be good, you can be funny, you can be good.

Is a person with good empathy not good? There are always people who are good at these things in different fields, so why can the strongest people in the field be defined by different fields? This in itself is an unfair and unscientific thing.

Excellence is not a reason to be loved

Do people who are loved have to be good? Is not being good not a reason to be loved? Will your parents leave you because you are not good? Will the people who love you leave you because you are not good? No, be loved because you deserve it, not the added value of those who are not defined.

Hairy Lili is a very gentle girl, but because she grew up very fleshy, so she did not have many friends and was ostracized by her peers at an early age, even so, Lili did not change herself, she is still gentle and powerful.

She believes that she is unique, "You can not agree with me, do not accept me, because you do not understand me, but those who understand me, will like me".

After growing up, she is still fleshy, for this reason, friends have worried that she is not good at finding objects, is ordinary-looking, ordinary education, but surprisingly she found a successful career, a very responsible boyfriend, and now is a fiancé.

Do you think Lili is excellent? Compared to better people, she can only say barely, compared to people who are not as good as her, you can say she is very good. So why does this capable man who has seen the world remain steadfast in his choice of her?

Excellent is not the reason to be loved, you only firmly do yourself, stick to the original heart, and maintain self-confidence, you will be the most attractive person, and fate will run you. The reason why many people are so tired of living is that there are too many self-bound, one thing, one thing, so that they put on the "mask", unlike themselves, and false and tired.

Learn to be true to yourself to be loved

Your true self is the one that is truly liked. You have to admit that many elders want you to become what they like, but none of them will say that you should give up yourself to be the one they like.

In other words, their expectations, and suggestions, you can accept, it does not affect you to be the most authentic self, but do not go overboard to force yourself to change. No one wants their children or students to become disheveled and live a life of failure, but I'm sure they wouldn't want you to become unhappy and unconfident either.

It is a change of mind and a consideration of the code of conduct. Everyone is unique and has their shining points, which will be unconsciously done by themselves, so there is no need to deliberately imitate and force yourself to become another person.

The mask will always come off one day, you will see the imperfect self, not enough to be defined as a "good" self, then your world will collapse, you will collapse, will begin to doubt the self.

Be kind to yourself, cherish yourself, believe firmly that you are the best, loved because you are true, do not be bound by anyone's words, and do not tie your wings because of their bondage. Any of the world's divine inventions are successful by breaking through the bondage without even thinking about it.

Believing in yourself is what makes you the most attractive person, in the eyes of the one who loves you, he likes you as a person, without about any added value.

The more charming you are by being true to yourself

When you show your true face to others, others will also treat you with the most real side, the daily pretense, only to make yourself more and more tired of living, over time, but also mistakenly think that they have a "smart". These have a lot of influence on the attitude toward life.

You can carefully observe the people around you who think excellent, admire and admire people, are not very real, very powerful, they are using their most sincere heart to live, serious life, with their sincere infection of everyone.

Nowadays, because of the advanced network technology, most people "have never eaten pork, seen a pig run" a lot of things, a glance can know about, and then to judge a person's truth or lies, almost all are not good deception.

Those who are pretentious, because they want to leave a good impression, said the rhetoric is magnificent, but also just touched themselves, many people will even spit on a few words, but those who say their true ideas out loud, and very serious attitude towards things, more easily accepted, and even like.

Perhaps the words are sharp and unpleasant, perhaps a strong sense of oppression, or perhaps gentle and powerful words, these will penetrate the hearts of people, get more appreciation and like, such people are the most attractive.