Why Your Relationship Don't Last

Five reasons why your relationship do

not last

Firstly, you jump into the relationship too quickly. Very quickly you're just sitting like this waiting for a man to just sweep you off your feet you meet a guy after one week or two, you're already their girlfriend and i'm like whoa! calm down!

let me tell you one thing about us as women. This is mostly focused on women. We are so beautiful my God! We have beautiful eyes, we have the the hair, we have hips, we just walk with glory. We are such amazing human beings and when you deny the man a chance of chasing that beauty , you're doing a very big injustice to yourself. Men love to chase, men are chasers. They want to buy you coffee, they want to buy you flowers, they want to take you for lunch and call you every day. Don't deny yourself that that moment of feeling like a princess. The reason why you should not rush is because that time you're taking before you become their girlfriend is the interview phase. You're taking that time to get to know if he's compatible, if he's what you want, if he has respect, if he's God fearing, if he if he is of good character. Imagine you start going out with someone or going on dates and then you find out he has differences in his character, he's inconsistent, he's lying, he's just not what you're looking for you. It's easy for you to let go and move on. Let's not just see a guy, just because he's tall, he has a nice car, he looks good physically or because he has good english you automatically decide this is the man of my dreams. dont make that mistake please. Get to know them well enough. The earliest that you should be somebody's girlfriend is two months. Emphasis on 'earliest'. So you don't start saying Oh! it's been one month i'm so heart broken, he left me one month at what point did you go on dates, at what point did you vet this guy and at what when did you become his girlfriend to the point that after one month, you're already hurt. If you want your relationships to last, the first thing you need is to stop jumping in too fast get to know these guys first.

Secondly; You're too desperate. You cannot stay without a man. You are so desperate for dating, you're desperate for marriage. You just want somebody. Desperation comes with giving up , we thinking time has gone so much, all hope is lost or with comparing yourself to people. Then you feel like i really need someone in my life, so you start dating a guy you realize he's toxic or he's not your type or he has bad quality or bad manners and you really think you can change him and you really want to make it work. You know you can lie to everybody else but you will never lie to yourself. You know you don't want a man who takes drugs and then you meet this guy who smokes weed the whole day he smokes with the whole day he's taking alcohol and you know that is not something you want in a relationship, but you decide to settle with him because you're desperate.Do you know what happens after three or four months down the line you will realize this man is not the man for me. It will catch up with you so don't lie to yourself. Do not be desperate God's time is the best and when you're waiting don't just sit in there. Continue improving yourself before he comes.

The third one is, you have no idea what you want in a relationship or what you want in a partner. You have to know what you want in a relationship before you go in. You have to know the kind of man you want. By the time you're getting on to go on dates with this guy and you realize he's the opposite of what you want in a man it will be so easier for you to just wash your hands and move on. Don't think you can change anybody. Consider how hard it is to stop yourself from doing that bad habit you used to have.

The fourth reason is; you do not know your value as a person as a human being and as a woman. You do not know what you're bringing in that relationship you do not know how valuable you are you don't know your qualities.

Finally, you have not healed from past trauma. There's something called the childhood trauma. A lot of people go through trauma as a child and that affects how you show up as an adult. The worst part is, some of those nasty experiences that you went through as a child were not your responsibility but sweetie , healing is your responsibility. When you're not healed, you attract an unhealed version you. Positive people who love life don't don't date unhappy women who cry throughout even during the date, they don't! so work towards healing your childhood trauma, your inner child also. Another thing is to heal before you move on to another relationship if one relationship ends take time you can continue about going out with friends, you can get new hobbies , you can just hang out. But don't get into another relationship before you clean yourself from that other relationship

The key to a lasting relationship is working towards having a good relationship with yourself. Being happy alone. If you want to change your the world, if you want to change your relationships, if you want to change your life, CHANGE YOURSELF!.

Thank you for reading. Cheers