self help
Self help, because you are your greatest asset.
A Quarter-life Crisis of a Black Girl
I had a pretty good childhood, surrounded by people who loved me and cared about me, quite strict parents, but good friends I could always count on.
P BPublished 6 years ago in MotivationReasons to Grow
It suddenly occurred to me that terms like self-development, self-growth, inner work and so on - can be misunderstood by many as if they imply lack of self-love and contradict my whole emphasis on it. No, no - wanting to grow has nothing to do with you being less than or you not loving yourself. The opposite is true - once you get a taste of evolving, it will become obvious that there's nothing that screams self-love louder. Let me explain. There are two very distinct ways to look at changing yourself. First one - the one that comes to mind when we don't love and don’t value ourselves, goes something like this: "Something is wrong with me, I need to change that or nobody will love me, I don't feel I'm good enough so I need to do something about it." To be honest - a lot of us feel this way without ever admitting it to ourselves. But it is not the truth and hence nothing can be done about it except learning to love ourselves. Many might strive to improve their outer appearance or become more successful or to be liked by more people - whatever it takes to prove to themselves they are worthy. But the external validation never lasts, it is not about others - hence the term “self-love.” I wrote a post about self-love in more depth. In this current one, I want to discuss what happens when you succeed in it to some degree. First thing that comes to mind - you start to see beauty in the imperfection. Even if things appear messy - it is always up to us how to look at them and perceive ourselves and our life. But that's just the tip of the iceberg. The beauty of life and you living it goes way deeper than we have ever been told. Why? Because it is your personal journey of exploration and learning - mainly learning about yourself. It is widely accepted that what makes life worth living is what you have on the outside - good job, family, friends etc. Those things are important and are a big part of our human experience. But this is not why we are here. We are here to evolve. Spiritually. To grow and learn and transform our consciousness into higher levels. If this sounds too new agey, in other words - we are here to become the best version of ourselves.
Eva SmittePublished 6 years ago in Motivation5 Ways to Be More Adventurous
Let me just start by saying that anything that pushes you beyond your personal comfort zone IS ADVENTUROUS! So that's the good news! What's adventurous to you might not be to someone else and that's FINE.
TamaraPublished 6 years ago in Motivation2 Common Ways People Get Stuck
Let me start this off by saying I am a college student. I'm 19 years old, and pursuing a degree in history as well as studying archaeology. I've got a lot on my plate most days, and on top of all the reading, writing, and research, I struggle with depression and anxiety. I cannot tell you how many times I've woken up at 7:30 A.M. only to turn my alarm off, tell myself, "I just can't do this today..." and go right back to sleep. I cannot tell you how many times I've opened a book on a subject that I am fascinated by, read one page, and put it down, only to end up staring at the ceiling for twenty minutes wondering why I just couldn't understand the words in front of me. I am stuck.
Hannah SnyderPublished 6 years ago in MotivationEmpaths: What No One Talks About
OK, so bear with me for just a minute, and I'll get your attention. I think we're all, to some extent, versed on the whole business of personality types, intro & extroverts and the increasingly more common media topic of ‘Are YOU an empath?’ offering us 10 more or less vague signs that we maybe, or maybe not, tune into other people's emotions.
Sly NoBodyPublished 6 years ago in MotivationReclaiming My Power
1. Self-Care I define self-care as taking the time out of my days to do things for me that aren't mindless. Self-care is intentional preservation of the body and mind. I decided to take care of myself more in the smallest ways, like buying my favorite aromatherapy candle and lighting it when I feel overwhelmed. The larger end of the self-care spectrum for me would be to define speak my true feelings about a situation happening in my life. One example of this is I find myself speaking up for myself more at work when I feel wronged or when I get less than stellar feedback from supervisors.
Courtney RallsPublished 6 years ago in MotivationBoundless
I am not bound to the rules of this planet, but bound to the endless traps of my mind. This, like so many other things, has haunted me. How many times have you been held prisoner? Endless thoughts, sleepless nights, and countless memories; they are all binding you, keeping you. Do you often get lost in your own thought? Wander aimlessly in the darkness that is your mind. What have you missed out there, in the real world? You are a mindless victim of having too much mind. You are captivated in the essence of "what ifs," "maybes," and "could it be." You need help, but who can help you escape yourself? Maybe, reader, you have been the hero all along.
Deinara WilliamsPublished 6 years ago in MotivationHow to Remain Happy and Let Go of Sadness
Perception further creates your reality and experience. Duality is commonly known as an instance of contrast between two aspects of something.
kaley holmesPublished 6 years ago in MotivationThings I Learned When I Turned 21
In the 21 years that I have been on this Earth, what I have come to understand is that, if there’s one thing for certain, it is that DEATH is a FACT. Time is an illusion, it’s a lot more pleasant to think in terms of hours, days, months, years… because why not? I’ll save It for later, I have time... And once under the illusion of time, we begin to PROCRASTINATE.
Juan DeLaRosaPublished 6 years ago in MotivationLessons Learned from Reading 'The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck'
First off, let’s talk about the title of the book. Did it grab your attention? Probably… It’s not every day you see the word “Fuck” in the title of a NYT Bestseller. Mark did this on purpose. It’s interesting, confusing, intriguing and polarizing. Kinda makes you wonder what’s in it, right? Regardless of whether you think it’s clever or distasteful, it’s working. The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck is the most downloaded audible book EVER (according to Mark Manson).
Kyle MetcalfPublished 6 years ago in MotivationIf You Take One Piece of My Advice, I Want It to Be This
I want you to just sit. Just sit outside. On a bench. Facing away from humanity. 5. I see grass. It looks like it has just been cut.
Liz GalantePublished 6 years ago in MotivationKick Self-Doubt to the Curb
For years I noticed I was following the same self-destructive pattern—I would have these great ideas, write them down, start to plan them out, and then I would hit a wall.
Vanessa McNeelyPublished 6 years ago in Motivation