As children we're constantly asked what we want to be when we're older, and over time our answers change from ballerina to singer to a doctor. When we're young, our vision is broad, we dream so big because nobody wants to break a child's heart and tell them their dream is silly or unattainable. So we give them hope, but once reality hits, and they're finally discovering who they are, they come out of the clouds and settle for any decent-paying job.
Have you ever had an idea that was laughed at? Or a goal that others said was impossible or crazy? Or maybe they just questioned why your goals were goals at all? If so, then you're in the same company as Wilbur and Orville Wright. These brothers persevered through adversity for the unseen benefit of mankind. They transformed the world. How can we use them as a guide point to transform ourselves?
Whether you're just starting to work out in the gym, getting rid of a bad habit, or starting a new stressful job, we all need motivation. In the last year, I've started numerous projects, and most of them I don't finish. Why? Because of my lack of motivation and overall desire to keep going with something. I had a fresh idea in my head and I was so ready to start executing it, so I quickly began. Each project I started off strong like an athlete sprinting when they begin their mile, but then I would reach the middle of this project and all of that desire I had was washed up. Before, I didn't know the reason why I didn't want to keep going, but not too long ago I've found the reason. I've found why I wasn't motivated and not giving myself that necessary push, and that what was holding me back and leaving me in the same space every time I quit.
Ever since I was a child, I had always dreamed of travelling the world and experiencing various cultures. Such a dream only got bigger during my schooling years when I studied Japanese up to year 12. While there are many obstacles in my way, the biggest one is that I was born with a somewhat rare genetic disorder/chronic illness called Cystic Fibrosis which has taken a huge toll on my life, both physically and psychologically. From a young age, I was told I might not make it past my teenage years. I remember crying myself to sleep some nights because I thought I would never have a chance to chase my dreams.
Finding your inner beauty sometimes isn't about how you look in the mirror, how others see your true character, or what you do to prove yourself. Sometimes your inner beauty is what you do to care for yourself, nurture, love, and invest in yourself. My new mantra is "Why can't I?"
I saw my first belly dancer at a Christmas party in 1980. I was four months pregnant at the time. The dancer, whose name was Sadia, was the most beautiful dancer I had ever seen. I thought to myself, someday I want to learn to do that. Four years later, I began to take lessons from her. Little did I know at the time where these lessons would take me.
I have had to hold and work with a lot in this life, as too have so many others. There comes a point where we say, enough! When we begin to choose what is important to our hearts, we choose to work with and through what matters most dearly at the end of the day. I was faced with a challenge in circumstances that arose recently in daily interactions, and in this moment, I am meeting my "enough" and looking at changes to move more in line with my heart and where I feel my energy is best served.
Human beings have a fascinating feature; that is the ability to envision something that does not exist, or imagination. When these visions are built on, it becomes a dream. It is my strongest belief that the ability to dream is what sets apart those who are driven and those who drop dead at the sense of fear.
There is no such thing as ‘No’.
I was diagnosed with exercise-induced asthma and outdoor allergies when I was seven years old. Needless to say, I’ve never been able to run. I was the kid who had a doctor's note because I wasn’t capable of running at all for gym class. Due to this, I assumed running would never be something I’d accomplish in my life. I had given up before I ever even began.
If there is one thing I’ve realized in my old age, it’s that patience in any given situation is not easy. Everything is about timing for me. I tend to think that it may be because, subconsciously, I feel like time is something no one really has to simply waste. And, the quicker I can get something done, the closer I’ll be to reaching my goal, satisfying my appetite, and quenching my thirst. I view time as a priceless commodity that should be used wisely by everyone. I’ve learned through simple observation and from personal experience that when it’s time for life to end for an individual, it ends, simple as that.