Steps to Follow to Fulfill Your Dreams and Avoid Disappointments

At the end of the year, we make wishes and make plans for the future. In the depths of our souls, we all remain children, who believe in miracles. When man ceases to believe in miracles, his soul dries up. Many look forward to the fulfillment of their dreams, but when they come true, they are disappointed.

Therefore, when the desires are made, let us see how we should react to their fulfillment, without being overwhelmed with disappointment.

Understand what you want

Here is a simple example: man eagerly desires money in abundance. He devoted his life to his studies, his career, his communication… only to later find out with amazement that in fact, he did not need money.

Maybe he needed freedom, which he eventually lost. Or the appreciation of people who see only money in others. Or the respect and pride of the parents for the child, who considers that he was not loved enough in childhood. Or an energetic, cheerful and eventful life, in which money is not at the forefront.

Then the man looks at his bank account and is disappointed because he did not satisfy the need he needed.

Make sure your desire belongs to you

Many live someone else's life and their fate is dramatic. This most often happens in families with authoritarian parents, when no one asks you: Who do you want to become? From an early age, the child is accustomed to the thought of becoming "a doctor like the previous three generations on the mother's line."

At the same time, we were taught from childhood that there is no such thing as "I want," but "I must." And then the child grew up with two serious problems:

He is not able to identify his desires and has no contact with himself.

It is guided by the "must" principle. Often he doesn't need that. Moreover, it is not clear why you should do this for others.

But sometimes it's not the parents who are to blame. For a person who is not self-confident, it is very difficult to make a choice, no matter how insignificant it may be, he is always hesitant.

Then he prefers (not always consciously) to take on the confidence of others in how to live. Thus he takes on foreign patterns, beliefs, and purposes, replacing his own. With great regret, achieving these goals, they are overwhelmed with overwhelming disappointment.

Be prepared to make a difficult choice

Sometimes the mangoes too far. For example, the child dreams of becoming an actor, but the parents believe that accounting will bring him more money. Thus, he starts the economics faculty, does 2 years of studies, and then understand that this is no longer possible and or gives up his studies and quarrels with his parents.

Or he does not live the life he likes, he is unhappy, unrealized, he is not even in the best relations with his parents, unconsciously accusing them of his cruel fate.

In this situation, we must try to choose the option in which we betray ourselves to a lesser extent or the lesser evil. Often these are two completely different options. But he has to make this difficult choice since he has been on this path for a long time.

Also, get used to solving problems as quickly as possible - they have the property of gathering like a snowball, in which case-solving them involves sacrifices and disappointments.

Don't idealize the future

When we make a wish, we think only of its positive aspects. People rarely think about how their lives will change when the dream comes true - what they will have to get used to, what they will have to accept, and so on.

Many women dream of a baby. We have all heard of sleepless nights, of the difficult times of the first months, of the back problems that this period entails. They have heard and know about their existence, but not everyone is aware of them.

To make them aware, it is enough not to sleep for a few nights in a row - put on your alarm clock every half hour, get out of bed, take a bottle of water in your arms, swing it, and walk around the house with it. It is possible (!) That then you will understand what it means to raise a child.

But once you realize the consequences, you must not give up on your dreams! But now you will be ready for the hardships that await you, and the postpartum depression will recede.

Think ahead about the negative aspects to avoid disappointment.

Identify new desires in advance

Sometimes achieving the goal becomes a way of life. For example, a performance athlete is determined to win the Olympics. The goal is achieved, but life has lost its meaning.

Identify new goals ahead of time and be ready for the "afterlife." Do not ignore other spheres of life. Friends, family, rest, hobbies, and other hobbies may suffer after the only pillar of life has disappeared (reaching the goal for which you sacrificed all the others).

Dream carefully. dreams have the property of being fulfilled. How true is this statement? If these are not your dreams, if they are not well thought out and unconscious, then the statement is true!

But if you have invested a lot of resources to convince yourself that this is exactly what you need, if your dream has passed the test of time, then it is beneficial to dream! Or fulfilling such a dream will bring you inner joy and happiness.