Showing weakness is not necessarily really weak

When I was young, I was always very serious, always want to understand everything, are arguing as a result, I thought then that this is my real ability. Later, with the growth of age and experience, I finally understood that sometimes the appropriate show of weakness is the wise man.

01 show weakness is not weak

A writer once said, "I thought I had seen through this event, I thought I understood it better than anyone else, only to find out later that, people who love to understand, will be appropriate to play dumb."

People only to a certain age, to reach a certain experience will find, in fact, sometimes too serious, too understand, is also a burden, if everything to be calculating, will only make themselves more trouble.

I once had two friends, one named Tom and one named Ryan, something had happened between them. At that time, the two of them were very good friends, and the two are still neighbors, often together to learn to discuss.

One night, the two of them in the yard of Ryan's house while smoking and exchange of discussions, discussing the intense when Tom will just finish smoking cigarette butts thrown, coincidentally just thrown to Ryan drying sheets on the bed, the sheets burned a hole. Ryan some angry, on Tom accused up, and Tom but think this is just a small thing, and not intentionally, think Ryan some irrational, too not treat him as a friend, so Tom angry rhetorical question: "just accidentally burned your sheets, I buy you another one is not good?" But Ryan heard more anger, the two people quarreled, and from now on who does not care who.

I feel very saddened, once very good friends, but because of a very small thing from now on not in the relationship, this is a special regret thing.

Many of life's contradictions and problems are often too serious, everything wants to fight a right or wrong, a win or lose. Really smart people will be moderately weak, the right time to play dumb, not too serious, because they understand that for some small things to fight non-stop, and ultimately may be lost because of the small. Only appropriate to play dumb to show weakness will avoid some unnecessary trouble.

02 to live a little simpler

I do not remember in which book I read such a story: there is a blind gentleman, he has great wisdom, he just pretends to be a beggar to live, wandering around. And in his begging life, he met a lot of people, what kind of people.

Many people think he is blind, can't see anything, his world is dark, can't see the real world.

So there are some bad people, who will blatantly take away his begging spicy money in front of him, and some others will make some disrespectful actions in front of him. But is that the case? The blind gentleman saw it very clearly, he just lived his life simply, did not care about other people's disrespect to him, and he never put such a small thing on his mind. And for those who took his money, he also kept a bland attitude, he felt indifferent, so he just pretended that nothing happened.

This kind of not for some small things on the entanglement and more serious life, so he is less a lot of worries, so he is smiling every day are happy, he lives a very relaxed and comfortable.

When people reach a certain age, when they have seen a variety of people, when they have experienced a variety of things, slowly will see through the essence of some things. Sometimes, moderate play dumb, a moderate show of weakness, is also a way to protect themselves.

In some things less calculating and more serious, in some fame and fortune before some impetuous and greedy, these are the smart people.