Loving yourself is more important than you think

We often say that we love ourselves, but in fact, objectively speaking, many people do not understand the true meaning of love itself.

When you can understand the misconceptions about loving yourself, then your life will continue to develop. Loving ourselves means respecting our feelings, and it means that we need to understand and discover ourselves again.

If we want to learn to love ourselves well, we must first master the three effective ways to love ourselves.

Learn to get rid of excessive self-blame and turn it into self-growth

I once had a very good good friend. 211 university graduate, but always blamed herself, felt that she was not good enough, very low self-esteem inside, especially in comparison with others, feel that they do not have enough to have a better, just like Fan Shengmei, she always felt that others are like her beauty, can not like her inside.

A person who often blames himself will deny his own life because of partial, this too low self-evaluation reflection makes us unable to do ourselves properly, self-blame is a kind of the biggest damage to the self, and this low evaluation way not only can not promote our growth but also consume our inner confidence, let our emotions will fall into a low, more can not help us out of the low, instead let us lose growth on life Instead, we lose our motivation and courage to grow in life.

Any emotion is a signal to help us wake ourselves up and remind ourselves that if we don't pay attention to the motivations and needs behind our emotions, we often fail to help us truly grow.

And to truly love ourselves is first to understand the nature of self-blame is what we need most, emotions are reactions to internal motivations, ignore the emotion of self-blame, but rather go deep behind the self-blame and dig into our unmet needs sadly expressed.

Learning to find your own inner growth needs is what is most important once you find your inner growth needs, and then develop a corresponding action plan to change accordingly.

For example, in high school, there was a time when I was very fat, I often had low self-esteem and self-doubt, but then I found that behind my self-doubt was my desire for beauty and the need for a healthy and positive mindset.

So I readjusted and turned my self-doubt into a drive for self-growth. Later I adjusted my diet, eating only breakfast and Chinese food every day and not dinner, and later found that I still had remarkable results, and I came out of my low self-esteem and self-doubt emotions and enjoyed myself again.

Self-forgiveness, seeing the uniqueness and extensibility of your life

In the process of growing up in life, we all make mistakes, and very often, we love to criticize ourselves when we make mistakes, and we want to use this excessive criticism to make us feel better.

But when we keep using excessive criticism, our inner life forgets the purpose of life itself and the meaning and value of the wrongdoing itself.

That's why it's so important to learn self-forgiveness. Self-forgiveness is an attempt to understand what we have done in the past. We ask ourselves, "What is the purpose of what I did to satisfy my inner needs, and we can forgive ourselves when our needs are in line with our inner needs and expectations.

For example, on the one hand, we see a high divorce rate in marriage and more leftover women, but, from another perspective, another signal is being released.

Many people are not settling for marriage, they are exploring their inner world, so from this point of view, only when women are freed from moral bondage can they achieve true inner freedom.

The real key to learning to love ourselves is to tolerate different periods of me, one being past experiences that may have caused wrong behavior due to lack of experience. For another, we need to learn to tolerate the ego. The essence of loving ourselves is to encourage ourselves to continue exploring ourselves even when we make mistakes, rather than denying ourselves because we made a mistake in one act.

Let our actions be based on the love of our own lives and find inner motivation

The essence of loving oneself is to learn to gradually break the framework and constraints of life, and most importantly, to find the source of joy in life within oneself.

The source of joy in life must be found by us, and we will be endlessly motivated and supported. When we act in response to the needs of our inner life, so that our life is alive at every moment, the need for inner life is roughly what Maslow's needs elaborate.

For each person, there are universal needs, such as the need for freedom, love, equality, and respect, and on the other hand, there is the need for the unique growth of the self, and their desire to achieve self-worth.

For each life, the sooner we discover the inner growth motivation of life, the more we can activate our inner life force. But if our growth is dedicated to satisfying the needs of others and society throughout our lives, our lives will be tangled in a tangle of fear, guilt, and multiple imbalances.

For example, suppose for money, if our goal is to get money, then we can lose if we act to get paid, we pay the price by losing the joy of living.

If we act to be in love with life, the joy will be with us. Money is not a need, it is just one of the strategies used to satisfy some of our needs.

For example, to get approval, like money, approval from others is a reward, and we are influenced by society to desire rewards, but many times we forget that our growth is essential for the betterment of ourselves.

But the truth is that we often forget to explore a part of our inner self to cater to others. As an example, there is a need for growth behind those who are naughty and mischievous.

But the truth is, we punish mischief, so on the way to growth, we try to cater to others to be likable, we go to great lengths and commiserate, but then we lose ourselves in the process of living our lives.

To avoid guilt. We often worry about not being able to meet the needs of others. For example, some parents are always worried about not being able to be a good parents, when in fact, the state of parenthood determines whether our children like us or not.

A child prefers a happy parent to a guilt-ridden parent. We worry about not being able to meet the needs of others, and to avoid guilt, we neglect our bodies and minds.

The truth is, don't make motherhood too heavy, that's the truth every woman needs to see. True love must be relaxed and at ease.

The child will always be able to feel the inner confidence and growth from your state, and even more from your I state to feel if she is liked and accepted by you.

To truly love ourselves is to take care of ourselves first. Always believe that it is not the time but the quality that is more important to be with our children, so to learn to take care of ourselves is to let ourselves live the joy of life first, and only then will we find a way to get along well with others.

During the growth of our life, we must learn to love and activate the inner life force with love, which is the key to our life metamorphosis and growth.