Judge Your Self-Worth.

Have you heard about self-sovereignty before? What can you say about it?

In this time of crisis, we feel a lot of discomforts that may badly affect our confidence and hope for the future. Hence, we forget that we have obligations to ourselves. This might be the perfect time to turn the lemons of crisis into lemonade of knowing the most important matter in our life. Who is the person you see everytime you stand in front of the mirror?

I had previously write about depression that made people wonder and asked me, what are the causes of this mental disorder? Well, everybody has their own reasons because everybody has their own life stories. The most common one is when we get emotionally attached to something over a period, but it eventually doesn't exist anymore.

Experiencing depression brought me to dig out something about me. I realized that I didn't truly know myself as a whole. I mean, I thought I knew, but I was wrong.

Being aware about ourselves is something I wish we put into our priorities. Self-awareness plays an important role in our lives.

HOW SELF-AWARENESS IMPACTS YOUR WORTH?

So, here's the thing why knowing yourself can change your life. Self-awareness is the ability to focus on yourself about your actions, thoughts, and emotions. When you are aware of yourself, you can control how you react to various things which mainly contributes to your inner soul.

Many people don't see this because they're paying too much attention to what others say about them. On the other hand, you have the power to fight against all the negative traits when you practice self-awareness. Through this, your self-esteem increases as well— which is the key to see how wonderful you are.

DOES OUR CULTURE HAVE SOMETHING TO SAY ABOUT THIS?

Few years ago, I noticed that I cared too much about criticism. I was naïve and too curious about everything. That's why I was too open as well for criticism from others. I always wanted to correct every flaw they see in me, not knowing that it was already affecting my self-respect.

We have a culture that if you say something good about yourself, people will label you as mayabang or arrogant. I am not downplaying the power of humility here, because that's a different thing. I just noticed that we were trained not accept compliments from others. I don't know, maybe our ancestors were scared for us to be over confident? But we are in a different generation already, wherein self-deprecation can't work alone. Otherwise, depression may take place. That's something I noticed, from my own opinion.

Let's talk about the common problems of our modern people!

1. RELATIONSHIPS FALL INTO BROKEN-HEARTEDNESS

A lot of people today suffer from heartaches because of loving someone they don't deserve. Don't they really deserve them? Or, they just probably oversee who they are for them? I don't wanna spell a lot out about this, because love is a deep word, and relationship thing is very complex.

However, millennials in society shout out their grief and lean too much on their emotions, but they forget to analyze what's causing it. Thus, they forget to value themselves and end up disrespecting their identity. Furthermore, the concept of love is being misinterpreted in some relationships due to lacking of self-awareness.

Looking into a different approach, if people truly know themselves and their purposes, they may not feel like they always fall down a rabbit hole when they love someone. That's because they would take responsibility of their choices; and letting someone get into their world is their choice, in the first place. If they're aware of themselves, they won't always play the blame game. That's accountability.

And what if someone fooled you? Well, at least you discovered it no matter how soon or how late. Let them go. I know that's not easy to do, but please remember that you have responsibility to yourself too. How can someone respect you, if you don't even know how to respect yourself? People you deserve will come at the right time. Who knows? Maybe someone new or someone to come back.

2. THE TOXICITY OF INSECURITY

Insecurity is something that almost everyone is, because of the stupid standards society expects us to live up to. -Urban Dictionary

When we fail to appreciate our own journey, we look at the achievements of other people. Vice versa, other people look at our advantages too when they don't see theirs. It's crazy! Other people always seem to have better situations than we have. Whereas, we appreciate others’ stories more than we appreciate ours.

As what commonly said, "The grass is always greener on the other side." How's this? One main reason is because we are unhappy with ourselves. We always ask for validation from others. That's where our confidence is coming from. Normally, we always become happy when people agree with us. Therefore, if other people say "you don't look good", we start to doubt our beauty. When they say we have a shitty life and just a failure, we become too conscious of our decisions. C'mon people! Let's not devalue ourselves with constant self-criticism.

Where's this coming from?

The modern source is Social Media. I'm not saying that social media is bad. In fact, there's a lot of good things we get in social media such as inspiration, connecting to our friends and love ones, relevant news or worldly awareness, informatic details of certain necessity, et al.

Meanwhile, social media is also one cause of anxiety. For people that are very much into it, it's creating too much pressure in their lives. This is very common to us "millennials". We don't want to be left out. That's why we always want to be the same as what we see in social media.

We see the people we follow posting #travelgoals #relationshipgoals #friendshipgoals #careergoals #familygoals #ootdgoals #makeupgoals, so on and so forth. And then when we can't achieve it, we eventually doubt ourselves saying like "What's wrong with me?"

There you go kid, you're starting to doubt yourself, forgetting the fact that you have your own journey. We value ourselves based on what our social media is. We have to understand that every life story is different, and yours becomes exciting when you start to appreciate it.

Therefore, social media can both be inspirational and destructive.

Don't let other people mold and change you because you always have a choice. You should be the one to decide who you are, and not other people.

3. WEAK!

No amount of self-improvement can make up for any lack of self-acceptance. -Robert Holden

Overcoming self-pity teaches me one thing. And that is— I learned to agree with the fact that "Nobody's perfect." Everyone commits mistakes. Moreover, every human being is subjected to fall before flying. This is something Filipino Fliptop Star Loonie explained in his song, "Tao Lang."

From then to now, I learned to always leave a room for mistakes. As humans, our weakness is making mistakes in life. Therefore, accepting that I have a vulnerability is allowing myself to grow and improve time to time. Something similar to "Acknowledging the pain is the only way to heal."

4. THE PRIDE OF BEING ALWAYS RIGHT

Have you notice someone always fighting for what they know? Like they're always looking for audience. Even you, yourself, can be like that sometimes. It's the effect of our modern lifestyles. And because we don't wanna be left out, we always want people to believe us and agree with us. What's the reason? Self-discontent

I learn it from some friends. We choose to be distant from the unwanted norms of our current generation, at some point. Hey! Don't call us weird, LOL! It's just, sometimes, we get so tired dealing with the sickness of the modern society.

What sickness? One example is cheating. It became so normalized that the society acts like loyalty is something to be proud of, when it should be a standard.

We choose peace instead of being right to their eyes. Why? Because we value our self-worth and sincere happiness from being private. I'm not telling you to do what we do.

It all depends on your courage and maturity to choose either to follow the standards of modern society, or just find happiness being naturally you -- as long as you're not hurting anybody. It's up to you.

GRATITUDE

One way to appreciate your life is to be thankful for what you already have. Manually, list down things in your life you are grateful for. For example: Appreciate that you are human, not vampire LOL. Seriously, it will make sense. You'll notice that your emotions are diverting into feeling enthusiastic, realizing that you have your own blessings.

Respect your individuality. Everybody has their own gift that needs to be exposed. Yours will be wasted if you just watch on what others have. Don't let your own gift just seat on the corner doing nothing. Think of individualities as flowers in the field. Everything looks good differently. Everything blooms in its own time.

The world will start to acknowledge your worth when you first appreciate it.

When all this pandemic ends, atleast we are ready to face the world again knowing who we are. We will be able to be our own self without the worry to fit in.

I think focusing on our own sense of individuality opens an opportunity to contribute our natural gifts to the humanity. Afterwards, nobody else, but it's only you who will be able to JUDGE YOUR SELF-WORTH.

Thank you for reading! 😊

Photos credited to:

jestonihernandezphotos.com