Do people, from the crowd, rather than from the "self"

Most people habitually disguise themselves to adapt to society, afraid that their real selves will become alien in the eyes of others.

However, the more you pretend, the easier it is to lose yourself.

Instead of forcing yourself to adapt to society and please others, try to be a better version of yourself.

"You are fine, there is no need to be condescending."

1、Enriching yourself is better than pleasing others

Some people, when they first enter society, are always busy socializing.

Every day to spend their minds on making good relations with colleagues, at first it is true that you can get some sweetness from it, but over time, business skills did not keep up, it is natural to be eliminated.

Before, the company came to two interns.

The first intern speaks and works very smoothly, not long to get acquainted with colleagues, often about to go out and play.

The second intern is relatively introverted, in addition to problems will find colleagues, generally silent at the workstation to study the business.

Can be a person, in fact, quite likable.

But will do, will not do, it is very problematic.

You know, the company is not home, you have to work at work, just social is useless, you must also be able to do things.

So, before the internship period was over, the first intern was dismissed, while the second intern was transferred early.

There is time to please others, it is better to work hard to study the business.

After all, it is the boss who has the right to speak, and the boss needs people who can do things, not people who socialize everywhere.

In the absence of any strength before, you socialize everywhere, in exchange for more contacts, rather than contacts.

Other people are in the way of the occasion to give contact information, which does not mean that you increase the number of contacts increased only the number of WeChat friends.

The only way to attract more good people close to you is to make yourself good than those ineffective socializing.

People will lie to you, knowledge will not lie to you.

Only by constantly improving yourself can you achieve a better you, become friends with like-minded people, and accumulate your network.

2、Work hard and be a better you

Things come together as a group, and people come together as a group.

When you are not good enough, you can meet more people who are similar to yourself.

Sometimes, forcing yourself to mix into a higher circle, in exchange for more is the other party's rejection and despise.

This kind of behavior, which seems to be smart, is stupid.

"Marry someone to change your fate" in the past may be feasible, but in today's society, try your best to get involved in the circle that does not suit you, and get more rejected.

When reading, some people by pleasing rich people, mixed into the circle of rich people, think they have become friends with those people.

People who know all understand, only to become a follower.

The so-called "mixed circle" is actually in the mixed life, mixed to mix, get more is empty.

Rely on others, rather than rely on themselves.

There is time to mix circles, it is better to quietly study.

No matter what time, what you learn is your own.

And by pleasing others to get, others can give you, but also to take back, in the end, the real can get is very little.

Therefore, a person who wants to become better can rely on only themselves.

Only if you are good enough, you can get what you want.