Being Unstoppable

Whenever life adversities become unbearable, you need to accept not to be okay. It is absolutely good to be emotionally, physically, mentally, and psychologically down sometimes. But if you do not pick up yourself as quickly as you can, you may lose yourself. The ability to get through situations with confidence and bounce back at adversities and trials is called resilience.

I have come to understand that resilience is the only anecdote that represents your true inner being, and shows how strong you are. Resilience is the ability to accept your new reality. No matter your reaction with that particular reality, the situation still exist. Which means, you need to only live by where you are now.

life doesn't get easier or more forgiving, we get stronger and more resilient. -by Steve Maraboli

It is okay to be lost. It is okay to make mistakes. Just understand that it is all part of the process of growing up. Life has unending challenges, and I have understood that, the more challenges you overcome, the stronger and better you become.

My greatest fear in life is to lose myself. Sometimes I encounter heartbreaking situations which requires that I go down completely. But I remember my theme; ‘you don’t have to lose yourself girl’, then I eventually pick up myself to face my new reality. Even though it may seem a mirage to face life with all confident, but I am assuring you that it worth it, and that is all you have to do to get through life. It is easier to navigate through life’s adversities with resilience. Here are three practical ways that you can practice resilience to help you better elevate yourself.

#1 Be self-compassionate

Understanding your situation, and confronting our suffering with warmth and kindness without any form of judgement is one sure way to be compassionate about yourself. Being self-compassionate begins with being mindful of your feelings, being mindful of your pains, being mindful of your hurts, and everything that is associated with what you are going through now. Then understand that you are not the only one experiencing that situation. Acknowledge that pain is inevitable in life. All these practices will help you show love and kindness to yourself.

#2 Face your fears

Fear is mutual. Fear is relevant, and it is inevitable as well. Fear entangles us when we believe in its ability to overcome our lives, leaving us in shadow. Whenever we are faced with adversities, the next thing that comes is fear. We can practice fear by practicing what triggers the fear, and doing those things. This way, you are fighting what is troubling you rather than running away from it.

#3 Forgive yourself

This is my number one tool I use to practicing resilience. If we are able to forgive people who sometimes do not deserve our forgiveness, then how much more yourself who deserves all the glory and adoration. My question is, why is it too hard for people to forgive themselves?

Forgiveness is not about forgetting that problems exist, instead, it is about accepting that you messed up and further allowing yourself to heal or giving yourself another chance to try again. You become entangled with emotional torture because you refuse to let go.

Letting go is a great practice of self-love. It shows how caring you are to your inner self. You do not deserve unforgiveness. One sure way I let go quickly is to ask myself the question; And so what?

We cannot do without trials but we can be resilient. We learn life the hard way, then we grow from it.