Being Non-Reactive

It is how you carry yourself that will determine how others treat you. - Ronin Wolf

Learning to hold your masculine frame and being non-reactive when confronted with toxic people and situations is how you will maintain complete control over your life.

Some people in life have an insatiable desire to control everything and everyone around them, except for the one person who should matter most to them.

And that person being…themselves.

I am a wanderer, a lone wolf, an unapologetic introvert, and a modern-day Ronin. For the past decade now, I have been traveling this beautiful world of ours.

It is such an eye-opener to travel, explore, and immerse yourself in different cultures.

To learn new things about the world, but to learn even more about yourself, has been the most significant caveat of my journey.

You never know what you have inside of you until the need for it arises for it to come out. - Ronin Wolf

On one of my last trips abroad to Malaysia, my inner resolve and my non-reactive nature would manifest and it would be what help me to get out of a detention center.

Did I pique your curiosity?

Good.

This is how I learned to master the art of being non-reactive while staying in a Malaysian and Singaporean detention center.

Being Non-Reactive: How I Learned To Be Resolute

It was my second time entering Malaysia. I had been there cumulatively for six months and was seeking to stay another three months.

Now, to better help paint of picture of what happened, allow me to explain the whole visa process of entering a nation.

Depending on your country, you can enter other countries without having a visa.

The American Passport is very strong (not the strongest though) and we are allowed in many countries without having to apply for a visa.

So, what I did while I was in Malaysia, and how I stayed 6 months, was by exiting the country every three months, spending a day in Singapore, and returning to Malaysia.

This was all in 2019, a few months before the pandemic.

As I arrived back in Malaysia, (this being my third entry) coming from Singapore, as I went through the border entry, the agent looked at my passport for what seemed to be quite a while, and she was talking on her walkie-talkie to someone.

All while smirking and sneakily looking away.

It was at this moment I knew something fishy was going on.

I would later find out that it was her boss she was talking to.

An agent came to me and asked me to follow him; I was escorted to the main office.

Upon my arrival in the back office, you could feel that the energy was low, toxic, and aggressive. The boss had asked me why I was visiting Malaysia so much, to which I had replied, but he seemed to keep pressing me, with questions that seemed to lead nowhere.

It didn’t matter how rational I was being; he would not listen.

His legion of flying monkeys were all looking on as he was interrogating the American; just gawking and laughing.

I asked him a question to show that I was not scared, that I was on to what he was doing, and that I was smarter than he was.

My question left him looking dumbfounded, and he told his men to take me to the detention center, to which they did.

I thought this was going to be just a few hours, but I was in the detention center for about a week, and I had no idea if I was going to get out…but I was preparing for ways to escape, if need be.

Learning To Keep Your Frame

I was not the only foreigner in the detention center. There were others — a guy from Australia, Russia, Japan, and many Southeast Asians.

We stayed in a dark, cold, smelly room. We all slept on the floor, and we ate when they “told us to eat” (I didn’t, though).

The agents would come in periodically to count numbers because from what had gathered, later on, some people were able to escape the detention center in the past.

For three days and three nights, I would leave the 4th day, I had slept on a cold hard floor, I didn’t eat because I would not allow others to dictate when I would eat, and I had not showered.

I got sick because of how cold the detention center was, as well as sleeping on the cold floor.

On the 3rd night, one of the agents had awoken me from my mini slumber and said, “We booked you a flight; you are heading back to Singapore.”

This was a shock to me; I had thought they were going to keep me imprisoned. I was planning and plotting ways to escape the detention center- as it didn’t seem like it would have been that difficult. We were in a section not that far from the airport where others.

So escaping and flagging down a tourist or even an airport officer could have helped.

I do think had I stayed a week longer, I would have plotted away out.

And had I not been able to escape, I was also planning to inspire the others inside the detention center to start a rebellion.

As much as I hate being a leader when it is time for me to be a leader, I will become the leader.

However, I was allowed to leave the detention center on my 3rd night when others had been there for weeks and even MONTHS.

When they released me and put me on a flight to Singapore, I was just happy to be out because I could get back to my work.

However, my arrival in Singapore would be just as frustrating.

Upon arriving in Singapore, I had an escort to “help me” get a ticket back to America.

They took me to the back office of the airport, and again the 22 questions arose, to which I had kept my exposure and calm.

This only seemed to upset them, and they placed me in a detention center again.

I stayed there for four days.

The first day, I had thought maybe it was just a misunderstanding. But as the second day came by and I saw how their mannerism started to shift, I knew they would keep me there.

On the 3rd day, they were trying to get money out of me, but I would not relinquish any money, and I would not be scared or bullied into giving them what they wanted.

On the 3dr day, I stopped eating (again) when they bought me meals — I told them, “you don’t dictate to me when I eat.”

And this angered them.

They bought in a guy who was about 8 inches taller than me who had tried to intimidate me into giving them money to leave (mind you, I am 5 foot 5 inches), and I told him and his two companions on the side…”Go ahead and take me to the darkroom. I am not scared of you. You won’t break me.”

I said this with no emotion, no flare of dramatics, but in an emotionless but somewhat stoic tone that had expressed, I had resolved myself for whatever is to come.

Upon seeing this, they dropped their bluff (because that was all it was) and released me. They got me a ticket back to the states, and my trip to Malaysia suddenly ended.

Being Non-Reactive Is A Superpower

Keeping your cool, calm, and staying collected about yourself when others around you are trying to rattle you and push you off your center is a superpower.

If people can un-rattle you, push you off-center, force you out of your masculine frame, then they are in a position where they will be able to control you and manipulate you.

The key to defeating people like this in life is to remain calm in all situations.

In keeping your calm, you keep your frame and who you are in control of.

Had I lashed out, begged them to release me, or given in to their demands, my resolve would have become weaker — and my respect for myself would have plummeted.

It was because I had stayed calmed and stoic and had resolved myself in my inner mind that “I will be tortured, but I will endure it” that I was able to beat these lesser men at their bluff (mind you, I had not thought it was a bluff, I genuinely thought they were going to torture me).

Keeping our frame means just how you hold yourself.

Because I hold myself in a certain way, capitulating to anyone’s demands just for their ego’s sake was not something I was going to do, nor did.

By staying firm within my mind, character, and masculine spirit, I could defeat these people.

People Will Always Try And Rattle Your Frame

Lesser men will always try and rattle a great man out of his frame. In the mind of lesser men, because they lack a frame, seeing others have a frame reminds them that they are not as good as they can be.

Being non-reactive is power.

Lesser men are easily swayed to behaving and acting in a way that others have forced them into.

Because they are so reactive, they perceive everything and anything as a threat and oftentimes either lash out too quickly or retreat much too often in the face of adversity.

But a person who is being non-reactive will observe the situation. By staying cool, calm, and collected, you can better decipher what is going on and then best calculate how you will get out of a situation.

Being swayed by other people’s energy is how you will get pushed into situations that are not in your best interest.

When hard times face you, don’t react because the reaction is what lesser men want from us.

Keeping cool when the world around you is getting heated is a power that few men ever learn to master.

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