A person dwelling on the past, it is difficult to be yourself

When you're young, you think it's useful to complain, but when you're older, you realize that complaining is the most ineffective counterattack, and it won't hurt anyone else, but it will hurt you.

If you have time to complain about life and indulge in the past, you might as well learn to treat life with a normal heart and reconcile with your past self.

As Romain Rolland said, "The best thing we can do on the road of life is to look forward and not back."

Go forward and open a new chapter of your life.

1. Can not change, do not dwell on

Some things have become a reality, and then entanglement will not help, it is better to learn to put them down, to live their own little life.

In the novel "Life", the main character Garin is a person who does not want to be a farmer like his father and wants to sit in the "office", but unfortunately, his dream job was taken away and he had to go to do those undignified jobs.

He was dissatisfied, but could only swallow it by the skin of his teeth.

He knew that he wanted to live and then have to do undignified things, but still could not let go of his face, making it difficult for him to move.

Finally, forced to go to the city to pull thatch manure, but still hiding for fear of meeting acquaintances, in the manure with people grabbing emotions out of control, and people fight, making a mess of themselves.

But so, he still did not realize where he was wrong, only to complain about life's misfortunes, and resent the people who stole their position.

But did not think, about face which is important to live, if the immediate trials and tribulations can not be changed, it is better to learn to put aside face, optimistic about the next life.

Even if it is in the doldrums, as long as the efforts to build up strength, with an optimistic attitude, to face the challenges of the unknown, everything will slowly become better.

2. Irretrievable, do not force

A person does not love you, is not love you, finds more reasons can not hide the truth of not love, rather than continue to lie to themselves, it is better to face the reality.

The cruel reality is that the sadness will only be temporary.

Although the breakup was painful at first, time will wear off the hardness, so that everything is back to calm, and then look back on it will only hate their breakup is not fast enough.

Some people are always habitually asking "why" when the other side breaks up, thinking they can ask an answer, but the truth is that they get more of a grand excuse.

Even if they are forced to change, to cater to others, such feelings can be maintained for how long.

In a relationship, when you are used to accommodating, sooner or later you will lose yourself, and finally, live as an accessory to others.

What is the point of living like this, life?

So that the feelings can not be salvaged, do not dwell too much, ultimately both sides have problems, and not one of the changes can be salvaged.

Entangled, it is better to put down and start a new life.

3. has caused the injury, to know how to let go

Hate a person, it is difficult for them.

Some injuries have been caused, but they can not change, even if it is revenge, can not go back to the past, and will only continue to hate.

In martial arts novels, in addition to people with the aura of the protagonist, and how many people can get out safely after revenge, even if the grass is eradicated, but also fear that there will be consequences exist.

The injustice of the time, entangled in it, will only make them unfortunate, rather than learn to let go of themselves.

Not that forgiving people who hurt themselves, but choose to let themselves go, no longer entangled with those people.

Sometimes, the more entangled, the more trouble.

Retaliation against others, happy for a moment, more is the aftermath of the endless problems, so that they are caught in the hatred.

There is time to tangle with people who hurt themselves, rather than trying to make themselves better, so that people who have hurt themselves, can only look up to themselves.

Only if you become better, you will be able to deal with everything.

Many times, you become better, which is the biggest revenge on the "enemy".