5 Simple Practices to have hold over Anger

Can you think of a time when you saw a toddler throwing tantrums in the middle of a mart, or a professor being intolerant than usual or a friend being rude for no reason at all. All of this does not necessarily but many times depict the signs that people are angry. Anger is a natural emotion that we all possess which is characterized by feelings of annoyance, displeasure and antagonism. Psychologists often define anger as a complex state of mind that may have variety of forms. As each and every individual is distinctive from each other, the way they react to things and show anger also differs.

Anger Management on the other side, is the practice of learning to recognize symptoms that you're becoming angry, and taking appropriate action(s) to calm yourself down and deal with the situation in a productive way. What anger management does that it doesn't try to keep you from feeling angry or encourage you to hold it inside but how you manage and prevent from having negative consequences of anger. The preliminary goal of Anger Management is to control anger before it turns out to be a cause of serious problems in your life. Since people at times are unable to regulate and keep a check on their behaviors and emotions which is basically the self-control, lack of this inability may cause them to pay off severe costs. Anger Management is the tool that helps you out not only in maintaining intra-personal skills of self-control, but also indirectly assists in building decent interpersonal and social skills.

Here are the five simple techniques that you by yourself can practice in order to have a good control over your anger:

1. Laugh away the Anger: The best way to control anger is by tapping the humor self of yours. Humor is having the quality of being funny, or something that makes people laugh. How about using humor to make the anger fade away as well? After all, taking things light or perhaps using humor as a mechanism to deal with problematic situations is one of the best ways to have a control over anger. The reason why humor is important in life is that it lightens up the mood immediately. But since it’s not practically possible to be cool just by throwing up a joke, what one can do is to laugh or make silly gestures whenever they feel becoming angry. What it will do is that it will divert your mind instantaneously. It might seem a hard nut to crack at first, but once you’re habitual of it, it works like magic. As said by W. Somerset Maugham:

"You’re not angry at people when you laugh at them. Humor teaches tolerance."

2. Positivity is in the Air: Positivity is the rehearsing of an optimistic attitude. One of the best ways so far to control your anger is to surround yourself with a positive outlook. The positive outlook does not only covers the idea of all good things but the acceptance of having anger as an emotion and being capable enough to have a thought of working on it is another milestone of reaching positivity. When your attitude formation starts depending upon this perspective, you automatically begin to govern your extreme behaviors. And truly, changing your approach of the idea of looking at things really makes a difference. As a good beginning makes a good ending, similarly, a fine attitude of acceptance towards anger turns out to be a great deal of taking control over it.

3. Cracking the Puzzle: We all have good and bad times, we all face obstacles in life. Often we become angry because of the glitches in which we feel completely clueless and helpless about how to solve it due to which the process of finding solutions to difficult or complex issues become challenging. For this, a problem-solving skill of a person comes into play. We all are blessed with this ability, it is just about how good we are at using it, when it is actually required. Getting appropriate solutions on time makes easier for us to keep our crabbiness calm. Only if we begin working on it a little more than usual, it will definitely come to be a great way to not only control our anger but also help us getting rid of the teething troubles as soon as possible.

4. Hark Back to Good Times: Whenever we get into fight with someone, for how many times we think of the good times we spent with them? I guess, none. That’s right! Anger is an emotion with such a strong complexities that it makes us forget all the good things about a particular person. Therefore, it’s important for us to start making it a habit of remembering the worthy times we spent with a person at the point where we are angry on them. With this demeanor, anger doesn’t completely fades away but for a small frame of time, surely flies away!

5. Forgive & Forget: This is the belief system that one should generally base his life upon. On one end, forgiveness is the virtue of overcoming the cruel emotions of negativity against the wrong doer such as antipathy and harshness and on the other, forgetting is about trying to vanish away the certain incidents from present state of mind. As a whole, both of the potentials are about letting go that gives us the lesson of moving on. As an individual, we tend to feel angry when we are stumble upon something and are unable to take that off our senses. However, carrying on with this phenomenon and making it a part of our life, we would be certainly capable of taking hold over our anger after all, forgiving and forgetting a person is the best revenge that one can ever take!

Last but not the least, taking power over any emotion or behavior that hinders your positive self and seems to you having negative consequences on yourself is solely dependent upon how much you want to throw it away. Continuous struggle and trying is the only key to success. And sometimes, adopting such simple attributes in life creates enormous transformations.