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The Shared Dilemma of Extroverts.

An untold truth about the struggles of life of the party...

By Hareem SyedPublished 4 years ago 4 min read
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Ever wonder about people who seem to be fitting in the society but yet are in deep water to fiddle with the people around them? I guess, no. and why though? Because to my awe, we always talk about people who are homebodies that struggle to socially adjust in the society. Whilst completely rejecting another important aspect of reality, we only address people with introverted persona and their strategies to cope up with the stress of social adjustment. Fortunately, as a socially interactive person and believing on that, a very extrovert, I know how meaningful it is for one to have social skills. In spite of that, I am also aware of how much it actually takes for even a live wire to manage engaging into a society that is unquestionably miles apart from their personality.

While, people like me who call themselves pros of communal dealings, sometimes even we tussle to alter ourselves into the collective order where we as individuals, and society as a whole happen to go like chalk and cheese. And for this reason, people with outgoing attitude and this society turns out to be two rebellions in the same boat, two separate entities as sugar and salt & two different poles of magnets. Hence people with this code of conduct, before throwing giggles in the festivities, they repeatedly speculate of tactics to practically adjust into the celebration.

Extroverts are often regarded as people who are unafraid of making adaptations. They are considered to be as soft as marshmallows in terms of squeezing themselves into the atmosphere for following the crowd. As far as this supposition is true, it is also not less than a truth that between modifying themselves, this management at occasions, really give them; nightmares. For them, the muster of people become primary colors and their struggle appears like that of secondary colors, trying to socially amend in the society.

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This wrestle gets tougher when it is to be made even at the spells when they want to repel. Screaming and shouting with anxiousness inside, they remain persistent with their deemed personalities in front of the world. Although, their agitated mind keeps on holding them when unsettled, but may it be the disappointed and unwanted season, at the same time, the life of the party; the gregarious, strives to bring out the best of them despite of muddling through the thick and thin.

As I jot down this article, I dwell on the further struggles that extroverts endure. Often, extroverts are to be demanded as people who would carry the torch for everyone, compromising their personal space. Perhaps, due the misconception for being always available for anyone and anything, others take people with extra-version traits for granted that eventually spreads out like a disease in their soul that gives rise to shattering thoughtfulness of triviality, fear of being easily replaced & part of the league with temporary value.

So what if they love to read Shakespeare in a lonely time, or sit in the room with a hot cup of coffee alongside their laptop, making figments of imagination, all by themselves. As a writer, I myself admire the idea of giving time to myself just the way I love mingling and gabbing around. But possibly, the surrounding I’m fenced by does not really appreciates that. The labels attached with extra-version demeanor does not permit me to be called a writer. Unwillingly, as I stretch my lips and move a pen onto the paper; I write, putting a jewel of smile on the face is healthy, but keeping it as regard to the identification of being an outgoing person is a myth that the entire humanity has faith in.

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However when I say the jam-packed idea of humans is admired by extroverts, it is to the extent where they feel happy-go-lucky. They love walking around with people, making new friends and the thought of get-together is dear to them but only where they could exhibit their true colors. But then again, on one day, they have to whoop falsely embellished stories and on the other, they got to talk the talk of the town. The ones with delicate virtues put a mask of strong instincts and the solid fitted bodies display manifestation of fabricated thoughtfulness that demonstrates some common patterns in position of modification that a person has to make in disguise.

Consequently, even it is the matter of once in a blue moon, social adjustment do give socializers kick in the teeth and as a result, the shape of their genuine personalities swing beneath the powerful pyramid of social pressure that looks like more of a Pandora’s Box. The shared dilemma of always going by the book turns out to be the basis for mystifying beliefs to begin with social adaptation, adjustment and afterwards, exposition of concealed facet with amended expressions that makes a whole complex triangle.

To sum up, you can say people like me are the performers who are still struggling to find their feet in many ways. We are battling to be acknowledged for the troublesome times we also deal with. But not surprisingly, the quandary does not stops here. Rather, it is the puzzle that is supposed to have no end.

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About the Creator

Hareem Syed

An undergraduate student by job, a writer by passion, an optimist and an explorer by nature.

Follow me on Instagram: @hareemsyeddd

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