WHY MARRIED PARTNERS CHEAT AND HOW CAN IT BE OVERCOME

WHY MARRIED PARTNERS CHEAT AND HOW CAN IT BE OVERCOME

INTRODUCTION

Many married couples are in the habit of cheating their partners because of discontentment or trust in the relationship that may be due to various reasons such as religious, educational, social, health, distance and finance. The concept of cheating is part of human behaviour, therefore it has a bad or good impart on the partners in terms of living a peaceful and descent life. Consequently involving in the act of cheating will depend on the partner’s aims and objectives and the expected benefit outcomes and satisfaction. It is a hide and seek issue unknowingly to the other partner, because if exposed may lead to unpleasant circumstances and situations to final decision making either for separation or divorce.

FINANCIAL REASON

Every couple need money to maintain the home and their wellbeing, therefore enough money must be available to undertake the financial obligations and personal desires, there is temptation to share love with other persons to get cash to fulfill his or her desires. When a partner decides to love money than relationship, it is obvious that cheating will be part of his or her domine and would not easily avoid it. Once bad habit is being practiced, it is not easy to overcome with a mind set.

RELIGIOUS REASON

During courtship both partners may have known the likes and dislikes of each other which the both will try to assess or evaluate for convenience and because of personal motives or in fulfillment of religious obligation or rites as a Muslim or Christian may decide to hold on to the partner until marriage and thereafter may decide otherwise. For selfish reason the partner pretends to be in love why he is not genuine. The vows being undertaken is only to satisfy the congregation and families present at the ceremonies but the motive to succeed in false affection has been predestined in the sight of God.

EDUCATIONAL REASON

He or she has got married because of some other reasons, may be the partner is handsome, beautiful, good domestically at home, caring and responsible but no educated to the level of public presentation when invited to make a speech or to have dinner with elites, therefore the partner may ignore and fine somebody to go with him or her for the occasion to avoid embarrassment. It is obvious that no one once to associate him or herself with failure or wanting to improve his or her status in life, therefore development and improvement of your partner must be concern for each other to avoid the neglect and passion to advance in the level of education. Differential in the level of education sometime spur up unsettled home due to sense of thinking and reasoning by either partner.

SOCIAL REASON

The partner may not be socially inclined due cultural training and personal development and not exposed to style of dressing, dancing, kind of music at public social function therefore may look shire to be amongst socialites as he or she will be embarrassed. In the circumstance thereof the partner will prefer to take along an exposed person to suit his or her pair to the event. The acceptance of social interaction and changes in life style with ethnic groups and cultural behaviours in the society may cause personal indifference.

HEALTH REASON

When a partner has incurable health care problem, there is a tendency for the other partner to treat with contempt some of the time especially young couples because they don’t want too much stress in the relationship. Someone health situation is not known and therefore should not be obstacle to influence engagement of another relationship that provide for unsettled home and eventual neglect of marital responsibilities.

SEXUAL REASON

Young couples need sex to show love and affection to their partners with intention to bring forth children into their family, therefore any partner not being able to satisfy the other sexually will cause the other searching for satisfaction elsewhere. Some partners are not sexually inclined by nature or habit or may be due to potency by health reasons.

DISTANCE APART

Sometimes partners are being separated due to job expectations and circumstance, therefore it causes distance apart may be for a long time and urge to have and develop a close friendship is eminent to release stress or burdensome situation. The unavoidable labour market trend against job opportunities and security may force desperation for temporary or long-time separation from home in a bid to find money for family survival to life demands

SOLUTIONS TO OVERCOME CHEATING

1. Marriage person you love whole heartedly and pricelessly

2. Never ask for favours be content and satisfied with what you have

3. Be proud and have pride to be thyself and don’t take chances

4. Develop and advance yourself to meet changes in life style and technology

5. Be courageous and don’t accept other persons into your life

6. Accept the circumstance and situation as it is and hoping for a better future

7. Never feel lonely always be cheerful and make God your companion

CONCLUSION

It is prohibited in the sight of God to cheat your partner, therefore try to be committed and devoted to one another to share your joys and sorrow no matter the situation or temptation be thyself always.

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Author David Sylvester Meheux Email [email protected] Mobile +232 34295592/ +232 76430909