So you're engaged to your partner, ready to spend the rest of your life together, and you're about to plan a wedding. My advice? Don't. Save yourself the hassle, and elope. Run while you still can from the most expensive, exhausting, weirdly altruistic social traditions our culture has to offer, and go on a nice trip with your new partner or save for a house or a dog or a child or a Master's degree. Your wedding isn't what's left at the end of the day. It's just you and your partner and a couple memories. I promise you it's time, money, and energy better spent somewhere else. Let me explain by giving you a run down of my wedding day.
I got married at 18. We spontaneously decided to get married in one week. After our family got over the shock of us getting married soon, they became supportive. In seven days we had to do what people with popular opinions do within a year (or more) when they plan weddings. The ceremony, honeymoon, gown and suit, photographer, wedding bands, makeup artist and flowers.
At some point in our lives, most of us, if not all, have had to endure attending a wedding. Perhaps it was for a close friend, a family member, or even your own wedding. Maybe you were even part of the court as a bridesmaid or groomsman. Personally, I've had to endure all of the above. My siblings are both married and I was part of their courts. I've attended numerous family weddings throughout my life. My best friends have also gotten married. I was in their courts as well. It is as if weddings are as inevitable as puberty and losing your baby teeth, and equally as unfavorable.
I am what you would call a bride-to-be, soon to be married next month and our wedding plans have changed drastically, mostly due to my anxiety.
The wedding day is a sweet, memorable day, but when it comes to the workload, it could be overwhelming too. You are occupied all the time and do your best at par. It could be the flowers, or the wedding photographer, or the venue; you have to be perfect and within the budget.
Wedding is undoubtedly one of the most important functions that mark the onset of a new journey. These are also regarded as pertinent chapters in a person’s life. Each year millions of people across the world undertake this journey every year, and this has led to a boom in wedding planner services. Organizing a wedding is not easy. There are hundreds of emotions and things at play and hence each event requires a certain amount of attention in general. Wedding planners are a group or in simple words a team of professionals who take care of all the arrangements in the entire function and execute the wedding like a pro.
Spiritual youngsters, who look for life partners with similar values, prefer The Art of Living Matrimony, a matrimony website that brings people together who do yoga, practice meditation and perform “seva” or service. Our marriage consultants have met well-established men and women who are on spiritual path and are in a dilemma whether their spiritual progress would stop after they get married.
I am currently listening to The Tablo Podcast Eps 21: Mommy, What Happened in 2019? For me one of the biggest thing that happened last year was, I got married. And there was one thing that I thought was not a big deal but I realised kinda. It was wedding playlist and songs. It hit me when a friend of my husband complained about a cliché song that her parents suggested as their song for walking down the aisle and the same song was suggested by my husband’s wedding planner.
If you’re planning out your elopement (or just doing it spur of the moment), here are a few tips on how to elope in Pittsburgh! Elopements are seriously amazing for so many reasons– they’re less expensive, less stress, more intimate, and you can literally have them pretty much ANYWHERE!
Wedding anxiety? Everyday anxiety? No problem.
Decades ago when a black couple decided to get married, it would be said that they were going to “jump the broom.” I heard this often but did not give much thought to it. Today it’s for African American couples to jump over a broom to seal the deal after a wedding ceremony. There was even a movie that was titled Jumping the broom. Those who continue this practice probably heard it was something their ancestors did and they desire to carry on the tradition. If many of these young men and women knew the facts related to this custom, they might have second thoughts about participating.