You don’t need to run after anyone. The moment you stop, they will come after you.

Many times in a relationship, a situation arises where we become exhausted from constantly trying to make the other person happy. We get tired of requesting, pleading, and putting in all the effort. The other person keeps ignoring us—they don't call, don't message, and don't give us the importance we deserve.

We become deeply frustrated and feel like we've tried everything possible, but nothing seems to work. At that point, the last option left is to follow the No Contact rule. However, most of the time, we don't even know how to properly implement No Contact.

So, in today's topic, I am going to talk about how to follow the No Contact rule.

Why does it happen that sometimes you don't talk to someone for 10 to 15 days, you follow the No Contact rule, and yet the other person doesn't seem to care at all? Understanding the mistake you might be making in this situation is extremely important.

First of all, let's talk about what usually happens when we're in a relationship with someone who isn't talking to us properly, isn't treating us well, or is constantly ignoring us. What is our usual approach?

We start chasing that person. We keep requesting and pleading with them, saying, "Please try to understand. What's wrong? What's the issue? Why are you behaving this way? If there's any problem, just tell me."

In many different ways, you try to reconnect with that person, but they keep moving further away from you. At that point, you need to follow the No Contact rule.

And No Contact means exactly that—no contact. It means not maintaining any form of communication whatsoever. No calls, no messages, no checking up on them, and no attempts to stay connected in any way.

Most of the time, we think, "It's been a week since I called or messaged them." But what are we actually doing during that time?

We keep checking their messages. We constantly view their stories. We go and check their status updates again and again.

The other person can see all of this. They notice that you're still viewing their status and watching their stories. As a result, they think, "This person isn't really moving away from me. They're just a little upset right now."

So, they don't feel any real need to make an effort, reach out, or compromise. In their mind, they already know that they still have a place in your life. They believe that despite the silence, they continue to exist in your world and still have your attention.

That's why simply avoiding calls and messages is not true No Contact. If you're constantly keeping track of their online activity, emotionally you're still connected, and the other person can often sense that.

So whenever you find yourself in this situation, you need to follow the No Contact rule properly.

The first step is to remove that person's contact number from your phone. I know you might still remember the number, and if you're worried about forgetting it, you can write it down somewhere safe. But at that moment, delete it from your contacts.

Why? Because if the number stays in your phone, you'll keep seeing their WhatsApp status updates, and sooner or later you'll be tempted to check them. And when you keep checking, it doesn't create any real distance or change in the situation.

This is something very important to understand.

Once you remove their contact, you naturally stop watching their WhatsApp statuses, stories, Instagram stories, and other updates. You stop monitoring what's happening in their life.

When that happens, you genuinely disappear from their daily online world. That's when they may begin to feel that you're seriously moving on and stepping away. They may realize that you're no longer checking what they're doing, where they are, or what's happening in their life.

True No Contact isn't just about stopping calls and messages—it's also about stopping the habit of constantly keeping track of the other person's life.

The second thing you need to do is disappear properly for 4 to 5 days. After that, if you want, you can use your display picture (DP) and status updates to show that you are feeling good and moving on.

This creates an impression in the other person’s mind that you are not affected anymore. Honestly, when someone sees that you are no longer emotionally disturbed, it can shake them a bit—they may realize that you are not reacting the way they expected.

Because when a person stops chasing and stops showing emotional dependency, the dynamic changes. In many cases, the person who was being chased starts to feel the shift.

But if you are not actually following this level of distance and consistency, and you are still saying, “I am not contacting them, I will just leave them and they will come back,” then that usually doesn’t happen.

No Contact only works when it is complete and consistent—not half-hearted or mixed with checking, waiting, or indirect communication.

Some people say that they tried for a week or 10 days, but the other person still didn’t come back. In reality, this also depends on how much value you have already lost in that relationship.

The more you have lowered your value in front of that person, the more time it can take for things to change. And if you haven’t lowered your value too much, sometimes even in 2 days the other person can start feeling the impact and think about you more.

But if you have already given too much, then sometimes it can take 15 days, a month, or even longer for the other person to reach that stage where they start feeling your absence.

At first, they might think that you are just pretending or doing drama. But when they finally realize that you are serious and truly distant, their behavior starts to change.

This is why many people believe this approach works most of the time, but there are also exceptions.

In some cases, the other person may have genuinely moved on, or a third person may have entered their life, or your past behavior may have hurt them so much that they no longer want to return. In such situations, even if you stop contacting them for 20 days or a month, they may still not come back.

Because when someone reaches a point where they don’t even want to see you anymore, then distance alone doesn’t bring them back.

And sometimes, it is also important to accept that such people should leave your life. If someone’s presence or absence makes no real difference in their life or in yours, then it is often better to let them go.

Letting go of such people becomes a healthier option in the long run. You deserve relationships where your presence actually matters.

So if a person truly values you, there is still a high chance—almost 99%—that No Contact can help them realize your importance and they may come back.