Would You Marry a Broke Man?

The pressure to get married for women approaching 40 especially can sometimes be downright unbearable and uncalled for. Some women settle for the wrong men because of the need to fit in with societal “norms” and some women just point-blank refuse to fold and just live life according to their own terms.

The question, would you marry a broke man? A financially unstable man with a plan? Many relationship experts as well as celebrities and authors such as comedian, talk show host and author, Steve Harvey, say you shouldn’t marry potential. Marry the person who is exactly who you want him to be.

Create a strict and crystal clear list of what you want in a man and don’t compromise. If you don’t want a man who earns less than you, don’t get into a relationship with a man who earns less than you, simple right? Well, not quite. Sometimes life just takes you on a whirlwind and you end up with the complete opposite of what you prayed for.

The truth is, wealthy men, don’t have better personalities than financially unstable men. However, a financially unstable man might need financial support when he is struggling, would you be willing to give?

The truth is, financial matters are the leading cause of divorce therefore, why not marry someone who aligns with your financial goals and strategies? Some men come with a plan and a good head for money screwed on their shoulders but some men just come with a potential lifelong headache.

Before I get into this, don’t be offended, love and connection matter, sure they do! However, do you really want to end up pissing in the dirtiest, crappiest, cockroach-infested bathroom because you trusted the broke man’s plans? There is no right or wrong answer to this question, do you but be smart about the choices you make.

My Story

I’m not going to tell you my whole life story here but I am going to give you a short rundown of some of the choices I have made over the years. I dated a wannabe musician years ago, he was financially challenged to say the least. I paid for most things because he rarely had two pennies to rub together. I would spend the night at his grandmother’s house sometimes in a cluttered room full of his grandmother’s old things. It didn’t feel right but I still continued to see his potential.

I even set up a whole event for him to showcase his music, paid for him to have a professional photoshoot, promoted his music online. That relationship didn’t work out. He is still a struggling artist with nothing to show for his talents, he hustles on the streets selling whatever he can get his hands on. I believe that every man has the potential to do great things, it is just vital that we think carefully before we get into a relationship with someone who has no sound financial plans.

Love is love, you can’t pick and choose who you fall in love with. However, you can pick and choose who you decide to spend your time with. That’s why I always say that it is best to start off as friends, get to know the person well before you dive into a relationship. I think if a man is really serious about a woman, he should get his life together before he asks for her hand in marriage.

I am not saying that a man needs to be a multi-millionaire before he gets married but even if he works two jobs and saves his money, invests and thinks about his financial future, that is something. It is irresponsible to just sit around and refuse to do something to make a living because you are waiting for your dream to come true, especially if you choose to be in a relationship. Do something to make a living and work on your dream on the side until it becomes your main hustle.

I know that some people have a different opinion and that’s fine but personally, I don’t want to date another broke man. Why? Because I am willing to work hard to make money so I want a man who has the same mindset as I do. It is that simple!

Yes, many people fall on hard times and it can be difficult to get a job but in this day and age, the opportunities are endless, get online and work on some freelance projects, sell secondhand goods on eBay, create a digital product and sell it. Do something!

Would you date a broke man?

People get it twisted when women say that they refuse to date a broke man, they get labelled as gold diggers and money grabbers. However, many women that refuse to date broke men are financially stable themselves and they want a financially stable man. They don’t want to fund the lifestyle of a grown-ass man! Come on now! Imagine your man calling you up to say he needs $100 to buy gas for his car. Or he needs $50 to get some groceries!

There are many stories of rich and famous men who were dead broke and their wives supported them while they fought for their dream. Connor Mcgregor is a really good example of this and I applaud his wife for standing by him however, it is a major risk because some women waste years and years of their lives supporting a man who never achieves anything. It’s all about choices, any relationship you get into is a risk. You could get married to a financially stable man and it just doesn’t work out for whatever reason.

Life is complicated, I personally will never date a man who is flat broke again but at the end of the day, it all comes down to choices. What do you want in a man? What do you need in a man? It’s up to you.