Why Boredom Occurs in the Couple and How It Can Be Overcome

Why does boredom appear in the couple, why do the partners of a relationship sometimes find that they are stuck, that they have nothing new, nothing exciting, nothing exciting to do together? In short, in any couple after a longer or shorter period, a certain routine is installed, which offers stability. But the problem may be that the routine may be unsatisfactory for the couple's partners - who may want or look for something else.

Let's see why boredom occurs in couples:

Lack of perspective on the future.

In some relationships, partners do not share the same perspective on the future, the same long-term plans. They get stuck somehow in a certain stage of the relationship and it doesn't evolve. When you have long-term plans, the idea that you have so much to do in the future gives you a purpose, a motivation to continue, and enthusiasm for what will be.

For example, although they live in a routine, the partners of a couple looking in the same direction can be delighted, excited by the idea of ​​future changes: "what will it be like when we move together", "what will it be like when we have a baby" etc.

On the other hand, there are relationships in which partners live too long in the future and remain stuck in a trivial present: when they wake up living in lethargy, apathy and always aim for change, but postpone it: " it can't be like that anymore, tomorrow we will… ". But at the end of each day, they wake up together again in front of the TV…

The program.

Routine is dangerous when a monotonous schedule of daily activities has been established and a change occurs too rarely. Partners of couples who are used to staying at home doing the same mundane activities will get bored.

You need to go out at least on the weekends, to hang out with other people, to socialize - this way you will see each other not only in a safe environment but commonplace in the house. Don't be afraid of spontaneity and if a good idea comes to you, but you are tempted to say "maybe tomorrow, maybe next week", don't procrastinate!

Gestures.

Why boredom occurs in the couple - routine, it's clear! But this routine can refer to emotional aspects, to the lack of emotional needs. It is normal that in long-term couples, the partners are so accustomed and confident to each other, that the passion, the romance diminishes. But it is not normal when you end up being treated almost indifferently.

Since when have you not simply held yourself in your arms, since when have you not walked holding hands, how long has it been since you stopped saying "hello" to each other with a long kiss? Affective gestures ensure the fulfillment of emotional needs and maintain intimacy, communion between partners.

Communication.

Yes, after a while together, it seems to you that you know everything about the other and that you have nothing to talk about. But a person is in constant formation and new things happen during his lifelong development.

Just because you know everything about your past doesn't mean you have to get stuck in a communication block! Speak, by words you show that you care and you avoid that the other becomes indifferent - indifference and boredom intertwine perfectly to lead to an unsatisfactory relationship.

Separate time.

Well, there are plenty of reasons why boredom occurs in a couple: but this is an important one. At the beginning of the relationship, too few couples realize that although they are emotionally "one", in practice, they must remain "two"!

Because after a short period, too close, too long time spent together leads to boredom, banality, and even suffocation of one or both partners. In any couple, it is healthy to have separate periods: if you live together, at least one day a week.

Feeling subconscious?

Why is boredom in the couple? Sometimes, one of the partners has certain feelings (conscious or not) of failure and no longer works actively for the relationship, but lets it "launch".

Maybe you didn't find what you wanted from the relationship, maybe you have unmet needs, maybe your partner is not or is not what you wanted at the beginning of the relationship. In any case, acute dissatisfaction, conscious or not, causes the partners to stop working on their relationship.

Interest.

Boredom is a couple also occurs when partners no longer have an interest (including sexual) in each other. When they get bored hearing the other person talking. When they are no longer physically and sexually attracted to each other.

Therefore, apart from working on communication, it is important, no matter how much time you have together, to both take care of your physical appearance and not give up arranging for the other!

Sexual routine.

Also, be careful with your sexual routine: if you do not have the courage or desire to do something new from time to time, something passionate, something different, no matter how small, sexual dissatisfaction leads to problems in the whole relationship.

Lack of common interests.

A couple's partners don't have to be similar, but it is necessary that at the beginning or during the relationship, they look for and find certain interests, common activities, that they enjoy. It can be anything, as long as you can do it together and you will love it! A game, a sport

Your boredom.

Boredom in the couple sometimes occurs due not to the problems in the relationship, but the partners! If one or both are not satisfied with their own life, where are they from, if they are caught in a moment of apathy, the relationship will suffer. Maybe you feel dissatisfied and bored with your failure and bring that into the relationship!

Dependent/independent.

In any couple, after the initial period of romance and closeness, there is a period in which the partners should move away from a little, avoid addiction and follow their path in life! This refers to one's own spiritual, social, professional evolution.

But in some couples, a dependent partner, who wants and imposes a great closeness, stops the other from his evolution. And so boredom will appear: everyone has dreams and needs that they must fulfill outside the couple, and if it is hindered, boredom and dissatisfaction appear.

Expectations are too high.

Why is boredom in the couple? Because many of us have far too high expectations from the idea of ​​a couple, unrealistic expectations! At first, everything is so exciting that you think it will always be so… But time passes and the routine is installed…

And that quiet routine can betray your romantic and childhood dreams, it can disappoint you. You woke up in the real world, in a mature and stable relationship, while you were dreaming stories! And you're bored of it, you want to live a dream - which is impossible…

Movies and books that fill minds with romantic dreams, with stupid love stories don't help the situation anymore! The reality is different, sometimes trivial, sometimes cruel - but it can also be beautiful, as long as you don't dream constantly!