Why Are Older Men Refusing to Date Women Their Own Age?

Let’s say you’re a man in his late 30s, 40s, or 50s. You have a decent job, a car, and a house. Overall, you would be considered an average Joe. But women your age aren’t interested in average guys. They are either too busy with their careers or waiting for Mr. Perfect — you know, the stereotypical rich and handsome guy portrayed in movies.

Now, let’s say you’re a woman in her 20s or early 30s. Guys your age are either in college or living in their parent’s basement. They don’t have a car, nor do they have money to pay for romantic date nights. Some of them are only looking for fun, nothing serious and long-term.

Now imagine if these two people meet.

The older guy finds someone who appreciates him and does not see him as just average. In the younger woman’s eyes, he’s a guy who is put together, respectable, responsible, intelligent even, and is probably the best man she has ever dated in her entire life.

You can even go so far as saying that they’re a match made in heaven. Each has something that the other is looking for in a partner. In a lot of aspects, they complement each other well. He’s happy, and she’s happy.

The only reprehensible part of their relationship is their shocking age gap.

But Why Should Their Age Gap Matter?

You see, society — or at least the conservative-minded population — finds these types of relationships distasteful.

If you think about it, they’re not doing anything illegal. As far as everyone is concerned, they’re both consenting adults. They can think for themselves and freely choose whomever they want to date. Plus, it’s their lives and not ours. Who are we to stick our noses into their business?

But for the purpose of discussion, let’s put this type of relationship under a microscope and find out why they exist.

Reasons Why Older Men Prefer Younger Women

The safest answer that many would not criticize is – they’re in love. Well, that’s a given. Ideally, you should only enter a relationship if you’re in love with your partner. But we’re not here to talk about love. We’re here to talk about facts.

Feelings aside, here are a few good reasons why men are dating women half their age:

1. Because they can, and it’s not illegal.

...unless we’re talking about romantic liaisons between an older man and a minor — this is not only immoral, but it’s also against the law. Relationships that do not fall under that category are permissible.

So, whether they have a 10, 15, or 20 year age gap, it doesn’t matter. The most important thing is that the relationship is consensual and, of course, legal.

2. They have someone to show off to their peers.

Imagine being with someone who is clearly out of your league, appearance-wise. All of your friends will envy you. They are probably kicking themselves in disbelief. This, in turn, gives you an ego boost.

I’m not saying all men that go for younger women think like this. But a good number of them are probably using these women as trophy girlfriends – someone to parade around other people to entice jealousy and establish their status.

3. It makes them feel younger.

The younger the person is, the more energy they have. That said, if you’re an older guy who’s dating a younger woman, you’ll likely have a hard time keeping up with her fast-paced life. But it’s a challenge you’re willing to take on.

You’ll be forced to exercise and do things out of your comfort zone to keep her happy. At the same time, this adds excitement to your life. Soon enough, you start to forget your age and hang out with younger people. Next thing you know, you’re trekking to Machu Picchu with your 20-year-old girlfriend.

You no longer have arthritis because of the amount of regular physical activity you do together. You’re fitter more than ever. This is one of the wonders of having a girlfriend half your age – you become physically active.

4. Younger women take better care of themselves.

When you take better care of yourself, you end up feeling and looking better. Sure, you might have to pay for countless beauty clinic appointments, but look on the bright side, your partner makes a great effort to make herself look pretty for you. Don’t you prefer to be with someone who takes care of themselves over someone who has let themselves go? Who knows, it might even motivate you to take care of yourself and your appearance better. It’s a win-win situation.

5. Couples with significant age gaps are happier.

Countless behavioral studies and surveys say so. Couples with large age gaps reported higher satisfaction with their relationship. According to this study, younger women partnered with older men feel secure and happy in their relationship dynamic.

Another survey found that these couples seem to have greater trust and commitment with lower levels of jealousy than couples of the same age. Arguments are also less frequent. If they do have fights, they are able to solve it maturely – maybe because one of them is more mature than the other.

The point is, age-gap relationships might look revolting on the outside, but if you think about it – it makes a lot of sense. There are advantages to these kinds of romantic pairings. Ultimately, if these guys are happy, we should be happy for them too.

If you could date someone young and beautiful, you would jump at the opportunity without hesitation. It’s justifiable. Why should you settle when you can do so much better? Better yet…

…why should older men settle when they can do so much better?

If they can, why not?

Remember that life is too short to settle for less than you deserve.

If given the chance to meet, date, and marry a younger, fitter, and gorgeous foreign woman, take it! Who cares what others say? If you’re happy, that’s all that matters.